3 common reasons why a woman will like your social media posts after a break up are that:
1. She Wants to Show You That She’s Still Interested
If a woman has lost a lot of respect and attraction for a guy, she’s usually not going to make much of an effort to stay in contact with him, or be nice to him in any way after a break up.
She will try to cut off all contact, make it clean break and move on.
However, if a woman still has feelings for her guy and is secretly hoping that they can patch things up between them, she might take the initiative by clicking like on his social media posts in the hopes that he’ll make a move.
Essentially, she’s giving him an excuse to message her or call her and open the lines of communication between them again.
So, if right now your ex is clicking like on most or all of your social media posts, it can be her way of letting you know that she is still interested.
Despite her signal of interest, some guys worry, “What if I contact her and she ignores me? What if her liking my social media posts doesn’t mean that she’s still interested? I’d just be making a fool of myself if I message her and she ignores me or rejects me. So, I will just wait for a more obvious sign that she’s interested like her contacting me directly.”
Here’s the thing though…
At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter why your ex is liking your social media posts.
What matters is that, if you want her back, you must to have the confidence to make the ex back process happen regardless of whether she’s giving you clear signals or not.
Just contact her and start the ex back process, so you and her can hook up and get the relationship back together.
If you waste too much time waiting around, she might get bored of waiting for you and just hook up with or fall in love with another guy.
So, if you want your ex back, don’t wait around hoping she will make it clear to you that she really wants you back.
Be man enough to take the lead and make the first move to begin the ex back process, regardless of whether she’s giving you super clear signs that she’s interested.
Remember: Women are naturally attracted to the fundamental qualities in men such as confidence, self-belief, determination and calm perseverance in men.
The more you display these qualities to your ex (i.e. by being fearless in getting her back), the more respect and attraction she will feel for you.
I’m not talking about being needy and bombarding her will calls or texts to get her back.
I’m talking about being confident, relaxed, easy-going and persistent (in a calm way) as you guide her through the ex back process.
When she sees that you are confident enough to lead the way, even though she isn’t giving you super clear signals, she will feel respect and attraction for your manhood.
When that happens, her guard comes down and getting back together again feels like the right thing for her to do.
She realizes that you have already improved so much since the break up and are much more of a man than you’ve ever been.
She also appreciates the fact that you’re not fearfully hiding away and waiting for her to become the more courageous one and lead both of you back into a relationship.
As a result, she feels drawn to you and feels excited and being guided back into your arms.
On the other hand, if you wait around feeling insecure, nervous and unsure of yourself, she will likely think, “Why isn’t he doing anything? I’ve given him an opening and he’s not making a move. Maybe he’s just not interested in getting back together again. Maybe I need to make him jealous by starting to move on with another guy.”
Another reason why your ex might be liking your social media posts is that…
2. She’s Just Being Nice and Wants to Help You Feel Better
Most women are fairly nice people, so even after a break up, a woman might continue to make an effort to make her ex feel good about himself as they drift apart.
For example: A woman might like his social media posts as a way of letting him know that she’s not holding a grudge against him for what happened between them.
Alternatively, she might be letting him know that they can still be friends even though they’re no longer together.
Whatever the case is for you, it’s important that you pick up the opening she has given you (by liking your posts, following you on social media or watching your Snapchats) and get her on a phone call so you can meet up with her in person.
In person, you will be able to fully attract her back, hook up with her and get another chance.
For example: If a woman broke up with a guy because he was too gentle, soft and reserved around her, he needs to now show her that he’s more confident, ballsy and assertive (without going overboard and trying to show off).
He needs to let her see that he has transformed and she can now feel attracted to him in the ways that are secretly important to her.
Alternatively, if a woman broke up with a guy because he took her for granted and was treating her badly for way too long, he needs to now show her that he’s not that guy anymore.
Of course, it’s not that simple though, so don’t get me wrong here.
