Yes and no.
Most women are turned off by shyness in men. However, there are some women who will accept a shy guy and put up with him for a while.
Some women will stick by a shy guy in a relationship or marriage, but most women won’t. When a woman gets tired of not being able to feel sexually attracted to her shy guy, she will usually break up with him, have an affair or cheat on him and then dump him.
I know this because I help new guys to get their ex back every day. In about 65% of the ex back cases I deal with, the guy lacks confidence in himself with women and either got lucky when he picked up his girlfriend or got married to a woman who secretly didn’t feel much attraction for him.
Four Types of Women Who Will Accept a Shy Guy
Generally speaking, the four types of women who will initially accept a shy guy are:
1. Anti-social women
As you may have seen throughout in your life, some shy guys are still able to get themselves a girlfriend. Often, the type of woman who accepts a shy guy will be going through a phase in her life where she hates society, can’t be bothered interacting with people and just wants to read books on philosophy, listen to music or watch TV.
Yet, as you may have also seen throughout your life, most people usually change as they mature, or when they start a new job or take on a new hobby and meet new friends. Anti-social people don’t always remain anti-social for life.
Just because a woman is currently going through an anti-social phase in her life and is currently willing to accept a shy guy who also hates socializing, it doesn’t mean that she won’t later learn to love being around other people.
When the formerly anti-social woman suddenly wants to attend BBQs or weekend cookouts with friends and go to parties, but her shy guy tries to hold her back from that, she will begin to resent him for it.
She will feel like they are growing apart and that she is holding him back in life. From there, the couple will usually begin to fight and the relationship may gradually fall apart.
I’ve seen more than 100 cases of that sort of thing with the guys that I help to get an ex back. The anti-social girl starts out accepting his shyness and social insecurity and then later feels attracted to a confident guy that she meets at work, at university or through friends.
She then cheats on the shy guy or just dumps him and gets right into a new relationship with the confident guy. The shy guy is then left worse off that when he first started. The break up causes him to lose even more confidence in himself around women, which makes him even less attractive to other women.
So, don’t bet on an anti-social woman putting up with your shyness for life, or for very long. In many cases, an anti-social woman will change and if you are still shy when she becomes confident, the relationship may begin to fall apart or she may act on her desire to be with a confident guy who is now more compatible with her.
2. Unattractive women
If a woman is unattractive and can’t seem to get confident guys interested in her initially or maintain their interest when in a relationship, she will eventually begin to feel drawn to shy guys who lack confidence.
The unattractive woman will feels safe with a shy guy because he will usually feel lucky to be getting a chance with pretty much any girl he meets. After all, most women aren’t attracted to him because he lacks confidence in himself, so he too gets to the point where he is willing to accept pretty much any half decent (or even unattractive) woman he meets.
When in a relationship, the shy guy won’t able to attract many other (or no) beautiful women because he lacks confidence, so the unattractive woman doesn’t have to worry so much about losing him. She knows that he will need her for his emotional security and that she has a higher chance of holding on to him compared to a confident guy who can easily attract other women.
Meanwhile, the shy guy will secretly continue to feel attracted to prettier, more beautiful women and when the initial novelty of having sex with his unattractive girlfriend has worn off, he will begin to feel like he is living a lie by being with her.
He may turn to porn, try to attract a new woman or put up with being in a relationship with a woman he isn’t attracted to because she pays half the rent or mortgage. Not a happy life to live!
3. Manipulative women
Another type of woman who will accept a shy guy over a confident, alpha male is an emotionally manipulative woman.
This type of woman will get a shy guy into a relationship and then keep him under control by regularly threatening to break up with him. Before allowing him the pleasure of kissing her for the first time, she might get him to take her out on several expensive dates.
Even then, she will make him work for it. He will have to be on his best behavior or else he won’t get any kisses or sex. She will essentially have him “under her thumb” and he will pretty much do whatever she wants to please her and hopefully stay in a relationship with her.
Yet, all of his good efforts really won’t matter to her.
She will take whatever she wants from the shy guy and then discard him when she finds a more confident guy who actually makes her feel attracted and respectful towards him.
After spending a few years helping new guys to get an ex girlfriend or wife back, I see a lot of cases that involve manipulative women.
