In some cases, if a guy tells a girl that he likes her, it will go well.
She will suddenly relax and won’t be as afraid of being rejected by him because he has let her know that he likes her.
So she can now start showing lots of interest in him and not have to worry so much about being rejected.
Cases like that are ideal scenarios.
All the guy has to do is say, “Hey, I like you” then the girl says, “I like you too” or she shows lots of interest and then they start kissing, or they go on a date and then they kiss, they have sex and they start a relationship.
Yet, in pretty much every other case if a guy says that he likes a girl in the wrong way or at the wrong time, she will play hard to get or even reject him.
So, what I’m going to do in this video is give you 4 examples of how to tell a girl that you like her in a way that causes her interest in you to increase and allows her to feel comfortable to show interest back in you.
The 4 examples will be the first time you meet her, on a first date, after you’ve known her for a while and if she prefers a guy who is a bit of a challenge.
The last one there is very important when it comes to certain attractive girls who don’t necessarily like it when a guy admits his feelings for her prior to kissing her or having sex with her.
Many attractive girls like to enjoy the thrill of the chase.
They like to feel as though they need to do something to impress you before you actually want to have sex or relationship with them.
You’re not immediately smitten and 100% interested in her just because of how she looks.
This often happens with attractive girls who, for most of their life, have been instantly liked by guys.
Guys immediately like her, immediately have feelings for her and in many cases, say that they like her and they want to have a relationship with her and so on.
Sometimes an attractive girl will go for that, but in many cases, she will want to find herself the type of relationship where she needs to impress the guy, she needs to make sure that she maintains his interest.
So, we’ll get to that example later in the video.
For now, here’s the first example of how to tell a girl that you like her when you first meet her.
1. How to tell a girl that you like her when you first meet her
So, say for example: You meet a girl at a party after work, at a bar or if you’re still at university you meet her at university.
You and her talking, you’re getting along, you’re having a laugh together and a few minutes into the conversation, you say something like this to her, “You’re cute, I like you” or, “I like you, you’re cute.”
By giving her a bit of a smile, looking her up and down and saying that she’s cute and you like her, it lets her know that you’re not just looking at her as a friend.
Yet, you’re also not being too serious about it and saying that you want to be her boyfriend, you want to take her out on a date or asking her if she’s looking for a boyfriend or something like that.
You’re just letting her know that you’re interacting with her, you’re finding her attractive and are not seeing her as just a friend.
Where a lot of guys go wrong is that when they’re interacting with a girl that they like and they’re getting along and having a laugh, they will then say something that confuses the girl and makes her think that he only sees her as a friend.
For example: A guy will be talking to a girl that he likes, they’ll be getting along and having a laugh and he’ll then say something like this, “You know? You’re really interesting to talk to you, I feel like we can really connect.”
Yet, when a guy says to a girl that she’s interesting to talk to and he feels like he can connect with her she doesn’t necessarily know that means he likes her in a sexual and romantic way.
Many girls are insecure and tend to overthink things when they’re talking to a guy that they like.
If he just says something like she’s interesting to talk to and he feels like he can connect with her, she may then begin to have insecure thoughts.
She may begin to think, “Well, what does he mean? Does it mean that I’m interesting to talk to, but I’m not pretty? Does he actually find me attractive? He said that we connect, does that mean that he feels we connect well as friends?”
That can cause her to worry about being rejected if she shows interest in him.
As a result, she may then begin to play hard to get or try to show him that she doesn’t see him as anything other than a friend.
If a guy then starts getting those signals from a woman, he may then think that she doesn’t like him and he’s going to get rejected if he shows any interest. So, the interaction can then become pretty awkward.
That’s why if you’re talking to a girl that you like for the first time and you want to let her know that you like her, it’s best to let her know that you like her in a way that is sexual.
It’s not about being sleazy and over the top about it where you say to her, “Oh, look at you, look at those tits, I’d like to bang you.”
Of course with some girls that can work, but with the majority of girls you need to be a bit more subtle about it, while also letting her know that you see her in a sexual way (i.e. you find her sexually attractive).
You’re not just talking to her as a friend, saying that you having a nice conversation with her and you’re getting along and you feel like you and her can connect and she’s interesting to talk to.
Instead, you’re saying something like this, “You’re cute, I like you.” (Watch video at the top of this page for the example of how I say it).
Saying it like that is almost as though you’re giving her your nod of approval.
You’re the sort of guy who could easily attract other girls.
