When a woman touches your arm during conversation, it could mean that she is:

  • Sexually attracted to you and is trying to hint that she wants you to make a move on her.
  • A touchy-feely person who touches most guys on the arm, leg, shoulder, etc during a conversation.
  • Very passionate about the conversation and she’s touching your arm to emphasize her point, but doesn’t mean anything sexual by it.
  • From a culture that uses their hands a lot during a conversation (e.g. Mediterranean, Latino, etc).
  • Trying to show you that she is open to physical contact between you and her.
  • A tease and is simply trying to get your hopes up, so you then treat her better and boost her self-esteem by showing her more interest.

How can you know which one of those applies to you?

In most cases, you can’t because sometimes a woman will touch your arm without any sexual intentions, whereas other times it will be her way of trying to show you that she is interested.

So, rather than wasting time trying to work out if she is just being friendly or is being sexual, you simply need to focus on building up her sexual attraction for you.

A woman’s sexual attraction for you will become more intense as you continue to display some of the personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities that naturally attract women (e.g. being confident, charismatic, displaying a masculine vibe, making her laugh, etc.) while interacting with her.

I explain in this video…

When a Woman Touches Your Arm in a Friendly Way

If you’re just having a friendly conversation with a woman and she’s not displaying any other obvious feelings of attraction, then it doesn’t necessarily mean that she is attracted to you simply because she touched your arm.

For example: Some women are very expressive and like to talk with their hands, and this might include touching a guy on the arm in a friendly way during a conversation.

Additionally, some married women who have become a loving, caring mother, will know how soothing a touch on the arm, a hug, a pat on the back or a pat on the leg can be to someone.

She might touch most people like that because she wants people to feel good, relaxed and loved when around her, but it doesn’t mean that she has any intentions of having sex with anyone other than her husband.

To know for sure if a woman’s touch is suggesting that she is sexually attracted to you, she has to be showing you other signs of interest at the same time.

For example:

  • She is playing with her hair, or a necklace if she’s wearing one, in a girly way.
  • She’s giving you submissive looks by tilting her head to one side, or by dropping her chin.
  • She’s constantly drawing your attention to her lips by licking or biting them.
  • She touches you on other parts of your body like on your leg, face, and possibly even hitting you on your butt in a playful way.

Those are very obvious signs of sexual attraction and if a woman is doing that when interacting with you, it’s pretty clear that she is interested in having sex with you or at least kissing you to see how it feels.

Here’s a video I made about body language signs of attraction:

Regardless of whether a woman is showing any of those other signs of interest or not, it’s not a foolproof way to determine whether she is actually attracted to you or not.


Don't wait for extremely obvious signals

A confident woman who wants a confident boyfriend or lover won’t always give extremely obvious signals, because she doesn’t want to make it easy for nervous, shy guys to hook up with her.

She wants to find a confident guy, so if a guy is nervous and waits too long to make a move, she will usually lose interest and reject him when he eventually tries to make a move.

On the other hand, a shy woman will often be too afraid to give you signals of interest because she is worried about being rejected by you, or concerned that other people might think she is too easy when it comes to sex.

For example: A shy woman might touch you on the arm during conversation, but she won’t necessarily do anything else to show you that she is interested.

She will hope that you are getting the message and make a move, but if you don’t she will either start looking for another guy or wait and hope that you eventually make a move on her.

So, instead of waiting around hoping to get a definite, “Yes, I’m 100% interested in you. Go ahead and make a move on me” or “No, I’m only being friendly when I touch your arm. Don’t do anything or I will reject you and tell everyone that you hit on me,” you simply need to believe in the power of attraction.

Just like you can feel a powerful attraction for a woman, she can feel a powerful, irresistible attraction for you too.

She will feel an increasing amount of attraction for you as long as you display some of the personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities that are naturally attractive to women.

For example: Confidence, charisma, charm, having a masculine vibe, being assertive in a loving way, being able to make her laugh and smile, etc.

She won’t be able to stop herself from feeling attracted to you because women feel a natural attraction to guys who display those traits.

When a woman touches your arm

If you like this woman who touched your arm, all you really need to do is make her feel attracted, build up the sexual tension between you and her, and then release it via kissing and sex.

If she currently views you in a neutral way or sees you as being just a friend, her feelings for you will change if you simply start triggering her feelings of sexual attraction.

What you need to understand is that feelings can change.

For example: If you think back in your life, you might remember a time where there was a person at school, university or work that really annoyed you. You may even have hated them.

However, when they changed their behavior, attitude and communication style towards you, your feelings towards them changed as well.

You went from feeling dislike or even hate for them, to actually liking them. It’s even possible that you became friends.