Sometimes, I’ll be helping a guy who is trying to get a manipulative woman back and she will be making demands to him like, “Pay my rent and I’ll let you see me” or “Buy me an engagement ring and then I’ll think about it” and then she takes the rent or ring and she still continues to refuse to see him.
Other times, the guy will have been willingly doing those sorts of things prior to talking to me (without her even asking him to!), in the hope that it would get her to give him another chance.
Yet, it doesn’t.
A manipulative woman doesn’t respect guys who keep allowing themselves to be pushed around by her. He has to stop falling for her games and start being a stronger man.
What makes any woman give a guy another chance is when he makes her feel a renewed sense of respect, love and attraction for him. It might sound like paying for her rent and buying her gifts would accomplish that, but it doesn’t. In most cases, it makes the ex lose more respect for her guy because she sees that he is continuing to be emotionally manipulated and pushed around by her.
You can’t buy a woman’s sustained attraction for you, nor can you rely on a woman being nice to you for life just because you’re a good guy. If you don’t make a woman feel increasing amounts of love, respect and attraction for you in a relationship, it’s only natural that she will begin to lose interest over time.
For a relationship to be successful, you have to be able to deepen the feelings that you and her share. You can’t expect a woman to stick around because things were good in the beginning. It’s not the early 1900s where breaking up was shameful. Most women are not embarrassed to break up and move onto another guy if they don’t feel like they’ve found the right guy.
The start of a relationship is the easy part; pretty much anyone can do that. The part of a relationship that requires real knowledge and skill is in deepening the woman’s love, respect and attraction for you.
Too often, a shy guy will get into a relationship with a manipulative woman who will lead him on for months or even years, before eventually dumping him when she finds herself a replacement, when her girlfriends become single again and want to go out clubbing or when she feels like going on an overseas holiday to “find herself.”
Yeah, “find herself” in the arms of a confident man who will give her the emotionally attractive experience that she has been craving all along. Find herself with her legs up in the air, screaming, “Give it to me! Yes! Yes! Yes!”
I know, it sucks to think of a woman doing that behind a shy guy’s back, but think about this…
Guys who aren’t attracted to their woman often end up doing something pretty similar. Some men also cheat on women that they aren’t attracted to. It’s not only women who do it. A lack of love, respect and attraction means that a relationship can and often will fall apart.
As a man, if you want to avoid being cheated on, dumped or divorced in this life, you’ve got to know how to properly attract a woman when you meet her (this allows you to have your choice with women, so you can then choose a truly compatible woman) and then deepen her feelings of love, respect and attraction for you over time.
4. Casual dating women
You might be surprised to know that some women don’t really care if they have sex with you, get into a dating relationship and then break up with you.
It really doesn’t matter much at all to them.
To some women, that’s how life works and they see it as a completely normal and acceptable thing to do. Some women see a new relationship like trying on a new dress or pair of shoes. She will wear the dress or shoes until she is bored of it and she will then get something new.
Unfortunately, a lot of shy guys and guys who lack experience with women don’t know about that. So, when a shy guy meets the type of woman who is fine with casual dating, he will often get his hopes up and think that he’s just scored the love of his life. In many cases, the woman will be prettier than most (if not all) of the women he’s been able to attract before.
He will feel like he has hit the jackpot. To him, she is the one and wants her and only her. Yet, in her mind, it’s simply going to be a casual fling and she’ll then dump him when she’s in the mood for something new and more exciting.
If a woman is attractive and can have her choice of men, she will know that the shy guy isn’t the confident guy that she has been dreaming of meeting. She will know that she doesn’t have to settle for an emotionally weak or sensitive man.
However, since she is in the mood for a bit of love and affection from a shy guy who will most-likely pour his heart out to her and treat her like a princess for a while, she opens herself up to it.
Days, weeks or months into the relationship, the casual dating woman then turns around and says, “I don’t think we should see each other anymore. I initially thought I wanted a relationship, but now I know that I’m not ready for something as serious as this” or “I need space to find myself.”
A guy can get a woman back under those circumstances, (I’ve literally helped more than 100 guys to get that type of ex back), but he has to know how to make her feel really attracted to him. He has to fix shyness and social insecurity and rapidly become a more confident guy.
When his ex sees that he is rapidly becoming confident every day, she then starts to feel like she’s made a mistake by breaking up with him. She suddenly feels more attracted to him and she knows that other women will too.
