If you’re looking for things to say to women to get them to want you, feel good around you or simply smile and enjoy talking to you, watch the two videos below…
As you will discover from watching the videos above, the most important thing to focus on when talking to a woman is making her feel attracted to you. It won’t matter to a woman that you have an endless list of things to say to her if she isn’t feeling attracted to you.
Do You Run Out of Things to Say When Talking to Women?
If you find that you run out of things to say to women that you find attractive, then you’re most-likely trying to hard to be liked.
To speak freely, you need to trust your gut instinct and talk about whatever you want to talk about. As long as you are coming across in an attractive way (e.g. confident, charming, charismatic, etc), a woman will continue to be interested in talking to you.
The more attraction that you make her feel, the harder she will try to keep the conversation going. If she notices that you’re losing interest in her, it will be her who is scrambling for things to say to you.
However, if you aren’t triggering a woman’s feelings of sexual attraction and respect for you, she isn’t going to be very interested in talking to you for long.
For example: A guy can approach a woman with the best line in the world, but if he delivers it in a shy, nervous way or if his body language is awkward and submissive, it’s not going to impress her at all. She’s going to be feeling turned off by his lack of confidence and she’s going to tune out.
Where Guys Go Wrong
Guys tend to make a lot of classic mistakes when talking to women that they find attractive. Watch this video for examples of where guys go wrong and what you should do instead…
Here are some more examples of where guys go wrong when talking to beautiful women…
1. Asking too many questions in a row
When guys are looking for things to say to women, the most commonly given advice is to ask lots of questions.
For guys who feel shy around women, asking a woman lot of questions may seem like good advice because it takes the pressure off him. All a guy needs to do is have a list of “interesting” questions at the ready and then sit back and let her do the talking, right? Wrong.
To get to know a woman properly, she needs to feel relaxed and at ease in your company so she can open up and show you her real personality. If you’re just firing questions at her one after the other without volunteering much or any information about yourself in return for the responses she gives you, the conversation is going to feel awkward and forced.
When a woman notices that a guy is acting weird by asking her way too many questions in a row, she will usually put her guard up and begin to give him short answers like, “Yes” or “No” or “I don’t know” to hopefully make him get the hint that she’s uncomfortable.
There’s more to being a good conversationalist than simply asking a woman a list of questions. You’ve got to be able to show her that you’re open to talking freely by sharing information about yourself in an attractive way.
2. Being too polite
Some guys make the mistake of being too formal when they speak to women they like. The guy doesn’t want to say or do anything that she might not like, so he plays it safe and acts like a perfect gentleman from the 1800s.
Trying too hard like that doesn’t impress women. Instead, it makes a guy come across as feeling desperate to be liked…and desperation is not an attractive trait in a man. There’s nothing wrong with being polite, being a good guy or treating a woman well, but when a guy does it in the hope of being liked enough that the woman will “give him a chance,” then he is doing it wrong.
Everything has to start with sexual attraction. Unlike in the past where a woman had to select a polite gentleman who she would then stick with for life (because marriage was pretty much forbidden), today’s women select men based on sexual attraction and THEN look for good guy qualities.
Being super polite and gentlemanly is not enough for a woman to want to start a relationship. She wants to feel sexually turned on by a guy and then, if he also happens to be a good guy, it is seen as a bonus to her.
So, rather than trying to be polite and always say the right thing, be attractive and be real.
The right things to say to women are the genuine things that show your true personality and allow her to get to know the real you. A woman wants to feel relaxed, be her genuine self and let her guard down around a guy, rather than feeling weird about the fake gentleman act that he is putting on.
3. Talking without listening
Women are attracted to confident guys who are secure in who they are and what they’ve got to offer in life, making them genuine guys who are comfortable just being themselves. However, a confident guy can sometimes make the mistake of talking too much or making it all about him.
Being able to talk confidently about yourself doesn’t make you a great conversationalist. The things to say to women are the things that let her know a little more about you and therefore spark her interest in you, but you also need to show her that you’re interested in who she is, what she feels and what she likes.
Being a good conversationalist means being able to listen as well as talk and it means showing an interest in what other people have to say. If you ask a woman a question to get a conversation started and then you don’t actually pay any attention to what she says in reply, she’s not going to feel you’re someone she wants to spend a lot of time with.
