If your ex girlfriend (fiancé or wife) is already dating someone else after right breaking up with you, it doesn’t mean that you can’t get her back.
It may take some time for your ex to lose interest in the guy if you don’t do anything about it because 65% of rebound relationships (a rebound relationship is the relationship a person has immediately after breaking up another long term relationship) end within 6 months.
He might just be using her and will break up with her in a couple of months, or he might end up turning her off and getting dumped.
If you don’t want to wait that long, you need to get stuck into fixing your issues (i.e. insecurity) and improving the things about you that caused her to lose respect, attraction and love for you.
Watch this video to understand the process that your ex likely went though before breaking up with you and the process you need to guide her through to get her back…
If she is already dating someone else, she usually won’t just drop everything with him and come running back to you on her own. So, what you need to do is get yourself ready to get on a phone call with her, get her to agree to meet up with you in person and then re-attract her at the meet up.
Watch this video to understand why a lot of guys fail when trying to get an ex back and what you need to do instead to ensure that you succeed in getting another chance with her…
As you will discover from the video above, your ex is only going to care that you want her back when you can make her feel the type of respect and attraction that she will need to feel to justify breaking it off with him and giving you another shot.
It is possible to do (I’ve heard back from 100s of guys with success stories in this type of situation), but you have to be prepared to put in some effort to improve your ability to make her feel the type of respect and attraction that she wants to experience with you.
The Shock of Finding Out That She is Moving On
What can be shocking for a guy after a break up is to realize that even before the dust has settled, his ex is already dating someone else. This can be upsetting to a guy for several reasons.
- Still in love with her and is hoping for a chance to get her back before she falls in love with the new guy and loses interest in the love that they once shared together.
- Wondering if she was already cheating on him or flirting with that guy before she broke up with him. If so, he feels betrayed by her and worried that he won’t be able to keep her or another woman faithful in a relationship.
- He is finding it difficult to meet a new woman because other women just don’t make him feel the same way as his ex does.
Whatever you are feeling about your ex right now, the fact is that you are at a crossroads in your life.
You can either:
- Sit around moping and feeling unworthy of the love of women (including your ex).
- Move on from her by hooking up with new, beautiful women.
- Do what is required to get her back and then make the relationship even better than it was before.
Getting dumped by a woman can be one of the best opportunities for you to ride that wave of motivation to get her back and use it to fuel your desire to become an even better man that you are right now.
If you are serious about getting another chance with her, use that desire to focus on rapidly transforming yourself into the type of guy that not only she will feel attracted to, but most other women will too.
Attracting women is a skill that can be learned. If a guy lacks the ability to make a woman feel a lot of attraction for his personality, confidence and vibe when he interacts with her, he will always struggle to pick up new women or keep a woman feel attracted when in a relationship.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works…
As you will discover from the video above, you can actually make yourself appear more attractive than the new guy that your ex is now dating.
When you talk to her on the phone or meet up with her in person, she is going to feel more attracted to you if you are more charismatic, masculine and confident than he is in terms of how you think, behave and act around her.
She will contrast you against him and if you suddenly seem more appealing, she will more open to hooking up with you again and giving the relationship another chance. At the very least, she will become more open to seeing you again and taking it slow.
Decide What You Really Want With Her
The first question that you really have to ask yourself is, “Why do I care that my ex is already dating someone else?”
Is it because your confidence with women has taken a hit and you’re feeling a hurt that she has been able to get over you so quickly? Do you really think that she is the girl for you, or are you just trying to get some emotional revenge by getting her back and then dumping her when you are ready?
You can do whatever you want, but have a think about why you’re ready doing it.
If you don’t care about her and are secretly intending to move on once you get her back, you might find it easier to just begin hooking up with new, beautiful women (who you find more attractive than her) and that will automatically fix your confidence issues with women.
On the other hand, if you care that your ex is dating someone else because you are still in love with her and want to give the relationship another chance, then you should take action to get her back.
The new guy she is dating might make her feel excited and happy for a while, but if he lacks the fundamental attractive qualities that women look for in a long term companion, she’s going to gradually lose interest in him.
Right now, she might seem to be really happy with the new guy and may have even said that. However, don’t let that put you off.
As long as you are making her feel attracted when you interact with her on the phone or in person, she will feel more attraction for you if she sees that you are confident and unashamed in going after what you want.
She will be impressed that you have the balls to say, “I’m glad you’re happy with the new guy, but I’m not going to hide the fact that I want you back. I love you and I hope that we can have another chance to be together one day. “
Important: She will only be impressed by that if you’ve already gotten her respect back and have been making her feel attracted to you by the way that you come across over the phone and in person.
If your ex feels nothing for you at the moment and you say something like that to her, she’s not going to say, “Wow! He loves me so much – I should go back to him!”
However, if you’ve been making her feel attracted to you and you say that, she will then think, “Hmmm…I guess I do feel differently about him now…I’m not sure what to do.”
At that point, she will more likely to say, “Yes” when you ask her to catch up with you in person for a quick meet up to say hi. At the meet up, you can then get her respect back, make her feel more attraction and move towards a hug, kiss, sex and then begin seeing each other again.
If you want to learn what to say and do at each step of that process, I recommend that you watch my awesome, proven to work program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
Getting Her Back
Although getting her back might seem impossible to you right now because she is is already dating someone else, if you are prepared to do what it takes, it is entirely possible to get her to dump her new boyfriend and come back to you.
