Talking to a woman on the phone is easy when you focus on the fact that she must already like you if she’s given you her number.
Women don’t give out their real number to guys that they don’t ever want to talk to again, so just make sure that you believe in your attractiveness to her when you call her.
What you talk about when you call a woman is less important than how you make her feel when you are talking to her.
For example: If you say, “Hey, so how have you been?” in a nervous, unsure way, she’s going to feel turned off by your self-doubt.
However, if you say, “Hey, so how have you been?” in a confident, easy-going manner, she’s going to feel attracted to your confidence and social intelligence.
Here’s what you need to remember…
As long as you focus on making her feel attracted to you, while also just being yourself, the conversation will flow naturally and she will enjoy it.
Using Humor to Make Her Feel Attracted to You on the Call
In addition to being confident and easy-going, you can also make her feel attracted by using humor.
This ensures that the call starts off in a positive way, and if she’s forgotten how good she felt talking to you the first time, this is a great way to re-spark her feelings of sexual attraction for you.
An Example of Using Humor When You Call a Woman For the First Time
After getting a woman’s number for the first time (e.g. at a bar or club, at a party, at the gym, at work, at university), get her on a phone call as soon as possible, so you can have a laugh together and then arrange to meet up in person.
Most guys feel very nervous about calling a woman, because they feel they don’t really know what to talk about when they call her.
Rather than following through on the number they’ve got, some guys chicken out and just convince themselves that she isn’t that interested.
Yet, here’s what you need to remember…
You can CREATE feelings of attraction inside of a woman when you talk to her.
If the woman who gave you her number is only kind of interested in you at the moment, you can make her very interested by using humor to build on her attraction for you.
For example: One of the ways to use humor on a call to build on a woman’s feelings of sexual attraction for you, is to use something specific related to only you and her.
So, let’s say that the first time you met her, she was wearing a black cat suit or a tight black outfit, and you jokingly referred to her as looking like a ninja.
You then started referring to her as the, “sexy Ninja girl” and jokingly suggested that she’d look good in a James Bond movie as the bad ass girl who outsmarts James Bond.
So, when you call her, you can trigger her feelings of attraction by saying, “Hello sexy Ninja girl. Been on any James Bond missions since we met the other night?”
Several things will happen when you do this:
- She will know immediately who is calling her without you having to identify yourself and warm her up with pointless small talk (e.g. “How was your day?” or, “Been working hard?”).
- She will laugh and feel good at the start of the conversation.
- She will feel attracted to your confidence and sense of humor.
- She will feel excited to be talking to you again because she will remember how good she felt talking to you when you first met.
- She will feel flattered because you are giving her a compliment by calling her sexy.
All of that will add up to her see you as a charming, interesting guy who makes her feel good about herself, and she will be open to hooking up with you again to experience your charm in person.
As long as you are sparking a woman’s feelings of attraction for you, it doesn’t really matter what you talk about because she will be interested.
Mistakes to Avoid When You Call a Woman
Here are some mistakes you should avoid making when you call a woman…
1. Don’t wait too long to call her after getting her number.
Even if you and her had a really great time and you felt that there was a special connection between you and her, she probably has many guys who are interested in her right now.
It’s also possible that she has given her phone number to several other guys besides you lately.
So, if you take too long to call her, some other guy might get to her first.
If he has sex with her and she enjoys it, she’ll probably get into a relationship with him even though she really liked you.
Unless you make a woman feel intense attraction for you, she’s usually not going to sit around waiting for your call for too long.
If she doesn’t hear from you within a few days of giving you her number, she may assume that you’re not interested in her or that you’re too shy, nervous or insecure to call her.
She will open herself up to having sex, or falling in love, with another guy and try to forget that she got rejected by you.
So, don’t take too long to make your move.
If she has given you her number, be a man and call her, get her on a date, kiss her, have sex with her and begin a relationship (if you want one).
