Different things pleasure women at different times of the dating and relationship process and in this post, I’m going to explain how to please a woman:
- When you meet her for the first time.
- When you’re on a first date with her.
- When you’re having sex with her.
- When you’re in a relationship with her.
1. When You Meet Her For the First Time
Here are some examples of things that pleasure women when you meet them for the first time.
- Make her feel feminine and girly in comparison to your masculinity, rather than making her feel neutral (like a friend) or more dominant and masculine than you.
- Make her laugh and smile as she talks with you by being relaxed and confident, rather than making her feel tense and awkward in response to your nervousness and anxiety.
- Allow her to express her true personality by making her feel loved and accepted for who she really is, rather than making her feel as though she has to put on an act (e.g. of being more polite or conservative than she really is) around you.
- Give her the gift of being a challenge to win over, rather than becoming super keen on her immediately even though you haven’t done much or anything to make her feel attracted to you.
Regarding the last example above (being a challenge), watch this video to understand why most beautiful women wish that they could meet a guy who knows how to make her feel attracted while also being a bit of a challenge to win over…
As you will discover from the video above, most guys don’t allow women to feel the pleasure of scoring themselves a guy who isn’t as easy and desperate as 95% of the other men she meets.
For example: A typical guy will immediately show (via his body language, conversation style, attitude, vibe, etc) that he is very attracted to her and is hoping to get a chance with her.
He doesn’t realize that she wishes that she could meet a guy who makes her feel attracted and then gives her the gift of hoping to get a chance with him.
Alternatively, he might hide behind nice, polite conversation because he thinks that making a woman feel sexually attracted and getting her to kiss and have sex fairly quickly is wrong.
He believes that all women should be treated like innocent princesses or virgin ladies from 1900 who only had sex after marriage, because he doesn’t realize that pretty much everyone is having sex very quickly these days.
For example: A study in the USA found that 55% of couples had sex on their first date, a European study found that 70% of women admitting having a one night stand and 48% of British women also admitted to having had a one night stand.
In other words, sex is happening all the time and very quickly these days. Women don’t expect men to take them out on 5, 10 or 20 dates before sex happens.
So, when a guy talks to a woman and doesn’t make her feel sexually attracted and turned on during the first interaction, most women feel like he’s just another boring, outdated guy who doesn’t understand how the modern dating scene works.
How does it work?
Make the woman feel attracted to you > Test how you feel about each other with kissing and sex > Decide to have a relationship or not.
Most women won’t ever admit that openly, but that is what they have been doing more more than a decade now. It’s how things work in today’s world.
So, all a guy really needs to do is make a woman feel attracted and turned on and then guide her to kissing and sex. After that, both he and her will decide whether or not they want to continue on together or not.
That might sound slutty or wrong, but it’s just how things work now because women no longer have to remain a virgin before marriage and they also don’t have to rush to find a man who can support them, because they can make their own money, pay their own rent or mortgage and take care of themselves.
Watch this video to understand more how a woman’s attraction works and how you use it to quickly and easily begin new relationships…
When you first meet a woman, the most important pleasure you need to give her if the gift of sexual attraction.
If your approach to her only makes her feel neutral or friendly feelings, then she’s not going to want to have sex with you or be your girlfriend based on how nice you are being towards her.
Sexual attraction always has to come first and once that is established, a woman will find pleasure in doing even the most simple, ordinary things with you because she will be excited by the attraction.
Yet, most guys try to skip the step of sexual attraction and just be liked for being a nice guy, which is one of the 3 things that beautiful women hate about most single men…
As you will discover from the video above, it’s very easy for a woman to initially attract men for sex or a relationship because if she is beautiful, or even just fairly attractive, most men will be willing to overlook certain “bad” qualities she might have just to get to have sex with her.
All a woman really needs to do is look good enough and most guys will want to have sex with her, so it’s very easy for her to attract guys for sex.
This is where a lot of guys get confused about attraction as well.
Mot guys assume that women select guys based on looks. So, when a guy isn’t getting laid or can’t attract a girlfriend, he will usually think, “It’s because I’m not good looking enough.”
