If you could choose the ideal woman for a relationship, what would she be like as a person? What would she look like? How sexually satisfying would she be for you?
Would you prefer a “Plain Jane” type of woman that other guys wouldn’t ever want to hit on, or a beautiful woman that you are deeply attracted to and who would stick with you for life?
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So, if you could choose from the following three types of women, which would you choose for a long-term relationship?
Option 1: Plain Jane, Not Very Attractive, Low Sex Drive
She is a woman who is plain in most ways including her personality, looks and opinions on just about everything. At the end of a day, she’s usually too tired or stressed from work to be a sexy woman for her man and just wants to eat, watch TV and then go to sleep.
She has a very low sex drive and rarely, if ever, initiates sex. On the rare occasion that she wants to have sex, she basically just wants it to be over and done with as soon as possible.
While she might stick by her man for a long time, it’s not because she’s passionately in love with him and enjoys pleasing him sexually. She will stick around because she has nothing better to do, but will always be open to being seduced into an affair after enduring years of a boring, sexless relationship.
Option 2: Very Sexy, High Sex Drive, Doesn’t Care About Traditional Family Values, Marriage or Staying Loyal to Her Man
She is a woman who the man’s friends and family often mistake for a hooker because of her provocative and revealing attire, her slutty behavior and the fact that she “talks dirty” and swears like a drunken sailor no matter whom she’s speaking with.
This woman is not only sexually adventurous in the bedroom, but behaves in an overtly sexual way in public. If the sex ever gets boring, this woman will usually consider it to be perfectly normal to go off and have an affair behind her man’s back.
She doesn’t care if they’ve had children together and are now raising a family; if she wants out because she’s bored, she’ll just leave or have an affair to fulfill her sexual desires.
To her, family values are for “old people” and she just wants to have fun and enjoy herself. She may love her children and love her boyfriend or husband, but to her, love doesn’t mean only being with one person.
Option 3: Very Sexy, High Sex Drive, Cares About Traditional Family Values and Keeping a Relationship Together, Being Loyal, Honest and Good to Her Man
She is a lady when in public and a sex kitten in the bedroom. She can speak intelligently on a wide variety of topics and her man knows she won’t embarrass him when they’re out in public because she has great social skills and is a positive, respectful person.
Everyone she meets enjoys her company and, because she is beautiful, sexy, intelligent and down-to-earth, men are always flirting with her. However, when she’s in a relationship, she is completely loyal to her man and only flirts back with men in a friendly, non-sexual way.
She knows it would be extremely easy for her to have sex with the men who are interested in her, but doesn’t need that to feel good about herself. She knows she is sexy and has committed herself to a man who deserves her loyalty.
She will only flirt sexually with her man and will be loyal to him no matter who is trying to hit on her. Then, when they get home and hit the bedroom, she has the confidence to let loose and behave like a porn star for him or be sweet and innocent.
She is open and ready for any type of sex her guy tries with her and will do virtually anything he wants in and out of the bedroom.
If a man was to have a family with her, she will want to stick by him through good and bad times because she believes in traditional family values. She sees other women getting divorced and cheating on their man and knows that it is an easy option for her, but she wants to do the right thing by herself, her man and her family.
So, if you met those three RANDOM women next week, which would be your best choice for a relationship? Chances are, if you’re like most men, your choice is Option 3…and it should be!
If you get yourself a woman who fits the description of Woman #3, you will feel proud of yourself, remain attracted to her and be willing to do what it takes to make the relationship last a lifetime. However, if you accept less than a woman like her, you might be headed for…
The Big Mistake
Too many men make what I refer to as “The Big Mistake” by accepting basically any half-decent looking woman who shows them the slightest bit of interest.
They usually end up feeling unhappy in a sexless relationship or eventually hear the words, “I want a divorce” or “I need some space. I think we should take a break” or “I’m in love with someone else. It’s over between you and me” from their woman.
This is a big mistake for a guy to make because it usually ends up costing him a lot of time and money spent on a woman who he never truly wanted or loved. Instead of attracting a beautiful woman who was truly compatible with him, he accepted a woman who just wasn’t good enough for him.
In the past, a woman had to stick by her man for life even if she wasn’t happy in the relationship because it was shameful to get divorced.