In the same way, when you change your behavior, attitude, conversation style and the way you interact with a woman to a way that triggers feelings of sexual attraction inside her, she will go from seeing you as being just a friend, to feeling excited about the idea of being kissed, having sex and getting into a relationship with you.

That is the power of attraction.

If You Snooze You Might Miss Your Chance With Her

Friend zoned by the woman he loves

Regardless of whether a woman touches your arm during conversation, is sending you every signal possible to get you to make a move, or is simply being friendly, if you are interested in starting a sexual relationship with her, then it’s up to you to make the first move.

Most women would rather miss out on being with a guy, rather than her being the one who has to make the first move.

Don't get left behind. Start making her feel attracted to you

Here are some classic mistakes that guys make, which result in them missing out on being with a woman who actually likes them…

1. He pretends to be her friend in the hopes that it will slowly lead to sex and a relationship.

If a guy is attracted to a woman, but doesn’t have the courage to actively trigger her feelings of sexual attraction for him, he might make the mistake of being a nice friend to her in the hopes that the friendship will somehow lead to sex or a relationship.

Yet, unlike using the power of attraction to get instant results with women, building a friendship with a woman can take weeks, months or even years of effort.

After investing all his time in being her friend, it still doesn’t guarantee that she will be sexually interested in him in any way.

Also, while he’s doing the friend thing with her (e.g. being her shoulder to cry on, going shopping with her and gossiping on the phone like a girl, etc.) she could easily meet a guy who knows how to instantly trigger her feelings of sexual attraction, and has the confidence to make a move and kiss her.

She will then have sex and start a relationship with him.

She’s not going to stop and think, “My friend is such a great guy. Rather than have great sex and feel really sexy and desirable with this new guy who is actually making me feel attracted, I’m just going to sit around feeling boring, friendly feelings with my friend because he is so nice to me.”

If you don’t actively make a woman feel sexually attracted to you when you interact with her, she will only ever see you as a friend. She might then decide to hook up with another guy who has the ability to attract her and turn her on.

He will then start a sexual relationship with her and they will become boyfriend and girlfriend, rather than friend and friend.

To make her become his girlfriend, he didn’t waste time pretending to want to be her friend.

He did it the easy way (and the way that women actually want) by making her feel attracted to him and turned on while interacting with him.

After kissing and having sex, they will then begin to discuss having a relationship and if they both want it, they will become boyfriend and girlfriend.

All of that can happen within hours or days, rather than wasting weeks, months or years trying to be a woman’s friend.

So don’t make the mistake of assuming that if you become her friend she will eventually tell you that she loves you and you can then have sex with her and start a relationship.

If you want this woman to be your girlfriend or lover, simply trigger her feelings of sexual attraction for you and get to a first kiss and then sex.

2. He doesn’t make a move because he fears getting rejected.

It is entirely possible that if a woman touches your arm during conversation, it means that she is attracted to you.

So, if you don’t make a move because you are afraid of being rejected, you will never get to experience a loving, sexual relationship with her.

Think about it this way…

No one is 100% compatible with everyone they meet, so no guy can ever expect to pick up every woman he meets.

Most guys don’t know that and feel as though if one woman rejects him, it means that all other women will reject him too.

Guys like that often get to a point where they’d rather miss out on love and sex by not making a move on a woman, than get rejected and have to endure the painful feeling of another woman not being interested in him.

A guy like this will look for reasons not to make a move on a woman. He might say, “I’m just not good looking enough,” or “Women are just not attracted to short guys like me,” etc.

He will paint himself into a corner of insecurity and he will go through life missing out on opportunities with women (even if a woman is sending him a sign that she’s interested in him), because he has developed a negative idea about what really appeals to women, and he fears that he will get rejected because he doesn’t have those things.

What a lot of guys don’t realize is that most women (not all) place more importance on the attraction they feel for a guy’s personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities than his looks.

There are some women who will only accept a tall, male model kind of guy with loads of money, but most women are much more flexible and open about what they find attractive in a guy.

What Really Matters

Flirting touch

Ultimately, it doesn’t matter what it means when a woman touches your hand in conversation, what matters is whether you are making her feel attracted to you and then have the confidence to make a move when the moment is right.

If what you want from her is sex, then go and get it. If what you want from her is a loving, committed relationship, then go and get that.

The choice is yours.

Just remember though: Regardless of what you want from a woman, the first thing that you must do is trigger her feelings of sexual attraction for you, and then everything else will follow on naturally and easily after that.

Don’t start out trying to be her friend or trying to show her that you’re a nice, trustworthy guy.

Women don’t care about those things before they feel attracted to you. Start with attraction and then everything else is simple and easy after that.

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