To get a woman in the mood, whether you’ve just met, you’re on a date, or you’re in a long-term relationship or marriage that has lost its spark, is easier than most guys realize.
I know this because I’ve slept with more than 250 women and I’m now married and the same approach I used with other women still works every time with my wife.
So, if you are asking, “What gets a woman in the mood?” what you need to know is that, regardless at what stage of the relationship you and her are in, the process is the same.
Here’s what you need to do:
- Display confidence.
- Make her feel girly and feminine in comparison to your masculinity (e.g. how you talk to her, touch her, move, behave, etc).
- Let her know that you find her sexy and desirable (either say it with words or show it via your body language, vibe and actions).
- Turn her on with your touch.
- Believe in your attractiveness to her (she will notice your confidence and it will turn her on).
- Release the sexual tension and desire that you have for each other by having sex.
Essentially, a woman’s attraction for a man and her desire to have sex with him, is based mostly on him displaying the personality traits and behaviors that will make her feel sexual desire for him.
When a woman’s feelings of sexual attraction are triggered in that way, she will naturally be excited about the idea of having sex with him and will get in the mood.
If you behave in the ways outlined above, a woman will feel aroused and she will be just as eager to have sex with you as you are with her.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man really works…
As you will discover from the video above, what gets a woman in the mood is her feelings of attraction for you.
You have a lot of direct control over how much or little attraction a woman feels for you.
For example: If you are displaying traits that are unattractive to women (e.g. insecurity, nervousness, self-doubt, being neutral rather than masculine), the woman will find it difficult to get in the mood for sex.
It All Starts With You Believing in Yourself and Your Ability to Arouse Her
When it comes to getting a woman in the mood, confidence is everything and if you want to have confidence during the build up to sex, you must believe in your ability to make a woman feel attracted and turned on by you.
Confidence (noun): Belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance.
Whether a woman is sitting at a bar looking at a guy sitting on the other side of the room, talking to him for the first time, on a date with him or in a relationship with him, his confidence is one of the main qualities that will make her feel attraction for him.
Confidence is attractive to women because it is a sign of emotional strength, and, because we live in a challenging world where it isn’t always easy to survive, a woman wants to know that the guy she is with is someone she can rely on to be the man all the time, especially during difficult times.
A woman’s attraction for a man is directly linked to her need to survive, feel protected and be provided for.
If a man lacks confidence in himself, it sets off alarm bells in a woman’s mind that he would probably be more of a burden to breed with than a benefit.
Even if both the woman and the man don’t want to have children, their attraction is based on what would happen if they did breed.
That’s what it’s all about and why a man’s confidence is so important to a woman.
Based on this, a woman will automatically be turned on or off by a guy depending on how confident he appears to her at first glance and then when she interacts with him.
For example: When a woman first sees a guy, she will naturally notice his appearance first because she has nothing else to base her opinion of him on.
However, after her initial first glance, she will begin to notice his body language, behavior and how he interacts with other people.
Her instincts will instantly begin to answer the following types of questions for her:
- Is he confident around other people, or does he seem unsure of himself?
- Does he have the confidence to approach her and strike up a conversation, or is he too insecure to make the first move? If he is afraid of talking to her, will he also be afraid to stand up and go after what he wants in life?
- When he approaches and talks to her, is he relaxed and easy-going, or is he nervous, self-doubting and insecure?
- When interacting with her does he make her feel attraction for him via his conversation style, body language, humor, etc., or does he stumble over his words or make only polite or formal conversation with her because he has no idea what makes a woman feel attracted to a man?
Basically, whether a woman looks at a guy from across a room, or interacts with him in person during a conversation or on a date, if he is a truly confident man, she will feel some level of attraction for him regardless of his appearance.
In a relationship or marriage, a girlfriend, fiancé or wife will feel attracted to her man if he is able to display the kind of personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities that women are attracted to (e.g. confidence, charisma, emotional masculinity, etc).
As long as a man is able to trigger a woman’s feelings of attraction in those ways, he will never struggle to get a woman in the mood, as long as he believes in his ability to actually get her in the mood.
Some men are attractive in their behavior, but when it comes to interacting with new women or their girlfriend or wife, they doubt their ability to turn her on.
This is because most guys don’t even know what makes a woman feel attracted to a man and go through most of their life feeling clueless about how to get a woman in the mood.
Watch this video to learn a surprising truth about what really attracts a woman to a man…
Even though a woman will initially judge a man on his appearance, it is his other qualities, like his confidence, masculinity, the way he makes her laugh, etc., that will make her feel attraction for him and get her in the mood.
Of course, not all women are like this.
There are some women who will only ever accept a male model looking guy with loads of money, but the majority of women feel much more attraction and desire for a guy based on how his personality and behavior makes her feel, rather than whether or not is good looking.
Women feel attracted to men in that way because a woman’s attraction is really based on what would happen if she had children with a guy.
If a guy is good looking, but lacks confidence in himself or is hopeless at his job, then he’s not going to be much use to a woman in the long run.
However, an average or even below-average looking guy who is confident and is on his way to success in life (or is already successful), is going to make a woman feel much safer with him.
After all, most women can get pregnant very easily and if she makes a mistake and gets pregnant to a guy who is going to be more of a burden than a benefit, she will have to pay for that mistake for 20+ years until her child is hopefully able to support itself.
So, if you want to get women in the mood, you simply have to display some of the personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities (e.g. confidence, charisma, masculine vibe, etc) that attract women and turn them on.
This applies when you first meet women, are on a date, having sex and 20 years into a relationship.
To get women in the mood, you’ve got to be the sort of man that they can feel attracted to.