Not anymore.
Women initiate approximately 66% of divorces because they are less inclined to put up with an unhappy marriage compared to women of previous generations. The percentage is even higher for college-educated couples with women initiating divorce 90% of the time.
If you’re one of the guys who has been thinking, “I’ll marry an educated girl and we’ll be happy together because we’ll both be intelligent and can connect on deep and meaningful topics and have intellectual discussions for the rest of our lives,” think again!
The only thing that keeps a relationship together these days is to first choose the right woman for you and then deepen her love, respect and attraction for you over time.
If you can’t attract women in person and don’t know how to deepen a woman’s love, respect and attraction for you over time, you can’t expect to be successful with women. You will most-likely get rejected by most women you approach and dumped by women when in a relationship.
Avoiding “The Big Mistake”
To avoid ending up with a woman you’re not attracted to, not in love with and regret ever meeting in the first place, you need to be able to attract women when you interact with them.
When you are able to trigger feelings of sexual attraction in most of the women you meet, you will then have your choice of women. You will have options and you will be able to choose the best woman out of the available options, compared to making the mistake of accepting any woman because you have no other options.
Imagine this…
You are walking through a steaming hot desert, you are thirsty and you are literally dying for a glass of water. Your mouth feels like sandpaper and is completely dry.
When you are feeling that desperate for a drink of water, would you reject water that was served to you in a dirty or cracked glass? Would you say, “Oh, no, sorry, I only drink Evian bottled water that has been chilled and served on ice in a tall, slim glass,”?
Probably not!
Almost every human being would say, “Please! Can I drink that glass of water! I’m really thirsty!” even though the glass is cracked or dirty.
The same principle of desperation applies to dating and relationships, which then often leads a gut to make “The Big Mistake.”
When you have no options with women because you don’t know how to attract them, it’s only natural that you may begin to lower your standards and be willing to accept women who aren’t what you truly want.
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I dunno dan, for some of us at least, having lots of option 2’s sounds like a lot of fun. Hahahaha.
Haha…yes, definitely good for a bit of fun. I wouldn’t start a family with a woman like that though!
Cheers
Dan
Dan, you are also very right on this one. I knew the difference between the several types of women but I was never able to break it down exactly like you have here. I know that I want a sexually satisfying woman for a long term partner but I also want a woman that is of good character and virtue. I suppose that this is what is referred to as a high-quality woman. Too many guys have a scarcity mentality and often end up marrying women incongruous to their personality and lifestyle. It’s a sad tale told too often in the modern era.
Thanks for clarifying it for me.
Hi Alan
You’re welcome mate.
Thanks for your positive feedback.
Cheers
Dan
hello bacon, tnx for the elightment, infact i need to look for money and buy ds product called the flow
Hi Muhammed
You’re welcome mate.
Great times are ahead for you if you get educated about all this area of your life. You can then avoid all the mistakes other guys make that lead to problems with their dating and love life with women. No guy wants to be dumped, cheated on or divorced by a woman he loves. If you approach your interaction, date and relationship with a woman correctly, she’ll never want to leave you.
Cheers
Dan
Keep it up Dan..During the year i loved the advice about how to stick to your roles as a Man. I also loved this article that you talk about going dirty in the bedroom and not to pretend to be a gentlement..To say the truth dirty lunguage and dirty sex are quite good..
Hey Patrick
You’re welcome mate. Thanks for the positive feedback.
Yes, it’s great to just let go and be a real man in the bedroom without holding back. Women love it when they see that you’re not worried about anything and are just doing whatever you want to them. I hope to hear about your success during the year!
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan great stuff,
i just wanted to say that you my man,
are a genius your products have completely changed my life.
I now have a super hot girlfriend who is so attracted to me it’s scary.
I mean she just doen’st want me to leave, sometimes she gets so jealous when i speak to other girls.
The thing is that she is what we here in South Africa call a (mwc) most wanted chick, and everywhere we go together guys always yell her name and confess their love for her as loud as possible, even older men. Sometimes they threaten to hurt me if i dont break up with her.
I love her very much, but these guys annoy me and her too, what should i do?.
Phomolo Tshaba, from South Africa.