You’re confident in yourself, you’re a cool guy and you’re saying to her that she’s cute and you like her.
She has gotten the nod of approval from a cool confident guy, which is a lot different than if a guy would say something like this, “Hey, you know, I wanted to tell you, I think you’re cute and I like you.”
That’s not coming from a cool confident guy, that’s coming from a guy who doubts himself, is nervous and is worried about what he’s about to say.
Whereas the guy who says something like this, “You’re cute, I like you” is giving her his nod of approval and she’s going to be much more excited and happy about finding out that a guy like that likes her.
The second example of how to tell a girl that you like is if you’re on a first date with her.
2. How to tell a girl that you like is if you’re on a first date with her
Imagine that you go on a first date with a girl that you really like.
When she arrives, you look at her and think, “Wow, she looks really pretty, she looks sexy, she looks beautiful.”
You’re looking at her and feeling very attracted to her in that moment.
Where a lot of guys go wrong is that they’ll say, “Oh, you look nice today. Oh, that’s a nice dress, where did you get the dress from? I like the color,” or “Your hair looks nice.”
Nice, nice, nice, whatever.
What’s actually going to go on between a man and a woman whether they have a casual sex, boyfriend and girlfriend or even husband and wife relationship is that there’s going to be sex involved.
It’s either going to be a sexual relationship or a sexual, romantic, committed relationship.
It’s not just going to be a nice non-sexual friendship. “Oh, that looks nice, where’d you get the dress from? That’s a nice color, that suits you.”
No, no, no.
She’s coming on a date with you and if she’s like most girls she’s insecure about her appearance and she also wants to be with the guy who genuinely looks at her as being physically attractive.
He really likes her and if they get into a relationship he’s not going to lose interest in her quickly.
He really does find her attractive.
So, if you go on a date with a girl that you like and she arrives looking sexy, you can let her know that you are finding her attractive by saying something like this.
“Wow, look at you. How am I going to be concentrating on the food and the conversation now when you’re in a dress like that? I’m not going to be able to concentrate, you look amazing.” (Say it with a smile, in a charming way. See video at the top of this page for example of how to say it).
Or something like this, “Wow, look at you, someone’s looking sexy today.”
Since most girls are insecure about their appearance and when they go to a date, have put in hours of effort to look good, hearing a flirtatious compliment from the guy that they like is such a relief.
It helps her to stop thinking that she needs to put on an act as though she doesn’t like him and try to play hard to get to make him show interest in her.
He’s already showing the type of interest that she wants him to have in her.
She’s not there to start a friendship, she’s there to start a sexual relationship whether that be casual sex, boyfriend and girlfriend or the type of relationship that eventually leads to a husband and wife relationship.
So, with any of those three relationship scenarios, she wants to know that the guy that she’s going to have sex with really does find her attractive.
The next example of how to tell a girl that you like is after you’ve known her for a while.
3. How to tell a girl that you like is after you’ve known her for a while
Where a lot of guys go wrong in a situation like that is to suddenly admit that they’ve had feelings for her all along.
In cases like that a girl then usually finds it difficult to trust the guy.
She begins to question his behavior and wonders why he hasn’t been truthful with her all along; why he’s just been acting like a friend and wanting to spend lots of time with her when in fact, he had a sexual and romantic interest in her.
Alternatively, a guy will say that he has feelings for her by sending her a card, a letter, a long text message or a message on social media.
If a girl really likes a guy and is hoping that he has feelings for her, that can work, but if a girl just sees a guy as a friend or doesn’t feel much attraction for him and he’s totally in love with her, then she’ll most likely tell him that they’re better off just being friends.
Alternatively, a guy might say that he doesn’t want to just be her friend anymore and wants to be her boyfriend.
Yet, if she isn’t sure that she wants to have a serious relationship with him at that point, she will most likely reject him or tell him that they’re better off being friends.
So, if you’ve known a girl for a while and you want to tell her that you like her, it’s best to tell her in a more relaxed and easygoing way, rather than how some guys do it, where they drop a bomb on her all of a sudden.
They suddenly admit that they have strong feelings for her and they’ve loved her all along.
They’ve imagined being her boyfriend and haven’t been able to stop thinking about her and ever since the first moment they met her.
They have had strong feelings for her, but they’re being too afraid to show it and all that sort of stuff.
That is way too dramatic, serious and even weird for some girls.
So, an example of telling her that you like her in a relaxed, easygoing way that isn’t going to make things awkward between you and her is when you’ve been talking, getting along and having a laugh together.
