As a man, life definitely feels much better when you are loved and wanted by women and you when you have a lot of great friends who love you, want to spend time with you, respect you and understand you.
Yet, when those things are present in your life, you may find yourself getting to the point where you say, “I feel depressed and lonely.”
So, what is the solution? How can you get yourself away from feeling depressed about your lack of success with women or your possible lack of great friends?
Well, that depends…
If you are feeling depressed and lonely because you’re not successful with women or don’t have enough great friends, it means that you are either:
- Not meeting enough women or giving yourself opportunities to meet people and make friends, or;
- Meeting enough women and trying to make friends, but women aren’t feeling attracted to you and people aren’t interested in being your friend.
So, let’s have a look at where you might be going wrong and what you need to do to turn your life around…
Do You Know How to Make Women Feel Attracted to You?
As I explain in the video below, the real reason why a lot of good guys fail with women is that they don’t actually know how to attract women.
For example: When you interact with a woman, you can actively make her feel attracted to you by displaying confidence, being charismatic, being charming, using humor, having a masculine vibe and many other things too.
So, if you are interacting with women and they aren’t feeling attracted, then you probably aren’t displaying those traits or you are displaying some of them, but you are also displaying traits that turn women off at the same time (e.g. nervousness, self-doubt, supressing your masculinity, being too nice, trying hard to impress, etc).
Do You Know How to Make People Want to Be Your Friend?
As a man, the way to make people want to be your friend is to:
- Love and accept them for who they are (i.e. don’t try to change people when talking to them, don’t expect them to change who they are to make you feel comfortable).
- Love and accept yourself who you are (i.e. understand and remember that you are a unique individual in this world and your unique, original personality is cool, valuable, worthy and loveable. Love yourself, appreciate yourself, embrace who you are).
- Don’t suppress your natural charisma (i.e. don’t put on an act, don’t doubt yourself, don’t hold back from being yourself).
- Have big goals/ambitions/dreams in life and work hard to achieve them (i.e. be someone who others can look up to and respect. Don’t hide from your true potential as a man).
If you can approach life in that way where you are confident, forward moving guy who loves himself, but also loves and accepts others, then you are the type of guy that people will love to be around.
However, if you just try to be liked by loving and accepting people for who they are, but you don’t actually love yourself (i.e. you have low self-esteem, doubt yourself, don’t think you are worthy, etc), then most people aren’t going to want to be your friend.
Think about the types of guys that you would love to be friends with and you will realize that they are more confident than you. They are also probably rising through the levels of their true potential as a man and going after their biggest dreams and ambitions in life.
Do You Know How to Be Happy as a Man?
As a man, you will be happy when you:
1. Embrace your destiny
We could argue all day and night if destiny or fate is real, but I think one thing is for sure: You have a purpose here in this life.
Whether than purpose is random or whether it is fate or destiny is open for debate, but you are important and there is something that you are here to do.
What I’ve found is that when a person (not just a man) stops fighting against the signs that they are getting from life and instead embraces the roles that they seem destined to play out, life is much more peaceful, happy and meaningful.
In other words, you know that you have something big that you dream about doing, being or achieving in this life. If you want to feel happy with yourself, you must stand up and start making progress towards the accomplishment of that dream.
If you hide away from it out of fear of failure or rejection, you will always feel depressed and down about you, your life and your place in this world.
Only you know what you really want to achieve in this life. No-one can tell you what that is. It has to come from deep within and has to be something that you really care about doing, achieving or being.
When you make progress towards that, you will naturally begin to feel happy and you will also be the sort of forward moving man that women feel attracted to and men want to be friends with.
2. Have your choice with women
Most guys never get taught how to attract women and grow up feeling clueless about how they are going to get women to like them.
Turn on a TV and you will be told that you have wear moisturiser, have six pack abs, drive a sports car and be a billionaire to get a hot girl. Watch a music video by a female pop artist and you will see her hooking up with male models. Watch a Hollywood movie and you will see nervous, awkward nice guys getting the girl by the end of the movie after saving the world.
Understanding what women want via the media will lead you down a path of confusion, insecurity and even depression. Yet, learn what women want from someone like me who worked out how to be happy as a man and you too will be happy and have your choice with women.
In the past, men didn’t have to worry about having their choice of women or knowing how to attract women. A man would be a virgin until marriage, get married and then stay with his wife for life, even if they weren’t happy because it was shameful to get divorced.
The world has changed beyond recognition and it’s no longer possible for a guy to hope that a woman will stay with him for life, even though he doesn’t know how to deepen (or even maintain) her feelings of love, respect and attraction for him over time in a relationship.
These days, you have to know how to attract women when you meet them so you can have your choice of women, but also because women no longer need to quickly settle down with one of the first guys they meet.
Women can have access to 1,000s of different guys via online dating and 100s of guys by going out every weekend to bars, clubs and parties. It’s easy for women to meet guys these days, so they don’t have settle for whatever they can get.
If you want to be happy as a man in today’s world, you’ve got to know how to attract women when you meet them, so you can have your choice of women. If you go through life never even knowing how to attract women, you will have to rely on hopefully getting lucky and then hoping that the woman doesn’t dump you, cheat on you or divorce you later on.
I know this all too well because it happened to me. I didn’t know how to attract women, but I got lucky with a girl who later cheated on me and dumped me because I didn’t even know what it took to maintain her attraction, respect and love in a relationship.
I also know this too well because I help new guys everyday who are in the process of getting an ex girlfriend, fiancé or wife back. In every case, the guy has been unable to deepen the woman’s feelings of love, respect and attraction for him and this isn’t because the guy lack intelligence, but that he lacks the education that is necessary for success with women in today’s world.
It’s not 1900 anymore. Today’s women make their own money and can sleep with whoever they want. If a woman isn’t happy in a relationship, she can leave and find a new guy.
So, if you want to be happy as a man in today’s world, at least make sure that you know how to attract women when you meet them and then deepen the attraction in a relationship. Otherwise, you will face a lot of initial rejection when meeting women and you will struggle to keep a relationship together.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use it to have your choice with women…
Are You Meeting Enough New, Single Women?
When a guy is feeling depressed and lonely, he will often say that he has tried to meet women, but none of them are single or that every great woman he meets is already taken.
Yes, many beautiful women are taken, but the reason why other guys are able to get new, hot girlfriends is that they keep meeting more women until they find some beautiful ones who are single.
Part of being a happy person is to focus on the positives and any little bit of progress that you make.
For example: If a guy goes out to approach women and only one of the hot women that he meets is single, he could walk away and think in a negative way, which would lead him to feel more depressed, or he could focus on the positive, which would maintain his happy, confident, forward moving state.
Negative thought: “See…all hot women are taken. What’s the point? I’ll never get a hot girlfriend.”
Positive thought: “Cool…I met one hot, single woman tonight. Next time I go out, I will hopefully meet another and this time around, I will make sure that I’ve improved my ability to attract women, so I will get a much better result.”
One of the main reasons why I was able to become successful with women so quickly, was that I refused to focus on the negatives. I used any bit of positive progress or sign to fuel my feelings of confidence, happiness and determination. Before long, I was having sex with hotties and the rest is history.
So, if you have found yourself saying, “I feel depressed and lonely” and you want to have more success with women, make sure that you are focussing on the positives and using that to fuel your feelings of happiness, confidence and determination to succeed.
Believe me, thinking in a positive, forward moving way leads to a much better life than focusing on any negatives you encounter.
What you need to realize is that you are a cool, unique individual. Your life does matter and you are the type of guy that women would love to be with. You’ve just got to start believing that and acting on that belief by feeling confident and going after what you want with women.