Hi Phomolo
Nice success story!
About the jealous guys in your country: Yes, I get that with my girlfriend sometimes too – especially when she wears her tight, pink pants and little white top (photo here) and other sexy or revealing clothes like this. The way to react is just to smile, knowing that you have a hot GF and do not worry about other guys being competition for your girl. She is your girl and she wants you to know that.
About some guys threatening to hurt you: You are either hanging around really bad people, or you are behaving, moving and reacting like a lower-ranking male. No-one has ever threatened me. Period.
Cheers
Dan
I am currently with someone that seems to be a mix of all of these options but it seems she is somewhat of a bad mix. Is it possible to be a mix of the options? I’m thinking about breaking off the relationship.
She is attractive, sexy, outgoing, down to earth, fun, forgiving, has good family values, and dresses well.
But she is Plain Jane in the bedroom, low sex drive, loves attention (borders on being an attention whore), flirts a lot, has a foul mouth, and not good at keeping long term friends.
Hi Jay
Thanks for your question.
About her being a bit of an attention “whore,” check out this article for some more examples of types of women: Is She Hitting on You or Just Being Friendly? You girlfriend sounds like Example #2.
About whether or not to stay with her: It really depends on what you want from your relationship life. Personally speaking, I don’t a woman for a relationship unless she is everything I want because if she happens to get pregnant, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life regretting it! For casual sex and casual dating, I accept pretty women who may only have half of what I want “personality wise” and likewise for “character.” You probably need to answer these questions for yourself:
– If she got pregnant and we started a family, would it stay together?
– Would I want to have a family with her?
– What would life be like if we got married?
– Is she the type of women who secretly doesn’t care if she ends up divorced?
– What is her opinion on divorce?
– Am I okay with possibly being a single dad?
– Does she idolize celebrity women who are single moms?
– Am I ready to settle down now?
Cheers
Dan
I got option 3. Thanks to you Dan. I CHOSE her from among 3 other women I was seeing at the time. All were beautiful. All were highly sexed. 1 (an ex) wasnt so very traditional. Though oddly enough was the most open about rebuffing the guys hitting on her because she was hit on WAY more often because she OOZED sexuality. I chose my current girlfriend because we just clicked better. I’d read the flow and it’s like I just did everything right with my current girlfriend from the approach and word one all the way through sex and a committed relationship. (Incidentally my ex still contacts me sending me naked pics and naughty texts).
My current girlfriend is open to anything sexually and we do EVERYTHING at least 6 out of 7 nights. Whe have a toy box we add a sex toy to every 9th of every month commemorating the aniversary of our first time having sex. We play a game where whoever curses least gets oral first that night. OMG I’m just having so much fun.
My only problem was a poor mindset. But I’ve hittin past it with better than a bad boy. I’d still be jealous or threatened when other guys showed interest in or hit on my women. I mean I was dating FOUR women and afraid I’d loose one. Lol. I had to realize that all of them were hot. Other men SHOULD want them. But most importantly these women wanted me (and still do) for a REASON. it wasnt luck. I was being attractive so they were attracted. I APPROACHED them and the saw a MAN. I connected with them and confidently moved things forward to kisses and sex. I remained a man and remembered they were women and they went BONKERS. I also paid attention to HOW guys got on my women, if the guy wasnt aware I was with the girl just to see what they’d say. How they’d do it. These guys would snatch all the rope they could. Make a noose and hang themselves lol. My girlfriend told me the otherday. Geeze what’s the point if having a boyfriend if ur gonna wander off so I have to deal with idiots like that. Apparently a real man is hard to find. Knowing how to deepen the love, I just don’t worry about things like guys finding my women attractive. Guys are supposed to because I pick HOT CHICKS NOW. Thanks for everything Dan. All the very best to you.
Hey Jason
Interesting about your girlfriend saying that. My girlfriend said something a few weeks ago which I was surprised to hear coming from a woman, “Guys who tried to talk to me at (name of the club I met her at) often spoke like girls.” She didn’t know how to explain it further, but I understand exactly what she was saying.