She then opens herself back up to being with him and the relationship can continue on. Then, as long as he knows how to make her feel more respect, love and attraction for him as the relationship continues, there will no reason to break up again.
The casual dating woman will realize that she has found a guy who feels right for her (i.e. she wants to stop dating other guys and just be with him, fall further in love, maybe get engaged, get married and start a family, etc.) and she will then want to stay with him.
Of course, there is no guarantee of keeping a woman like her by his side for life (because she may not see a break up or divorce as a shameful, devastating thing for her), but at least he will now be in the position of power in the relationship.
If he wants to break up with her, he will be able to do so without fear. His confidence and ability to attract women will ensure that he can easily get a new woman.
After becoming a confident guy and interacting with women throughout his daily life, after a while, he will almost certainly have a number of women waiting in the wings and hoping that he breaks up with his current girl.
Shyness Isn’t the Secret to Success With Women
Often, when a guy asks me something like, “Is being shy a turn off for women?” he is secretly hoping that the answer will be, “No, of course not! Women love shy guys. They think shyness is so cute! Be shy! Weakness is great!”
Yes, imagine for a moment that the secret to success with women was about being a shy guy…
Imagine a world where the weaker men were, the more attractive they would be to women.
Guys would be extremely nervous, shy and wimpy around women because they’d know that it would turned women on. The more emotionally weak and vulnerable a guy was, the more women would like him.
Male politicians would go red in the face when giving a speech and then bow their head down in a shy, bashful way as they shyly passed the microphone to a woman. “Here, you say it…I’m too shy…I’m going to go out the back and cry.” The woman would then “be the man” and lead the way for him and humanity.
She would then approach him later on and say, “Hey sexy…I saw how scared you were before. I am completely wet. Bang me! Bang me you nervous wreck! Bang me you wimp!”
Single guys who were trying to get laid or get a girlfriend would need to go overboard to show their shyness to the point where they’d literally run and hide when a woman said “Hi.”
A woman would say “Hi” and the shy guy would scream, “Ahhh!!! A Woman! Ahhh!! I’m feeling so shy! I’m so embarrassed! I’m super insecure!!” and he’d then run away as fast as he could. The woman would then turn to her girlfriend and say, “Wow! Look how shy and afraid he is! Did you see that? He was so scared of me. I want him!”
That would be one weird world to live in.
Back to reality here…
In the real world that you live in, women don’t want you to be shy around them. Shyness doesn’t make her wet, it doesn’t make her melt and it doesn’t make her swoon. Shyness stops you from approaching women that you find attractive.
When a shy guy talks to a woman, she almost always doesn’t want to keep interacting with him because she doesn’t want to feel responsible for making him feel shy and insecure. She wants the awkwardness to end and often, rejecting the shy guy in a cold way is the only way she can end the interaction quickly enough.
Even though some women will accept a shy guy initially, almost all women are turned off by emotional weakness.
Whether she is a young girl or a mature woman, she wants you to be confident and emotionally strong, not insecure and weak. We live in a world that usually isn’t nice and easy all day and night. Life is challenging even at the best of times and women rely on us men to stand up and be strong for them, for ourselves and for the rest of humanity.
Humanity needs your strength, not your weakness. As a result, women feel naturally attracted to a man’s strength and turned off by his weakness.
Shyness isn’t something that is going to protect a woman or save the day. It is an emotional weakness that comes from a lack of understanding about how to be emotionally strong.
To overcome your unnecessary, unhelpful and unattractive shyness, you have to get rid of your social insecurities. When you do that, you will be confident. Look at these dictionary definitions and you will probably see that connection yourself.
Get rid of insecurities and you will be confident. When you are truly confident (not faking confidence or trying to feel confident, but truly confident), your shyness will go away. It’s as simple as that.
Shy (adjective): Being reserved. Having or showing nervousness or timidity in the company of other people.
Insecurity (noun): Lack of confidence or assurance; self-doubt.
Confidence (noun): Belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance.
If you are a shy, socially insecure guy, it simply means that you don’t know how to be confident right now.
Your shyness is not a permanent thing that you are stuck with no matter what.
