Women are fairly easy to attract and turn on.
Essentially, it all comes down to your personality and how that makes a woman feel. You will either be the sort of guy who naturally triggers feelings of love, respect and attraction inside of a woman, or you won’t.
Some guys are okay at attracting women, some guys are great at it and some guys are excellent at it. How about you? Do you have the skill of being able to trigger feelings of attraction inside of a woman when you interact with her, or could you be unknowingly turning a lot of women off?
Watch this video by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man) to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man really works and how you can use that to your advantage to turn women on…
Turn Offs For Women
While it is easy to turn women on, it’s also easy to turn women off.
Women are mostly attracted and turned on by how a guy’s behavior, thinking, actions, vibe, body language and personality makes her feel. It’s a bit more complicated than the easy way that men feel attracted to women, which is mostly based on the woman’s looks.
A guy might be good looking, but if he makes the following classic mistakes, the woman will feel turned off by him…
1. Being too nice
This seems to go against everything you might have been told about dating by your father or someone else from an older generation, but being too nice is one of the most common turn offs for women.
If you’re a “nice guy” this doesn’t seem to make any sense because surely if you like a girl, you need to “treat her nice” to make sure she likes you back, right? Well, yes and no. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being a nice guy, but in a woman’s eyes, there’s a fine line between being “nice” and being weak or wimpy.
It’s being on the wrong side of that line that causes a guy to think that “nice guys finish last” or that women really do prefer “bad boys” but that’s not actually the case. Women want a “good guy” but they want him to be a strong good guy, and that’s where a lot of nice guys go wrong.
Women want a man with strong alpha male characteristics. This makes him a man with genuine self-confidence and a relaxed ability to lead the way in a relationship. When a guy is being too nice, he hesitates over taking the lead and he turns everything into a joint decision.
You might think it’s “treating her nice” to ask her where she’d like to go on a date or which kind of restaurant she’d like to eat at, for example, but if you don’t take the lead and show her that you’re confident in your ability to lead the way and to show her a good time, you’re not showing yourself to be a strong good guy.
Women are turned on by men who have what it takes to make them feel feminine, so putting them in a position of “taking charge” or having to be a part of every decision turns them right off.
As Dan Bacon (the founder of The Modern Man) explains in this video, there is nothing wrong with being a nice guy or a good guy, but you also have to make sure that you make women feel sexually attracted to you. It’s just not enough to be “nice” and here is why…
2. Trying too hard
Following on from the above, being too nice can often lead into trying too hard.
In desperation to be liked, a guy can slip into behaving in a way that actually turns women right off because contrary to what a lot of movie scripts might have you believe, women don’t like to be put on a pedestal and they’re not turned on by a guy throwing himself at her feet.
For example: A nice guy who is trying too hard to be liked might turn up for a first date with a bunch of flowers. This seems to be considered a wonderfully romantic gesture in the movies and women love it, but in the real world, it’s another one of those real turn offs for women! Why?
Well, it’s really because she doesn’t want to be given gifts for no reason. She might love flowers, but she’s not going to see it as a romantic gesture on a first date, in fact, she’s going to see it as a sign of desperation. She’s left thinking that he’s a guy with so little confidence in himself that he has to present her with gifts to disguise his insecurities.
Guys with genuine self-confidence don’t have to try hard to be liked, they just are liked because they’re guys who know who they are and know what they’re about in life.
They’re comfortable just being themselves and women are turned on by guys who have a relaxed self-assurance about them because they’re guys who are not trying to be anything other than themselves – even when that means not going along with the popular opinion or not agreeing with what everyone else says.
Being genuine is a real turn on for women because when they sense they’re in the company of a “real man,” they feel able to relax into being who they really are … and that’s a real woman.
As Dan Bacon explains in this video, women are more turned on by a guy who offers her a bit of a challenge, rather than being like the 99% of guys in this world who would have sex with her simply based on her appearance, without her having to do anything special to impress them…
Avoiding the Turn Offs
Avoiding the things that turn women off is simply about learning more about what women really want.
Don’t listen to what women SAY that they want though. As you would have noticed, women will go around saying that they want a “nice” guy, but then end up dating, getting into relationships with and even marrying guys who don’t seem to be very nice.
Here’s a great video by Dan Bacon, which explains 3 things that turn attractive women off when they interact with a single guy…