Cheers
Dan
How guys HIT on NOT Got On lol
Hey Dan I don’t mean to clutter up your comment section. But this is just another thought about watching how other guys go about things. My current girlfriend is a friendly girl who is nice and open to most people she meets. Other guys sometimes mistake that for being interested in THEM. Not understanding flirting at first I thought she was just a hopeless flirt and encouraging guys. But she wasnt and doesn’t because she isn’t joking in a sexual manner with them. Just being nice. Occasionally she’ll come to me like “He’s a creeper!” When a guy suddenly falls in love with her because she said hi and asked how his day was.
My girlfriend turned to me the other day and was like what’s wrong with most guys. Why can’t they be more like you. Most guys look away and then try to peek at you when they think your not looking. Try to hide right in front of you in thin air. You make a simple polite conversation they go from hi to I want to be your boyfriend. It’s like they can’t tell when someone is just being nice.
So u don’t worry about this stuff. Other guys anymore. I mean I watch other guys watching me with my girlfriend and before that watching me with more than one beautiful girl in my life and I could see it written on their face. Like how does he do it. They have no idea what to do or how to do it. Thanks again Dan
Hey Jason
Yes, such realizations allow you to avoid feeling needy, protective, jealous of your GF. Eventually, you’ll see that your GF would rather cut off her right arm than replace you as a boyfriend. My girlfriend has literally said, “I will do anything you want” and other very specific verbal commitments, to ensure that I know she’s dedicated.
Enjoy the great times ahead!
Cheers
Dan
dan
I am in my third relationship with really hot woman since i been using this program in just 1 year.
I move on from a rocky relationship, and I am happy with my new girl,
she is kind of option 3 because she want to be in a comited relationship, she shows love, she respects herself a lot, she has many friends, she is extremely hot, and she has my kind of humour.
However she is posesive and jealous I mean if a girl writes something in my facebook wall she wants me to erase it, if I speak of a female friend she ask me if I like her and even if I say no she ask me as a favor to not speak with her anymore.
i think she is insecure because she always ask me things like:
1do you like me more than your job(which i love)?
2 if I have time without saying something niceto her, she ask me if I still like her?
3also she does not like that i have close female friends even though she has close masculine friends, telling me to stop speaking with them.
She is way better than my last gf, but she is acting rare for only 1 and a half months together.
I know she acts like that because she really like me, but I am getting frustrating.
my questions are:
1what do you think i should answer to her after her rare questions?
2you think I should break up?
Hi Pablo
Thanks for sharing your success so far.
About your question: Lol, she sounds like a handful. Yes, I threaten to break up with those type of women until they change. I’ve literally kicked women out of my house for behaving like that. They cry, call repeatedly and beg for a second chance. You then get better behavior from them.
BTW: She’s not a #3 woman. She’s a different type. There are 100s of types of women – this article demonstrated a few just to illustrate the point that #3 is what guys want, so don’t settle for less. If you do, you will experience problems.
Cheers
Dan
Man why do we have to learn so much and pratice and put this hard work?
Women have it so much easier, they just got to be hot and then they have “the power of choice” so to speak.
I just think it’s unfair mate..
Hi Tomas
Men are the ones who have the power, IF they know what they are doing. If you give women the power, they will happily take it. Most guys simply don’t know how to have power and control over this area of their life. I used to think women had it easy, but now I know that real men are the ones in control.
When you become the type of man that I teach in Better Than a Bad Boy, you will see that women are actually desperate to be with you. If you’re not that type of guy, then you’ll likely end up making this mistake.
Cheers
Dan
Pardon me but I have to disagree respectfully with Tomas. Although I do admit that sometimes it can be frustrating for some of us that these women are given special treatment, I have to say that I still feel lucky I was born a man. There are many reasons, aside from the obvious “bleeding-once-a-month” thing that most people can think of. After pondering about it a while, I’ve thought that in the end, society’s expectations on women can be quite unfair. They’re expected to be as competent as us in the corporate world and STILL be a good wife and mother. Us? We are not so frowned upon if we fail in other areas, as long as we’re good at what we do. If a girl doesn’t like someone she has to put him down gently otherwise people will think she’s a bitch. Us? Some of us even make fun of not-so-good-looking-girls that like us, and some of our guy friends will probably high-five us for doing so. Also, Society’s attitude towards sex. If a guy sleeps with tens or dozens of women, he is looked up to. For women? Most people will think she’s a slut.
