There are 7 basic steps that you need to go through to get your ex back:

1. Understand the real reasons why she broke up with you.

In my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System, I explain the more than 70 possible reasons why a woman will break up with a guy.

If you are trying to get your ex back and you don’t know the real, subtle reasons why she has broken up with you, then you’re not going to be able to offer her what she really wants.

2. Fix your issues and improve yourself.

When a guy is trying to get an ex back, he usually needs to fix emotional issues (e.g. insecurity, commitment issues, neediness, clinginess, etc) and improve himself (e.g. be able to make his ex feel attracted to him in new and exciting ways that get her attention).

If you need help with that, I will guide you through the emotional transformation that will fix your issues and get you to a place where you are much more emotionally attractive to your ex. All of that advice, training and insight is provided in my program.

There is a total of 7 steps involved in properly getting your ex back and the remaining 5 steps are revealed in my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System.

I can’t reveal all the 7 steps here because that would be cheating me out of all the hard work that I’ve put in to developing my system over the past few years.

However, I can teach you the 3 step process that your ex would have gone through before breaking up with you and the 3 step process you need to guide her through on your way to getting her back…

I will also help you by explaining how to avoid some of the classic mistakes that guys make when trying to get an ex back…

Where Guys Go Wrong

I’ve helped more than 200 phone coaching clients to get an ex back, so I have heard all the stories and I know where guys mess up.

Here are some classic mistakes to avoid…

Texting the crap out of her

Bombarding ex with texts

You can’t get an ex back via text. Why?

If your ex currently has a negative perception of you, she’s usually going to look at your texts in a negative light or see them as annoying.

She’s not going to look at your carefully crafted text messages and say, “WOW! I need to get back with him ASAP!”

In most cases that I’ve dealt with, the guy has texted the absolute crap out of his ex, asking for forgiveness, trying to get her to remember the good old times and saying how much he misses her.

Some guys even try to be “friends” with their ex and text her like a friend would, in the hope that one day, if he just texts long enough, he will hit the mark and make her realize that he’s such a great guy.

Yet, it rarely, if ever, works. I’ve never had a client tell me that texting did anything other than make things worse.


A woman will almost always play a little bit harder to get than usual after a break up, especially if she knows that she’s in the power position because her ex really wants her back.

So, when she is being cold and distant via text, her ex will often make the mistake of trying harder to impress her, being desperate or losing confidence, all of which turns her off even more.

To avoid all the mind games, you’ve got to get to a phone call and then meet up with her in person, so you can attract her for real.

Using the No Contact Rule

A real man isn’t afraid to tell a woman that he loves her and wants her back. He doesn’t need to play games and go silent in the hope that she stops moving on and comes running back to him.

Instead, he simply says to her that he wants to catch up with her in person and when he does, he apologizes for his mistakes, tells her that he loves her and then makes her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him.

Steps to get ex girlfriend back

He knows that no matter what he says or does, he is still the man. He knows that he is more than good enough for her and if she doesn’t see that, he almost feels sorry for her.

Yet, you won’t get taught that if you cruise around online reading articles or watching videos about how to get an ex back.

99% of people giving advice will tell you to use the No Contact Rule and if she doesn’t come back, it wasn’t meant to be.

So frikken lame.

Yes, the No Contact Rule can sometimes work to get a lonely woman back, or a girl who doesn’t have much experience with relationships or a woman who hasn’t been able to find herself a good replacement.

However, for the remainder of women, they simply move on when their ex goes silent with the No Contact Rule.

As you will discover from the video above, it takes more than going silent to get an ex back. If you are serious about getting your ex back, you have to be prepared to go through real steps to get her back.

Hiding away and hoping that your “absences makes the heart grow fonder” is simply wishful, immature thinking.

If you want to get your ex back like a real man does, then call her up and get her to meet up with you in person.

Steps to get my ex back

At the meet up, make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you and get her to forgive your past mistakes. Get her to feel like she’s never felt in your presence before. That is how it’s done.

Trying to Get Her Back With Pity

Not knowing what else to do, some guys resort to begging, pleading, confessing their undying love and essentially saying to their ex that life is not worth living without her.

While that may work temporarily with very young women or unattractive women, most women just don’t fall for it. Why?

Women are naturally attracted to the emotional strength in men and turned off by the weakness. When your ex sees that you’re emotional weak, lost and confused without her, it doesn’t make her feel more respect and attraction for you.

Instead, it has the opposite effect and she ends up feeling as though if she gave you another chance, she would really be doing it for you, rather than for her.

To get an ex back, you have to make her feel as though it is a good thing for her, rather than a favor for you.

As you will discover from the video above, a big part of getting your ex back is making her feel the type of respect and attraction that will justify a decision to give you another chance.

If you don’t know how to make her have feelings for you again, you can’t expect to get her back. Without a strong, renewed sense of respect and attraction for you, any steps you try to take to get her back will be greeted with a “No.”

If you want her saying, “Yes” to meeting up with you and “Yes” to giving the relationship another chance, you’ve got to be able to trigger her feelings of respect and attraction for you on the phone (not via a text) and in person at a meet up. That is what counts.

Getting Her Back For Real

The best steps to get your ex back have a lot to do with you becoming an even better man than you are right now.

This means identifying your mistakes (e.g. insecurity, commitment issues, lack of purpose in life, lack of ability to keep the spark alive between you, etc) and taking appropriate action to ensure you that won’t make those mistakes around her or in life again.

Steps to get an ex girlfriend back

You’ve got to be prepared to go through a rapid transformation process that will make you a stronger, more attractive, charismatic and appealing version of yourself than you are right now.

If you aren’t prepared to do that, any steps that you take to get your ex back will usually result in rejection. I know this because I’ve personally helped more than 200 guys via my phone coaching service and I’ve found that women only respond positively when a guy has already been able to change.

Steps that actually get an ex back

When you change the way that she feels about you, she then changes the way that she thinks about the relationship and break up.

When you then make her feel respect and attraction for you in new and exciting ways, she is much more likely to say, “Yes” to giving the relationship another chance.

Want Her Back FAST?

Watch a secret video by Dan Bacon where he reveals the fastest way to get your ex back.

It's only available here. Enter your email below to watch the video for FREE right now.

Yes, I want free tips via email from Dan Bacon. I can unsubscribe at anytime with a click. Privacy policy.