You then need to believe in your ability to make her feel attracted and simply proceed to sex.
If you don’t display the traits that women find attractive or if you doubt your ability to attract women, you will get rejected when meeting women, find it difficult to score a second date or end up in a sexless relationship or marriage.
To keep the spark alive, you’ve got to be the sort of man who is attractive to a woman.
For example: When in a relationship, a woman will find it difficult to maintain her feelings of attraction for a man who insecure and self-doubting.
If a girlfriend, fiancé or wife has to constantly prop up her man’s confidence because he doesn’t believe in himself, she will gradually lose respect for him as a man.
When a woman loses respect for her man, she will also lose attraction for him and then, no matter what he does (e.g. take her out to dinner, buy her gifts) it will be difficult for her to get in the mood to have sex because she can no longer look up to him and respect him like she used to.
Without Sexual Attraction, She Will Only Experience Friendly Feelings For You
Whether you’ve just met a woman, are on a date with her, or have been in a relationship with her for a long time, if a woman doesn’t feel turned on by the way you interact with her, she will either just write you off as being another guy who is hitting on her (if she’s only just met you), or she will only experience friendly feelings for you.
Regardless of the circumstances, if a woman is not feeling attracted to you, she’s not going to be in the mood to have sex with you either.
So, the quickest way to get a woman in the mood is to make her feel the ways she wants to feel when she interacts with you.
The more ways you can make her feel attracted to you, the more intense her desire will be to have sex with you. It’s that simple.
Watch this video for more of an insight into how a woman’s attraction for a man works…
As you will discover from the video above, you can actually CREATE feelings of attraction inside of a woman when you interact with her.
When you create those feelings of attraction, she will naturally get in the mood and all you need to do then is believe in you attractiveness to her and confidently proceed to sex.
If she is properly attracted to you, she will gladly, willingly and happily open herself up to have sex with you.
Most Women Are a Lot More Insecure About Their Attractiveness Than You Might Think
Many guys believe that because a woman is beautiful she is also confident about her ability to make men feel attracted to her.
However, that is often not the case.
In fact, according to a survey conducted by Dove, it seems that as much as 96% of women don’t consider themselves to be beautiful.
A woman may act like she is confident, but privately she will feel insecure about how she looks and want to change a number of things about herself (e.g. nose, breasts, legs, butt, etc) before she will feel confident in her beauty.
For this reason, one of the key steps to getting a woman in the mood is to make sure that you let her know how sexy and desirable she is to you.
For example: When you first meet a woman or are on a date with her, rather than try to be nice and polite around her because you don’t want to seem too pushy, let her know that you think she’s sexy by saying, “I think you’re sexy and I like you.”
If you’ve successfully triggered her feelings of sexual attraction for you during the first part of your conversation together, she will feel excited to hear that you are also sexually attracted to her because she is already attracted t you.
Of course, if you say this to a woman before you’ve fully triggered her feelings of sexual attraction, she will not feel excited to be hearing those words coming from you because she isn’t attracted to you.
In a relationship, making your woman feel sexy is vital if you want to get her in the mood.
What often happens in relationships is that, when the initial thrill and newness wears off, a couple can easily fall into a rut.
Everyday life can intrude and it’s easy for a woman to go from being a sexy, glamorous model look-alike to being someone who is always wearing frumpy tracksuits and never does her hair or wears makeup.
To get her in the mood it is essential that you first make her feel sexy and attractive again.
To do that you have to make her feel like she’s the sexiest woman in the world to you. Look at her with desire; no matter how messed up her hair looks, or how unattractive her baggy tracksuit might be.
Let your eyes, body language and behavior show her that you find her sexy.
By making her feel sexy, she will naturally feel like having sex with you. All you need to do then is believe in your attractiveness to her and confidently proceed to sex.
Why Building Sexual Tension Gets a Woman in the Mood Fast
Some women are ready and willing to have sex with a guy without him having to do much to get her in the mood.
However, the majority of women need the guy they are with to turn them on, and the best way to do that is for him to build up the sexual tension between them.
Sexual tension is like an erotic dance between a man and a woman, where the man builds up her desire while interacting with her, (e.g. via flirting, body language and humor), but delays going to kissing and sex.
In this way, her desire builds up to melting point and she simply can’t wait for him to release that desire inside of her.
When a guy builds up sexual tension correctly, a woman not only gets in the mood quickly, but she also feels the needs to have sex with him to release the built up tension.
It’s kind of like when a man looks at porn videos of women and feels like he has to masturbate to get rid of the built up sexual tension he is feeling (i.e. the women are making him feel attracted, but there is no way to have sex with them so the tension builds up and he then releases it by masturbating).
When you build up a woman’s sexual desire for you by creating sexual tension, she will feel as though she is going to explode if she doesn’t have sex with you.
This same principle applies whether you’ve only just met a woman, are on a date or have been in a relationship together for a long time.
On the other hand, if a guy doesn’t create any sexual tension between himself and her, naturally she won’t be feeling in the mood if he suddenly decides to make a move on her.
Without Action There Will Be No Satisfaction
You can only build up sexual tension up to a point, but if you don’t then take the next step and release that tension with kissing and sex, her desire will fizzle out.
A woman likes to feel sexual tension, but if she realizes that she’s getting hot and flustered for nothing (because the guy is either too scared to take the next step with her, or she feels he is toying with her), she will quickly switch off.
So don’t make the mistake of doing everything right to get a woman in the mood and then fail to finish what you started.
Women dream about being swept off their feet and ravished by a man, so you simply need to be confident enough to be that man.
If you can give a woman the exciting experience of triggering her feelings of sexual desire, building up the tension and then releasing it via kissing and sex, she will be all yours.