Hey Walter
Thanks for your contribution.
Yes, the more you learn about this area, the more you realize how lucky you are to be born a man. I remember when I started bringing catwalk models back to my place for sex and I was living in a pretty crappy suburb, in a pretty old house. The girls did NOT complain one bit. I was shocked because I had been sucked into believing you had to be tall, dark, handsome, rich and driving a sportscar to pull a girl like that. I was driving an old Toyota Corolla! Lol…
We men have it easy because all we need to do is become confident and understand how to be a man around women and others. Women, on the other hand, are stuck and can’t do anything (other than plastic surgery) if they aren’t attractive. In fact, today I was out with my girlfriend and saw a hot, Russian girl. Then her boyfriend walked over and he was what many guys would say is “ugly.” Yet, his girlfriend was hot. Guys who don’t understand what we teach here at The Modern Man are simply living in a false reality. They think it’s about a guy’s looks, height, muscles, money, etc when the fact is it’s about his confidence and personality.
Thanks again for your contribution.
Cheers
Dan
Thanks man that explaines a lot, about what Tomas say, even though woman say an act like they want the control they have been influence by bad role model an media, but if you see history woman likes to be dominated.
Hi Pablo
Exactly. As Ben from The Modern Man always says, “Pay more attention to what a woman does and how she reacts to things, rather than what she says.”
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan,
I’m a young guy and would like to date older women. Do you have any advice on that? I work in an after school and there is this teacher I like. She is single with two kids. I feel like she doesn’t give me the time of day because I don’t make enough money/she doesn’t see me as mature enough for her. Can you help me out? Thanks
Hey Luis
Thanks for your question.
This article is for you: http://www.themodernman.com/dating/articles/attracting-women-older-younger.html
Cheers
Dan
My older brother made the mistake of choosing option 1 for just taking anything which he married an average looking woman who wasn’t good natured at all & caused a lot of problems for all of us, which caused my relationship with my brother to fall apart.
he was also disrespectful towards me & my mother. Now he’s stuck with that woman for like 13 years & has 2 kids.
I made an oath to myself I wouldn’t make the same mistake he did.
Hi Amrish
Unfortunately a lot of guys do that. It’s not surprising to me why so many people end up on anti-depressants, putting on weight (from eating bad food to try to makes themselves temporarily happy) and going through divorces. I hope to help as many men as I can, so they don’t make the same mistake your brother and millions of other men have made. I have a number of friends who made the same mistake before I had met them. They often say things like this to me, “Dan, I wish I had met you years ago and could live the type of life you have had with women. I just accepted her because I had no other options. I realize that now and I regret it because we rarely have sex, we argue all the time and I just wish I could get out of it but I can’t because we have kids…”
Don’t make the same mistake Amrish. Become a strong, confident man and CHOOSE your woman/women. Do not accept whatever you can get.
Cheers
Dan
I won’t make the same mistake my older made.
I will become a stronger man & have my choice of woman, never wil settle for second best or whatever I can get.
You will hear from me soon, you count on it! 🙂
Make it happen mate!
Waiting for the Amrish success story…
Cheers
Dan
Hey man, my question isn’t about choosing a sexually satisfying woman, but about status.
I have a few of your products, and I think they are great. For the last few years I’ve moved around a few times, studying courses at different places. Since last August I’ve been living at a Campus, studying at a rather isolated school. I tend to get high status at places, having an easy time making friends, etc.
This was also the case at the start of the Campus-life I’m now living.
I’ll try to keep it short.
Along the way thou, something changed. Several things added up to this I guess. I had a flirt with a good looking girl of real high status, which I then ended. Resulting in her talking bad of me behind my back. At this time I also quit drinking, focusing more on my diet (I take part in fitness competitions). Meaning I did no longer attend the weekend parties. Along with this I got into a relationship with a really nice girl, so when I wasn’t studying or working out I spent my time with her. I did no longer hang out as much with the rest of the students (a class of roughly 30 people).
Eventually things changed, my popularity sank through the floor. I heard I had been talked about quite a bit when not around, that people where tired of my arrogance. I’m now in weird position where people indirectly ignores me -when I initiate conversation they talk back and are really nice, because they wouldn’t dare to behave in any other way. I have a rather physically imposing figure. But if possible I’m avoided-.