If that is what you want to achieve, here are 3 important things you should do as soon as possible:
1. Understand what caused her to break up with you.
In most cases, a woman will only break up with her man when he stops making her feel the way she wants to feel.
She might put up with feeling horrible for a while, but if it goes on for too long and he ignores her hints that she’s feeling unhappy, she will eventually pull the pin and break up with him.
For example: If a man continues to neglect his woman or place her needs last or close to last, she will eventually get tired of being treated that way. Some women will put up with that if a guy is very attractive and appealing in other ways, but most women can’t stand being treated like that forever.
Likewise, if a man becomes too clingy and jealous and tries to control or suppress her, she will naturally lose attraction and respect for him and she will look for ways to let him know.
However, despite the seemingly obvious problems with the relationship, a woman will rarely come out and say what’s really bothering her.
Instead, she might begin to nag and complain by saying things like, “You’re so lazy, you never help around the house,” or “You’re always hanging out with your friends playing those stupid video games! Why don’t you grow up?” etc.
This is her way of saying “I feel like you’re taking me for granted” or “You’re neglecting me and you’re making me feel like I have to be the one who has to take the lead and be the grown up in the relationship.”
Alternatively, she may start opening herself up to meeting and hooking up with a new guy who can make her feel the way she wants to feel. She might feel like it’s not worth the effort to nag and complain because her man clearly doesn’t have much of an idea on how to make her feel the way she really wants to feel.
So, before you can get your ex back you have to understand the real reasons that caused her to lose love and attraction for you. By understanding the true cause of her unhappiness, you can then change those exact things and become the type of man she really wishes you would be.
When you contact her and see her in person, she will be able to pick up on the fact that you really have changed in the ways that are the most important to her.
2. Fix your issues and improve yourself.
A common mistake that guys make is when they realize what they did wrong in a relationship, they then rush to get in touch with their ex and make promises to change if she comes back.
Saying, “I now know what I did wrong. If you come back to me I promise to change” is only going to push her closer to the guy she is now dating.
By telling her you WILL change you’re showing her that you still haven’t fully understood her needs and now that she’s already got a new man who is, at least for the moment, giving her what she needs, why should she give up the ‘sure thing” for a promise that might never be kept?
If, on the other hand, you put in some effort to fix your issues (e.g. insecurity, commitment issues, neediness, etc) before you contact her, you will be making it easier for her to connect with the old feelings of love and respect that she once had for you.
By seeing a new and improved version of you, it’s only natural that her negative emotions towards you will change and she will open up to the idea of being with you again.
3. Get her on the phone to arrange a meet up.
These days, a lot of guys waste too much time and energy hiding behind text messages to women. This applies to guys who are trying to get dates with new women and guys who are trying to get an ex back.
When a woman has broken up with you and has told you she hates you or not to bother her, it’s because she perceives you as being needy and desperate. So, if you text her for any other reason than to get her on the phone to arrange a meet up, she will simply assume you’re still being needy and annoying and she will ignore you. Why?
According to many studies conducted by social scientists and psychologists, most of the communication between two humans is comprised of body language and tonality.
So, when you send a text to your ex, because she can’t see your body language or hear your tonality, she has to guess at how you’re really feeling when you’re texting her.
If she has a low opinion of you at the moment, she will usually guess that you’re being an insecure, needy guy who can’t deal with the fact that she’s already dating someone else…and she will then feel even more repelled by you.
So, don’t waste time texting your ex! The only time you should text her is to get her on the phone so that you can make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
When you make her feel that (which is 100x times easier to do on a phone call than via text), she will then more likely to say, “Yes” to meeting up with you in person.
Dealing With the Pain of Losing Her
It can really hurt a guy’s self-esteem and feelings of self-worth when he finds out that the woman he loves is already dating someone else.
Part of the reason it hurts so much is that it can make you feel insecure about yourself as a man and your ability to attract new, quality women.
For example, a guy may ask himself:
- How could she move on so quickly after we broke up?
- Did she ever truly love me?
- Was that real love or was she just with me because it was convenient for a while?
- What if other women don’t feel attracted to me after the initial buzz of a new relationship wears off? Will they break up with me too?
- Will I get rejected when I approach new women and how will that make me feel? Will I feel even worse and end up avoid women for years while I try to get over my ex?
- What if my ex thinks that I’m a loser and laughs at me because I can’t get another woman while she’s already found another guy?
These types of questions (and more) can be going through a guy’s mind if his confidence has taken a dent after being dumped by his girl.
How about you? How are you feeling about not having your ex in your life? Do you feel like you are good enough for her or other hot women?
Here’s the thing…
A big part of getting your ex back and attracting new women is having confidence in your sex appeal. You’ve got to know that you’re more than good enough for your ex and other hot women and if you don’t have that type of confidence, you need to begin building it up.
Are You Ready to Take the Next Step in Your Journey?
Whether you decide to get your ex back or find yourself a better, hotter woman; building up your confidence and improving your ability to attract women is the key.
This is a great opportunity for you to become the type of man that you’ve always wanted to be around women and your ex.
Rather than saying, “My ex is already dating someone else” and feeling like all hope is lost, decide to get motivated and start taking the action required to begin your new and improved life as a man.