However, what he doesn’t realize is that most women are more attracted to how a guy’s personality and behavior makes her feel (e.g. based on his confidence, charisma, masculine vibe, etc).
When he meets a woman, he hopes that she will feel enough pleasure based on his physical appearance and will want to have sex with him because he’s also a nice guy.
Yet, when that doesn’t work, he will then begin to wonder, “Why else could women be rejecting me?” or, “Why am I so attracted to women, but they aren’t attracted to me?”
It’s confusing for guys who don’t know how a woman’s attraction for a man works because if you listen to the media, you will be told that it’s all about looks, money, six pack abs and having a huge dick.
Yet, in the real world, most women are willing to have sex with a guy who isn’t good looking, rich, in shape or packing a huge trunk in his pants.
Watch this video to understand some of the excuses that guys use for their lack of ability to pleasure women…and then what the real problem actually is…
2. When You’re on a First Date With Her
Unlike in the past where sex before marriage was forbidden, today’s woman is free to do whatever she wants.
This means that sex on the first date is quite common (e.g. a study in the USA found that 55% of couples had sex on their first date).
However, sex is not going to happen just because a guy takes a woman out to a nice expensive restaurant and buys her an expensive dinner.
That’s not how it works.
For a woman to want to have sex with a guy, she needs to feel turned on to the point where she can’t wait to get the “date” over so that she can be alone and naked with him.
To pleasure a woman on a first date, a guy needs to:
1. Build up the sexual tension between him and her to boiling point.
Sexual tension is created when a man and a woman feel a lot of sexual attraction for each other, but they avoid escalating to sex right away (e.g. because they work together, are on a date, are already in a relationship with someone else that they plan on leaving, etc).
The attraction is there, but because they aren’t releasing it with kissing and sex, it keeps building up until they are constantly thinking about having sex with each other. It’s a very pleasurable experience for both men and woman.
For a woman, being so turned on by a man that she can barely stop herself kissing him, hugging him, touching him or groping him is what gives her the most pleasure on a first date.
This doesn’t mean that the entire date needs to be sexual or that you even need to talk about sex. You simply need to create a sexual vibe between you and her and just let that tension build up.
For example: Near the end of the date, suggest going back to your place or to hers to “hang out” and then smile and say in a confident, relaxed manner, “It’s not about us having sex, but it would be nice to maybe have one kiss on the couch before you leave.”
If a woman is really attracted to you and she feels as though you’re only going to want to have one kiss on the couch before she leaves, she will feel the excitement of the sexual tension building.
In her mind, she will be thinking, “Well, maybe I do want to have sex…! I don’t know if I just want to kiss him. I guess I’ll just see what happens!” and it will be exciting for her.
She will want to make you feel turned on when you kiss on the couch and in the process of doing that, she will turn herself on and will actually want to have sex so much more.
2. Release the tension with kissing and then sex.
Although building sexual tension is important, you have to then release it with kissing and sex at some point. You can’t just keep building it up forever and expect her to keep waiting for you to make a move.
If you build up the sexual tension between yourself and a woman, you have to take things to the next level of at least kissing or she will assume that you’re either too scared to take things further or aren’t even fully interested in her.
If a guy doesn’t make a move soon enough, a woman will often release her built up sexual tension with another guy who is more confident and willing to quickly move to a kiss and then to sex.
So, don’t waste too much time building up sexual tension. Build it up and then release it with kissing and then sex.
3. When You’re Having Sex With Her
An example of how to pleasure a woman during sex is to be present in the moment.
For example: A guy might feel so worried about trying to please a woman during sex that he gets caught up in his head thinking, “I hope she likes what I’m doing to her,” or, “She didn’t moan when I touched her there…what if she doesn’t like what I just did there?” or “What if I’m not making her feel enough pleasure? What if other guys have been better in bed than me – will she still like me after this?”
The woman then notices the subtle changes in his body language and vibe and realizes that he’s worried, thinking too much and as a result, is not present in the moment with her.