Either no one has taught you how to be confident so far in your life, or you have suffered so many rejections and have had so many bad social experiences that you’ve become attached to the identity of being a shy, fearful guy around women or in social situations.
Yet, here’s the thing…
You are not weak.
Your true spirit within is powerful and you know it. You are stronger and more powerful than you give yourself credit for.
You simply need to learn how to tap into the infinite confidence within you and bring that to the forefront from now on. You have to stop adding fuel to the fire of your shyness and social insecurity and start adding fuel to the fire of your confidence and emotional strength.
Your strength is where you power is. Emotional weakness will never get you what you really want in life.
Yes, you might be able to still get a girlfriend while being a shy guy, but don’t count on her sticking with you life or for very long at all. Shyness isn’t sexually attractive.
Women don’t need or want your weakness.
Women (and the world for that matter) want and need you to be strong.
A woman wants to be able to rely on you to be the strong one, so she can relax into a more feminine role around you. She can cry when life gets tough, she can feel scared when watching a movie and she can cuddle into you and feel like is protected by your masculine confidence and emotional strength.
Feeling girly in response to your masculine confidence turns a woman on in a way that she will rarely, if ever, admit in public. It makes her wet, it makes her melt and it makes her want to open up and receive the guy. It’s a turn on.
Women crave the confidence of men, just like we men crave the beauty of women. We men feel intense attraction to a woman’s physical appearance and women feel intense attraction to our mental and emotional strength.
It’s just how nature works.
Sure, some women will put up with being with an emotional weak or sensitive man for a while, but secretly, she won’t feel much or any sexual attraction for him.
Think about it…
Just like when a guy is with an unattractive woman and spends a lot of time secretly wishing that he could be with a beautiful woman, a woman will secretly wish to be with a confident man if her guy is emotionally weak.
Why is it So Easy For Women?
If a woman is shy, most men are not turned off by it at all. In fact, most guys like a girl who is a bit shy because she will usually be easier to dominate in the bedroom and manage in a relationship.
Shyness can make her look more appealing, which is why many women put red or pink make up on their cheeks (otherwise known as “blush”) to attract men. Having red or pink make up on her cheeks makes the woman seem like she is shy and is blushing, which then attracts men to her because she looks like more of an easy target.
She gets approached more, hit on more and has more of a selection of men to choose from.
Yet, it doesn’t work that way for shy guys or guys who blush because women aren’t seeking the weakness of men. They are seeking our strength.
When a shy guy is single, he might say to himself, “Why is it so difficult to get a girlfriend? I just don’t have any luck with women. They’re so picky!” or he might say, “Women these days are all bitches. All they want is a bad boy who treats them like shit. I’m a nice guy and they reject me. It’s ridiculous.”
He might try to blame other things (e.g. his looks, lack of height, etc) for his lack of success with women, or say that the women in his town, city or country are too difficult to pick up.
Yet, as I explain this video, none of those things are the REAL reason why he is failing with women…
No matter how much a shy guy complains or attempts to console himself, nothing changes the fact that most women are turned off by emotional weakness. As a man, you have to understand and accept that women aren’t seeking our weakness. It’s not what gets them aroused.
Are You Man Enough For the Types of Women You Really Want?
When a woman first meets a guy or observes his body language from afar, she will instinctively analyze whether or not he is man enough to make her feel the way she really wants to feel.
Will he able to make her feel girly in response to his masculine confidence, or will she have to be gentle with him because he is so emotionally weak or sensitive?
Will she end up feeling like more of a friend, big sister or even mother figure to him, or will she feel like his woman? Will she be able to look up to him and respect him as a man?
Will she ever be able to truly surrender herself to him (body and mind) during sex, or will it just be boring sex where the only real sensation is the physical penetration and touch? Will he ever be able to penetrate her body and mind with his masculine power?
Since shyness is an emotional weakness, the idea of submitting (sexually) to less powerful force than herself just doesn’t feel right to most women. Most women secretly yearn to be with a guy who feels stronger than themselves, mentally and emotionally.
They want to open up and be penetrated by an emotionally strong man, not a weak, confused guy who is lost in his insecure thoughts.
By the way…
When I talk about strength, I’m not talking about physical strength or muscles; I’m talking about your emotional and mental strength.
In other words, are you the sort of guy who buckles under pressure when she tests you by poking you in an emotional weak spot, or do you remain calm, confident and in control no matter what?