2. Don’t waste too much time talking to her on the phone before you ask her out.
A guy might be able to get a woman laughing and enjoying talking to him on the phone, but if he doesn’t ask her out, she will usually lose interest.
She may be thinking things like, “Why is he calling me and not setting up a date? Why are just chatting all the time and never getting to have sex? Is he too afraid to ask me out, or is he just talking to me because he is lonely and needs some attention?”
Eventually, most women begin to suspect that a guy is either too insecure or self-doubting to hook up with her again and she will lose interest, slot him into the friend zone, or just move on and start dating other guys who are not afraid to meet up with her in person.
Getting a woman’s phone number and calling her is only the beginning of the dating process.
Your main focus has to be on getting her to meet you in person so that you can continue building on her feelings of sexual attraction for you, kiss her, have sex and start a relationship with her.
So, if you’ve attracted her on the call and had a quick chat, you can jokingly ask, “Anyway, so when are you taking me out?” and she will almost certainly say, “No, you need to take me out” and you can then say, “Okay, well I can do that. I think you’re a cool chick and we’d have a good laugh together. So, I’m busy tomorrow night, but how about Wednesday or Thursday night?”
Then, just decide on a day together and either tell her where to meet you, or tell her that you’ll text her the address of where to meet you after the call.
3. Don’t become her new phone buddy.
Some guys make the mistake of talking for way too long with a woman on the phone to the point where she starts to feel exhausted having him in her life.
A guy will feel excited that the first call went so well (e.g. she sounded happy and excited to be talking to him again), so he might then fall into a pattern of calling her again, and again, and again, just to repeat how great it felt talking to her.
In his mind, he is in love and this is how it’s supposed to be.
In her mind, she is starting to wonder why he is acting like one of her girlfriends who just wants to talk all the time about anything.
Even though a woman might go along with it and really enjoy the calls because she is feeling attracted to him, she will eventually start to feel like something just isn’t right.
She might not be able to explain why she is losing interest, but her instincts will kick in and tell her that something is off. Why?
Women instinctively know that men should be spending their time on achieving their big goals and ambitions in life, rather than sitting around chatting about nothing like girls do.
It’s great talking to a woman on the phone from time to time, but you shouldn’t take on the role or act like one of her girlfriends who is always interested in gossip and conversations about nothing important.
Women like talking to each other on the phone for hours about random things, but that’s not what women want to experience in a relationship with a man.
If you want her to see you as a potential lover and boyfriend in her life, you need to behave like a man that she can look up to and feel girly around, rather than being like a friend.
If you act like a friend, she will see you as a friend, and one day she will call you up to apologize and tell you about her great new boyfriend that she is in love with.
When she gave you her number, it wasn’t because she wanted another friend.
She gave it to you because she felt attracted to you and wanted to kiss you, have sex with you and start a relationship with you.
So, don’t waste time acting like one of her girlfriends. The main reason you should be calling her is to arrange to meet her in person so you can move forward to a kiss, sex and relationship.
Attraction + Action = A Beautiful Girlfriend
Women today can have their choice of men, so they’re not going to wait around for very long for a guy to make his move; whether it’s to call her on the phone, ask her out on a date, or kiss her and lead her to sex and a relationship.
When a woman feels enough attraction for a guy that she gives him her phone number, she expects him to call her up, ask her out and lead both of them to the next level (i.e. kissing and sex).
So, the main thing you need to focus on when you call a woman is making her feel attracted to you (e.g. by being confident, charismatic, funny, making her feel feminine and girly in contrast to your masculine vibe) and then get her to meet up with you in person.
You obviously triggered her feelings enough for her to want to give you her phone number in the first place, so you just have to focus on doing it again when you call her.
Then, ask her out, kiss her and have sex and start a relationship if you both want that. It’s so much easier than you think.
Make her feel attracted, take action to move things forward and before you know it she will be your sexy, loving girlfriend.