If you got dumped for treating her badly, she’s not going to rush back into your arms if you panic and desperately started treating her like a princess.
Women are turned off by desperation in men, so if she dumped you for not treating her well enough, you have to relax and be calm as you begin to treat her better.
Don’t try to suck up to her because she will see that as desperate and feel turned off.
Just relax, continue being the cool guy that you are, while also being a bit nicer to her.
Don’t become a super nice guy who worships the ground she walks on because she will see it as desperate and you will lose that cool edge you’ve always had as a guy.
Just relax and be a better man, but don’t go overboard.
Okay, so let’s get back to her liking your posts…
Even if your ex is a nice person and is only liking your social media posts to make you feel better, it doesn’t mean you have to sit back and do nothing about it.
Open the lines of communication between you and her.
For example: You might message her and suggest that you and her can be friends.
You: Hey Rebecca…just thought I’d say hi. How’s things? Miss you.
Her: Hey…I’m good. What’s up?
Then, just call her.
Don’t waste time texting back and forth and potentially turning her off or getting into a text exchange where you are trying too hard.
Just call her, get her smiling and laughing on the phone with you and then suggest catching up to say hi.
If she is secretly open to getting back with you, she will say, “Yes” and meet up with you.
If she doesn’t want to meet up with you, then since she is looking at your social media posts, start making her feel jealous by posting up photos of you having fun with friends.
Many guys are worried about posting up photos like that because they don’t want to piss off their ex.
Yet, you have to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man really works.
When she sees him looking confident around other people who like him and want him to be there, it makes her feel more attracted.
Likewise, if there are women in some of the photos, she then gets worried that some of those women might like him and he will then move on.
This motivates her to want to meet up with him and see how things go, before it’s too late and he moves on.
Of course, she might pretend to be angry and say, “I see that you’re having fun with all those girls” (and not even mention that the photos mostly included guys), to see if he panics.
If he panics and says, “No, I don’t like any of those women. I didn’t even want to be there that day because I was thinking of you” she then loses all the attraction that she was secretly feeling for him as a result of the photos.
A better response is to laugh and say something like, “Why? Are you jealous?” and then laugh at her and with her about it in a playful way.
Alternatively, you can say, “Hey, not that you would care anyway, right? We’re broken up remember. I still love you, but I’ve accepted your decision to not want to be together anymore.”
If she secretly wants you back, saying that to her is like a knife to the heart, which is most likely how you felt when she broke up with you.
She then starts to want to you back so she can feel better about herself.
Another reason why she might be clicking like on your social media posts (or viewing your Snapchat posts) is that…
3. She’s Trying to Mess With Your Head and Get You Wondering What Her Clicking Like Means
Sometimes, a woman might feel very angry or resentful about what happened between her and her ex and want revenge.
So, she will lead him on and pretend to be interested, while she secretly tries to find a replacement guy.
For example: She might think to herself, “I’m going to get revenge for the pain he caused me. I’m going to mess with his head by liking his social media posts. He will then be wondering what it means and maybe even start hoping that it’s a sign that I want him back. I’ll confuse the crap out of him. That’ll serve him right for treating me the way he did!”
If he then tries to contact her, she might ignore him altogether, or respond with something like, “What do you want?” or “Why are you contacting me? It’s over between us. Just because I like some of your social media posts, it doesn’t mean all is forgiven and that I want you back. I was just being nice. Please leave me alone and give me the space I asked for.”
He might then lose hope and give up on the idea of getting her back.
Yet, here’s the thing…
Even when a woman has lost respect, attraction and love for a man, to the point where she’s trying to mess with his head to get revenge on him, it doesn’t mean he can’t make her change how she feels.
Feelings change all the time.
For example: Think about how your ex went from feeling neutral towards you, to liking you, loving you and then not loving you anymore.
Her feelings literally changed several times.
In the same way, you can change how she feels again.