Can you handle her pressure, or do you lack the emotional strength to remain strong? Can she rely on you to be strong now and in the future?
If your aim is to get a woman to have sex with you or want to be your girlfriend, you have to make her feel like a real woman. A big of making her feel that way is being out her girly feminine side by being a real man in her presence.
This exact same rule applies with young women or mature women. Girls and women are sexually attracted the strength in guys all across the world. It’s just how nature works.
It doesn’t matter what country you live in or what race you are from, you are a human and so is she. Human women seek the strength of human men. It turns them on like nothing else.
Two Common Mistakes That Shy Guys Make With Women
Since a shy guy lacks confidence, most of the women he meets won’t feel enough attraction for him to want to get into a relationship.
After experiencing a lot of rejection or being ignored by attractive women for most of his life, a shy guy may make one of the following mistakes…
Mistake #1 – Trying to get a woman to “like” him, rather than making her feel attracted to him.
Many shy guys will overcompensate for their lack of ability to attract women by trying very hard to be likeable.
For instance, he might be really nice to a girl and hope that she “gives him a chance,” or try to show a woman that he is a good, generous man who has a great job and can support her. He will give her the impression that he will do whatever she wants or buy her whatever she wants in return for getting to be her boyfriend.
Yet, that is a failing strategy.
Buying gifts or expensive dinners for a woman, being really nice to her and being a very courteous guy isn’t what makes her feel sexual attraction and desire.
It might get the woman to like him as a friend (or a manipulative woman to use him for a while), but it won’t make her feel any lasting sexual attraction or respect for him.
What a lot of guys don’t realize is that there is huge difference between a woman liking a guy and a woman feeling sexual attraction for him. According to the dictionary and Wikipedia respectively, the definition for each word is as follows:
Like (verb): To regard with favor; have a kindly or friendly feeling for.
Sexual attraction: Attraction on the basis of sexual desire.
If a woman likes a guy as a person or a friend, it doesn’t automatically mean she will ever be interested in having sex with him or being his girlfriend. What makes a woman want to have sex with a guy is sexual attraction, which can be sparked in more than 100 different ways during an interaction.
Watch this video to understand how it works…
Being a good, likeable guy is great, but if you want to enjoy your choice of women and maintain the attraction of a woman in a relationship, you have to be able to make a woman feel sexually attracted to the way you interact with her.
So, when you first meet a woman, don’t focus on trying to get her to like you; get her to feel attracted to you. When a woman feels a lot of attraction for you, she will then look at everything else about you in a more positive light.
Additionally, since you’re most-likely a good guy already (most shy guys are. I used to be a shy guy myself), she will end up falling in love with the fact that you’re not only making her feel intense attraction, but you’re also a great guy.
When a woman meets a guy who not only makes her feel a lot of attraction, but is also a good guy, it’s like hitting the dating jackpot. It’s the equivalent of a man meeting a beautiful, sexy woman who also has a sweet, loving personality.
Most guys wish they could get themselves a beautiful, sexy woman who has a sweet, loving personality and most women wish they could get a confident man who is also a good guy. You’re most-likely already a good guy, so all you need know is confidence and the ability to make women feel attracted to you when you interact with them and you’re set for life.
Mistake #2 – Being the good, reliable, helpful friend and waiting patiently in the friend zone.
Another common mistake that many shy guys make is putting on an act of just wanting to be friends with a woman.
Since the shy guy fears being rejected by her or is afraid to show her that he wants to have a sexual relationship with her, he will pretend to just want to be friends.
Secretly, he is hoping that, over time, he might be able to “grow on her” and she will then give him a chance to be with her. He focuses on being the best friend she could ever have and she happily welcomes all the attention, favors, gifts, compliments and kind gestures.
Yet, all it takes for him to be pushed aside is another guy to come along who knows how to make her feel sexually attracted and who is also confident enough to move in for a kiss and begin a sexual relationship with her.
The shy guy might have been her friend for months or years, but she will almost always leave him behind without even worrying about it. In her mind, he is just a friend, so there’s nothing to think about, but in his mind, she is “the one” so it is a devastating blow.
The shy guy might then see her behavior as mean, selfish, rude or even as a cold, brutal act of betrayal because he thought that the way to a woman’s heart was to be a nice friend to her.