For example: Let’s say that you ask her if she’s done any traveling and she tells you all about the trip of a lifetime she’s just been on. If you’re a good conversationalist you’ll pay attention to what she’s saying and make relevant comments or ask her to tell you more about the most fascinating parts.
However, if you’re talking without listening, you’ll either move on to the next “interesting” question on your list without acknowledging her response to the last one or you’ll turn her response into an opportunity to tell her all about your holiday adventures. Either way, she’s not going to be impressed.
4. Pretending to be someone you’re not
When a guy lacks confidence in his sex appeal to women, it can often lead to him pretending to be someone he’s not in an attempt to make himself seem more interesting (e.g. acting very silly, being very arrogant, spending loads of money on a girl, bragging about things he has or wants, etc).
In effect, behaving in this way is similar to trying too hard to always say the “right” thing, because he is trying to be the type of guy that he thinks a woman will be most impressed by. Yet, attempting to hide behind a fake confident front will almost always backfire because women can usually see through the act that guys put on.
If a woman senses that a guy is pretending to be someone he’s not, she’s not going to feel comfortable enough to let her guard down and be herself around him. She might enjoy hanging out with him and find him humorous or interesting, but her guard will remain up because she will feel suspicious about him.
When talking to a woman, you should always focus on being your most real self, while also making sure that you display the type of personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use it to your advantage when talking to beautiful women…
As you will discover from the video above, knowing a list of things to say isn’t the most important part of being successful with women. It’s important to know how to talk to women and keep a conversation going, but if you’re not making the woman feel attracted to you, she’s not going to care about what you’re saying.
Examples of Things to Say to Women
Some ideas for conversation starters are…
1. A question about her work (or study)
Asking a woman about her job (or university course) gives her an opportunity to tell you about her career and to share her enthusiasm for what she does if it’s something that she’s passionate about.
This, in turn, gives you an opportunity to tell her a little bit about your job and what you do, and to share with her the things that you’re passionate about. Women are attracted to men with passion and purpose in life.
For example: A conversation may go something like this…
You: So, what do you do for work?
Her: I’m an accountant.
You: Oh right, so that must mean you’re really smart. I’m going to have to try to impress you with big words now.
Her: [Most likely laughing] You: [Smile and say in a joking manner] Okay smarty pants, so what is 1,234 x 50? Try to answer that without using the calculator on your phone.
The above conversation will make her feel attracted to you because you’re being confident and funny, which are two personality traits that women naturally find attractive in men.
2. A question about her hobbies and interests
Asking a woman about her hobbies and interests out with work gives her another opportunity to talk about things she enjoys and feels enthusiastic about. This also gives you the opportunity to share some information about your own hobbies, but be careful not to launch into your interests without showing a genuine interest in what she feels about it first.
Women are attracted to men who have things happening in their life that they are enthusiastic about. A guy with no friends who sits alone at home after work is less attractive than a guy who works in a job, but then passionately works on his goals and dreams in his spare time.
You: So, what do you like to do for fun on the weekends or when you have time off?
Her: I like to ski…have you ever been?
You: Yes, actually. I went skiing when I was a kid and loved it, but haven’t been back since. What is it about skiing that you like so much?
Her: I like the freedom of being out on the clean slopes and just tearing it all up. I also love the cosy nights by the fire with friends, just hanging out and talking all night.
You: Wow, that’s sounds awesome. When are you taking me there?
Her: [Most-likely laughing] You: You can teach me how to ski again. I’d say that I’ve forgotten most of my cool ski moves that I was able to do when I was 8.
Her: [Most-likely laughing, smiling, etc]
3. Commenting on a topical news story
Politics and religion are best avoided when you’ve just met a girl, but a current news story that’s likely to cause mixed opinions can be a great way to get a conversation going.
Women are attracted to men who have a mind of their own and who are not afraid to stand up for what they believe in, even if it means going against the popular opinion. This doesn’t mean that you should attack her opinions, but that you should be confident to speak your mind in a respectful way.
3. An anecdotal tale about something funny
Everyone likes to be around people who make them feel good, so if you’ve got a humorous tale to tell about something that’s relevant to you and your life, go for it.
Not taking yourself too seriously and being able to look at the funny side of life makes you a fun and interesting guy to spend time with. Women are attracted to genuine guys who know how to naturally strike up fun, light-hearted conversations without trying too hard.
As long as you are being yourself and being attractive (e.g. being confident, charismatic, charming, etc), pretty much every woman you meet will be excited to talk to you and get to know you further.