When you and her having a good laugh together, you can pause and say something like this to her, “You look cute when you laugh.”
She’ll most likely smile, feel flirted and assume that you’re just being nice and sweet with her.
You can then pull the rug out from under her and make her laugh and feel more attracted to you by adding in this, “Actually you look cute when you laugh, but you have a bit of a dorky smile.”
She will then almost certainly laugh and you can then say something like this, “Just kidding, your smile is cute too, but you’re still a dork.”
Since you’re being confident, being a bit of a challenge, making her laugh and making her feel girly in comparison to your masculinity by saying something like that, then she is going to feel attracted to you.
As a result, she’s going to be happy to hear that you like things about her because she’s feeling attracted to you in that moment and you’re telling her that she has a cute laugh or a cute smile and so on.
You’re telling her, in a subtle way, that you find her attractive.
Then, with a girl like that you’ve known for a while, you need to get things moving along between you and her.
So, don’t just stop at letting her know that you like something about her because she may feel insecure and worried that you just like her smile, or her laugh and you’re not actually interested in getting anything going between you and her.
After all, you’ve known her for a while and you haven’t asked her out, you haven’t made any moves on her, so what else is she to think?
Some girls who are confident will assume that you like them, but many girls are insecure.
So, you need to make sure that when you make her feel attracted in a moment like that (and she’s sensing that you do like her), you then get things moving along between you and her.
For example: If you and her are at a party, at a bar around other people that you know (e.g. coworkers), or at university around other people that you know, then you can say something like this to get things moving along between you and her, “Hey, by the way, we should catch up for a coffee, just you and me.”
Then, arrange to catch up with her the next day or a couple of days later and get an actual catch up going where it’s just you and her, so you can then initiate physical touch, kiss her and start an actual relationship.
Of course, if you and her are alone and you’ve made her feel attracted to you and let her know that you like something about her, then the next step is to start making some moves.
Initiate physical touch, initiate a kiss, have sex and start an actual relationship with her.
4. How to tell a girl that you like her if she prefers a guy who is a bit of a challenge
Say for example you’re talking to an attractive girl who is confident and likes a guy who is a bit of a challenge.
She doesn’t want a guy who is a pushover and immediately likes her, tries to impress her and hopes to get a chance with her.
Instead, she wants to be with the sort of guy who makes her feel the need to impress him.
She wants to feel like he keeps her on her toes around him just to impress him and make him like her, if she’s going to be able to get a chance with him.
So, if you’re talking to a girl like that and you ask her a question like, “So, who’s your favorite pop singer at the moment?” or, “What music are you into at the moment?” and she then answers, you can playfully challenge her in that moment by saying something like this.
“You didn’t just say that, did you? I liked you up until that point, you disappoint me girl.” (Said playfully).
Or something like this, “What? Who likes that music, lame.” (Said playfully).
You and her can then have a laugh together and of course, at some point you can tell her that you’re only joking, her taste in music is fine and maybe you and her can get together one day and listen to her crappy taste in music.
So, that sort of approach works well with girls who like a guy who is more of a challenge compared to a guy who meets her and immediately starts to say, “Oh, you know, I really like you, you’re different from other girls. You looking for a boyfriend? You want to go out sometime?” and so forth.
Many attractive girls want a guy who can make them feel like she needs to impress him, she needs to maintain his interest and that is exciting for her.
Whatever type of girl you’re interacting with though, just make sure that you keep things moving along between you and her.
Don’t just stop at making her feel attracted or letting her know that you like her.
You’ve got to at least get to a first kiss if you want to start an actual relationship with her.
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Knowing When You Should and Shouldn’t Say, “I Like You”
One final point that I want to make for you in this video, is that you don’t always have to tell a girl that you like her in order to get to a kiss, a date, sex or relationship.
It really depends on the kind of girl that she is.
Sometimes a girl does need to hear that a guy likes her or finds her attractive, before she feels comfortable enough to show her interest in him and begin to touch him and so on.
So, if you get the sense that the girl that you like needs to hear that you like her or find her attractive, before she will really open up and show interest in you, then go ahead and tell her that you like her, but just make sure that you do it in a way that makes her feel attracted to you.
Alternatively, make sure that you make her feel attracted to you prior to saying, “You’re cute. I like you” by being a bit of a challenge, making her laugh, flirting with her and so on.
Make sure that she’s feeling attracted to you so when you do tell her that you like her, she feels happy about that.
She feels excited that you and her feel the same way and she then wants something to happen between you and her.