All that time, he had been trying to show her that he respected her and was willing to wait, when all he had to do was make her feel sexually attracted and she would have immediately become interested in having a sexual relationship with him.
Unfortunately for shy guys, most women enjoy the convenience of having a shy guy in their life who is secretly in love with them (e.g. he will be a shoulder to cry on when she has problems in a relationship with another guy, he will do favors like help her move house, pay some of her rent when she is strapped for cash or drive her around so she can go shopping, etc.).
In most cases, the shy guy isn’t the man that she looks at as being “the one” for her. She might lead him on by saying that she does like him or that she wants to be with him, but isn’t ready for a relationship, such women are usually just being manipulative and using the shy guy. If she wanted to be with him she would. It’s pretty simple.
So, don’t try to be a woman’s friend in the hope that she will reward you with sex and loyalty.
You have to start a relationship with a woman based on her feeling attraction and respect for you as a guy. From there, you need to deepen her feelings of love, respect and attraction for you throughout the relationship.
If you don’t know how to actively keep the spark alive in a relationship, it will almost certainly die out and you will either have to continue on feeling miserable in an unhappy relationship or you will end up divorced or dumped after investing loads of time, money and energy into her and the relationship.
As a man, you need to know how to actively trigger feelings of sexual attraction inside of a woman when you meet her and when you’re in a relationship. It is the most important skill that a guy needs to have when it comes to success with women.
Watch this video for more info…
Being Held Back By Shyness
Being a shy, insecure guy is not something that you have to be stuck with for the rest of your life. You can break free of your shyness and unleash your powerful inner spirit onto the world around you. The world wants you to be strong and so do women.
You can be the confident guy that women feel sexually attracted to and men respect. You don’t have to let shyness and social insecurity maintain a strangle hold on your life and mind any longer.
You also don’t have to continue being the guy who waits in the background as other guys take all the hot women, while all you get is the empty feeling of blowing into a tissue after jerking off to porn.
You can have access to real, beautiful women.
In fact, you deserve it.
…and you probably know that.
You probably already realize that you’d be a much better boyfriend or husband than most of the guys you’ve seen women with. So, don’t let shyness hold you back anymore.
Build Up the Confidence to Approach and Talk to Women
When I built up the confidence to approach and talk to women, it automatically began to fix a lot of my social insecurities and shyness.
I began kissing women after minutes of meeting them, having sex with new women pretty much every weekend and I made loads of new friends. After a while, there was no reason to be shy anymore and I’ve been confident ever since.
Watch this video for some beginner tips to help you begin building up the confidence to approach women…
Overcoming your shyness won’t take you years to accomplish. Most guys who learn from me are confident within days or weeks, depending on how quickly they begin to use my techniques.
In my programs here at The Modern Man, you will find powerful confidence boosting techniques that you can use to become more confident right now. As a former shy guy myself (I actually suffered from social anxiety years ago), I can and will show you the way to confidence today.
If you are interested in becoming more confident, why waste another day of your precious life asking, “Is being shy a turn off to women?” and hoping that the answer is…
“No…women love shyness. Keep being weak and everything will be okay. You will be the guy who women take pity on like they do in the movies. Don’t worry about being confident. Just be emotionally weak and women will take care of you. Weakness is winning!”
Yet, you know very well what the truth is…
Being emotionally weak SUCKS.
Your lack of confidence with women ruins the moment for you at the worst possible times. When you want to approach a woman you find attractive, when you’re talking to a beautiful woman, when you’re on a date or even when you’re in the bedroom.
You hate the fact that you keep being held back by shyness and insecurity, but the question is: Are you willing to fix it?
Are you willing to become a stronger man?
Believe me, you CAN be stronger.
You really can.
Deep down, you know that your inner spirit is powerful. You are much stronger and more powerful than you probably realize. True, unstoppable social confidence is within your reach.
So, why even bother wasting another day or your life being held back by shyness and social insecurity when you can fix it right now? I’m here to help you make it all happen today and it is going to be a LOT easier than you might imagine.
I developed my techniques by first fixing my own confidence issues and then helping guys for years. This is what I do.
If you want to overcome your shyness and transform yourself into the powerful man that you know you can be, I am ready to help you right now.