When you trigger her feelings of attraction for you (e.g. by being confident and determined, making her smile, laugh and feel good to be interacting with you again, making her feel feminine and girly in contrast to your emotional masculinity) it becomes difficult for her to hold onto thoughts about you.
She stops wanting to mess with your head and she starts wondering what it would feel like to be in a relationship with the new and improved you.
When that happens, she can’t stop herself from wanting to interact with you via text, social media, on the phone and in person, even though she previously thought that she was over you.
She feels drawn to you and from there, you can build on that initial spark of attraction and confidently guide her back into a relationship with you.
3 Social Media Mistakes to Avoid
When a woman likes your social media posts, it’s very difficult to determine her exact intentions.
Sure, you can speculate, but you will likely never know the exact truth.
So, it’s usually better to just go ahead and focus on re-sparking her feelings for you, rather than wasting time trying to figure out what she really means.
Where some guys go wrong is by making some of the following mistakes:
1. Over analyzing her actions on social media
Sometimes a guy might follow his ex’s every move online in an attempt to understand her feelings for him.
He’s hoping that she might say or do something that will clearly tell him that she still cares about him.
For example: A woman might post comments on social media like, “Sunday nights are the loneliest,” or “I’m having so much fun these days.”
He ex might then read her comments and start wondering, “What did she mean by that comment? Could she be hinting that she wants to get back together again because she is lonely without me?” or “If she’s happy being single, I probably don’t stand a chance with her again, right?”
If she clicks like on one of his posts on Facebook, is continuing to follow him on Twitter or Instagram or is watching his Snapchat videos, he may then begin to imagine what it could all mean.
He might say to himself, “She clicked like…so, does that mean she is interested?” or “She watched my video. Does that mean she is missing me?” or, “She didn’t like this/that photo, what does it mean? Could it be because she doesn’t like the photo, or is it because she doesn’t like me anymore?”
Yet, here’s the thing…
You will drive yourself crazy are always trying to understand what your ex means when she likes your social media posts.
You need to forget about what she means and focus instead on actively making her feel respect and attraction for you again.
That’s what really matters.
Right now, she might be clicking like, but that doesn’t mean she has strong feelings for you, or that she is sitting at home thinking, “I’m so glad we’re broken up. I hate him. I don’t want thing to do with him.”
Her click, follow or view of your social media activity could mean a whole bunch of things, but what really matters is this…
Does she feel attracted to you?
Is she feeling an increasing desire to get back with you?
Do you know what to say and do to get her back if you call her and meet up with her?
Are you just wasting precious time giving her lots of space and hoping that she comes back?
If you’re not doing much to actively get her back and are simply hoping that she contacts you via social media, text or calls you, then you might be waiting for a long time and she may just move on without you.
Alternatively, if you call her on the phone and trigger her feelings for you again by making her laugh, smile and feel good to be talking to you again, it won’t matter what she really means by liking your posts because she will be feeling attracted to you right then and there.
Her guard will come down and she will be open to catching up with you in person, where you can then get her back for real.
Another mistake to avoid is…
2. Posting up things that turn her off
For example: A guy might post “pity me” type posts or status updates, as a way of getting her attention.
He may post a status update like, “This has been a tough year for me. I never thought love was so complicated,” or “What do women want? I have no clue. Maybe I doomed to be single for life!”
He may hope, “If she sees how badly I’m hurting, she will feel sorry about the way she treated me. She then will contact me to apologize and we can get back together.”
Another example is when a guy uses social media to rant about women or relationships and generally complain about his life.
Once again, he may be hoping that his ex will pick up on his state of mind and feel bad for what happened or how she treated him.
Yet, that’s not usually how it works.
A woman doesn’t want to be with a guy out of a sense of pity or guilt.
Instead, she wants to be with him because it feels good to be around him (i.e. she feels respect for him, she feels sexually attracted to him, she loves him).