I do still have high status among the students in other courses -I’m taking acting classes, which is done full time-, but among my fellow actors I have gotten the role of the bad guy. This might evetually ruin my relationship, a really hot girl also taking acting classes, which I got into while being very high status (this girl, previously popular, has lost status aswell for hanging out with me. She still has really strong feelings for me thou).
Do you have any tips for me? Anything I should do? My original plan was to do an add-on year at this school, but I’m not staying if this is going to be the way it is – then I’d love to study at some other place.
Hi Kim
Thanks for your question and congratulations on getting yourself a girlfriend.
About your question on status: That topic is explained in detail in The Flow. I explain social status, how to use it to get women attracted to you and to have people like and respect you. I also explain how to not take it too far, so you can enjoy the benefits of high social status, without ever being perceived as arrogant or unreachable. I recommend that you go back and read the section on status in The Flow http://store.themodernman.com/in/58e9e6c and re-learn how to fix the mistakes you’ve been making.
Being an alpha male isn’t about being out of touch with others. You’re someone that people look up to, but you’re also approachable and likeable. You’ve gone down the route of being an arrogant alpha male, which is not what we teach here at The Modern Man. I also recommend that you watch Alpha Male Power and learn how to more effectively handle your new level of confidence and control over social situations: http://store.themodernman.com/in/d2e92f
Cheers
Dan
Dan, how do i initiate sex in a relationship? I have a high sex drive and can want it even when she’s not not thinking about it. Should i just try or get her in the mood? Is it bad to have sex when she’s not fully in the mood it or should i just be confident that she will enjoy it? Thanks- Matt
Hey Matt
Thanks for your question.
Yes, if a woman isn’t fully in the mood and WANTING it from me, then she won’t GET it from me. Sex is something that you need to make her WANT from YOU, not the other way around. Watch The Modern Relationship for more info: http://store.themodernman.com/in/18c787c
Cheers
Dan
Hi dan, do you have sex with your girlfriend everyday if you see her?
Why?
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan,
Just to let you know, I have my choice with beautiful women, while all the other guys I know who dates these Plain Janes always tell me this, “Looks don’t matter, PERSONALITY is better” or “Beauty is only skin deep” or even this, “The fattest women ever is the nicest women on the planet” but then they end up breaking up in their Plane Jane relationships and complain everyday about it. I even have one friend who went through 2 divorces with ugly women whom he had kids with and has to pay over 900 dollars of child support each month due to this kind of life he’s living right now. my other friend said as soon as I said “I only go for beautiful sexy women”, he said “well fat women need love too” and they have half of those women go up to them or go after them because of them quotes I told you. thanks for giving all these advices of what women are Dan. and btw, I have a suggestion, mind if you make an article entitled “The Differences between what Beautiful women think vs. what Ugly women think” please? and also, I will always stick to beautiful women no matter what like a alpha male. 🙂
Hey Charles
Good to hear that you’re not settling for second best. It’s a much better way to live life.
About your suggestion for the article: What do you mean exactly? What are the differences that you are thinking of?
Cheers
Dan
Hey Dan,
About the article I’m suggesting, basically for some reason what I’ve been experiencing, I had Plain Jane friends(just friends) I used to hang with at school and most of them would tell all sorts of “Tall, Dark, and Handsome” guys that they were so interested in and never wanted an “ugly” guy because it wouldn’t “match” with those Plain Janes. but with beautiful women, I NEVER heard any of them saying any guy that “they like” that would prefer as “handsome” or “male model” or “rich” or anything like what ugly women would usually say. Can you understand what I’m saying here? btw, I could be wrong though but that’s why you’re here to figure out for me lol
Hi Charles
Cool, thanks for explaining. I understand what you mean now. In that case, it really depends on the woman. Not all ugly women say that and not all beautiful women don’t.
In any case, it’s just another reason why you really should worry about what women say about guys. Just approach attractive women, attract them, have sex (and/or a relationship) and enjoy life! 🙂
I will make a note of your point though and include it in a video somewhere down the line!
Cheers
Dan