He’s in his head, rather than having the confidence to stop thinking and simply enjoy the pleasurable physical and emotional feelings, which is a huge turn off for women.
What he doesn’t realize is that one of the things that pleasure women during sex is to be in the presence of a man who isn’t worried about a thing and is simply present in his body and in the moment, enjoying the feelings and experience of having sex with her, rather than retreating into the distance of his insecure mind.
Essentially, women don’t want you to worry about a thing. Just be there, do things to her and enjoy how it all feels.
4. When You’re in a Relationship With Her
A relationship is only as strong as the love, respect and attraction that flows through it.
If a woman doesn’t respect her man and feel attracted to him, she will gradually begin to fall out of love with him. When that happens, pretty much anything he says or does just won’t make her feel much pleasure at all.
To maintain the pleasure of being in a relationship with him, a man needs to continue building on the attraction and respect his woman feels for him over time, rather than taking her for granted and expecting her to stick around because things felt good at the start.
One of the things that pleasure women in a relationship is to not only have a deeper feeling of attraction for her man over time, but to see that his attraction for her is also deepening and stronger than ever.
If you’ve ever seen couples that are still madly in love 20, 30 or 40 years into a relationship, you may have noticed that a deep, mutual attraction is in place.
However, couples who are cold towards each other, have drifted apart or who feel like marriage is hard work, are those who no longer have a mutual attraction for each other.
The mutual attraction is maintained in different ways, but it essentially comes down to deepening a woman’s love, respect and attraction for you over time in different ways.
In terms of your attraction for her, it will deepen over time if you maintain the correct relationship dynamic (i.e. she looks up to and respects you as a her man, you make her feel feminine in comparison to your masculinity and as a result she keeps up her effort to look pretty and feminine for you, etc).
You also need to ensure that you maintain your perception of her as being attractive (based on how you felt in the early days), rather than slowing losing attraction for her as she ages, puts on a few pounds/kilos after having children or doesn’t always wear make up like she did when you first met.
Your attraction for her has to deepen over time, to the point where you are attracted to her because you love her, you respect her and you know that, although she is a bit older, she is still the same hottie that you met many years ago.
When you do that, you will sincerely be able to look at her with loving attraction and compliment her (e.g. “Wow, you look sexy today” or “You’re beautiful, I love you”), rather than giving empty, non-sexual compliments like, “You look nice” or “That’s a nice dress.”
Some men are excellent at making a woman feel sexy when they first meet her, on a first date and even in the beginning of a relationship.
However, over time, many of those men start to take their woman for granted and think, “She already knows how sexy and desirable she is to me. I don’t have to tell her…she knows.”
Yet, statistically speaking, most women (anywhere from 80-95% depending on the study) feel insecure about their physical appearance and attractiveness, even if they pretend to be confident about it. They need to be reassured of their attractiveness, especially from the man they are in a relationship with.
For this reason, a woman in a long term relationship or marriage will often avoid having sex or even being affectionate with her man, if she doesn’t feel that she is sexy and desirable in his eyes.
So, in a relationship, one of the main things that will pleasure your woman is being made to feel that she is the sexiest woman on Earth to you every time
you look at her, touch her and make love to her.
However, as pointed out, you also need to ensure that she respects you, feels attracted to you and is still excited to be in love with you. When all that is in place, you and her will pleasure and doing even the most simple of things together.
You Control the Pleasure
One of the most important things that you need to know about women is that, as a man, you are almost fully in control of how much or little pleasure she feels when with you.
Most women are fairly passive when it comes to meeting guys, being on dates and being in relationships. They usually just wait and see what the guy will do and what type of feelings and experiences he will lead both of them to experience.
Essentially, the better you are at making a woman feel respect and attraction for you, the more easily she will fall in love with you and stay in love with you. She will also find it easy to feel intense pleasure when having sex with you and by being in a relationship with you.
So, a question for you now is this: How good are you at making a woman look up to you and respect you as a man, as well as feel sexually attracted and turned on by you?
Do you think that could possibly learn a bit more about how to attract a woman and deepen her feelings for you over time?