So, if a guy tries to get his ex’s pity via social media, rather than make her think, “Awww, my ex is really hurting. I’m being such a bitch to him. I should call him up and see if we can work things out between us,” she will usually just block him from her social media accounts and try to move on.
Another mistake that guys make is…
3. Posting up photos of himself alone
This is the most common mistake that I see men make when they are in the process of trying to get a woman back.
He will want to show his ex that there are no other women or people in his life and he’s essentially just sitting around waiting for her.
Yet, women don’t feel attracted to loneliness and desperation in men.
Women feel attracted to men who are liked by other people and who have the confidence to get on with enjoying life, with or without her around.
So, acting like you are patiently waiting for her and have nothing else going on in your life isn’t going to help you get her back.
Important: It’s not enough to post up photos of yourself doing fun things alone (e.g. taking your first flying lesson, going to the beach alone, taking photos of the food you are eating).
She needs to be able to see you around other people, so she can believe that you aren’t just sitting around feeling lonely and sad without her.
That’s what really makes a difference and allows a woman to relax and open back up to her man, rather than being afraid that he’s obsessing over her and desperately needs her back ASAP.
Additionally, some guys think that posting up good looking photos of themselves alone will do the trick.
He will assume that if he looks good physically, his ex will feel jealous and begin to worry about losing him to another woman.
He’s hoping that she’ll think something like, “Wow, my ex looks really good. I’m sure he’s got women lined up wanting to date him now. I’d better get in touch with him right away before some other woman snaps him up and I lose him forever.”
Yet, rather than feel jealous, his ex will usually feel turned off by his lonely, poser photo.
She has to wonder why he is alone.
Why isn’t he around other people? Do people not like him now because he’s lost so much confidence after being dumped? Has he lost his social confidence after being dumped and can’t work up the courage to get out and have some fun? Is he lost without her?
If she thinks those types of thoughts about him, she will lose even more respect and attraction for him.
So, what should you do instead of posting up lonely photos of yourself trying to look your best?
Focus on genuinely having fun in your life and post up photos on social media to let her see that (e.g. having fun with friends or other women, traveling, doing something daring like bungee jumping, going for a daytrip somewhere with friends, partying with friends, trying a new outdoor activity with friends).
Note: If your ex unfriends you from Facebook, just make sure that you set the photos to “public” so she can see them from the outside anyway.
I’ve helped 100s of men to get their women back and what I’ve found is that just by being around other people (rather than being alone) and showing her that you’re happy without her, is usually enough to make her contact you or be open to meeting up with you in person.
However, if she sees that you are alone all the time, or that nothing special or new is going on in your life, she will fear that you will desperately try to get her back if she meets up with you or shows too much interest on a phone call.
Make it Happen, Before it’s Too Late
Sometimes, a guy can waste a lot of time waiting for clear, obvious signs from his ex that she’s interested in getting back together again.
For example: He might say to himself, “I know that my ex has been liking my social media posts, but what if she’s just doing that to be nice? I need to be sure that she wants be back 100% before I risk contacting her. I don’t want to jump to conclusions and then find out that I was wrong. That will be humiliating. So, I’m going to wait around and see what happens. I’m sure that she will eventually give me a really obvious sign that she wants me back and I will then make my move.”
Unfortunately, most women won’t do that.
In most cases, when a woman is open to the idea of getting back together with her ex, she won’t tell him that she wants him back or give him a crystal clear sign because she doesn’t want to seem too easy.
She also wants to see what kind of man he is (i.e. does he have the balls to get her back, even though she’s not giving him 100% clear signs?)
If her ex doesn’t have the confidence to simply pick up the phone and arrange a meet up with her, she will usually just move on and forget about him rather than trying to help him through the ex back process.
So, if you want to get your ex back, you must be emotionally courageous enough to contact her, meet up with her and begin the ex back process, rather than waiting around for signs from her that she wants you back.
The sooner you get her on a phone call with you and trigger her feelings of respect and attraction for you again, the faster she will be back in your arms.