Talking to women on the phone is easy if you can just relax, let the call unfold and be yourself.
So, if you’re wondering what to talk about with women on the phone, because you tend to get nervous or because you’re afraid of running out of things to say, just relax and remember this…
If a woman has given you her phone number, she must have felt at least some attraction for you.
So, when you call her, you simply need to build on her attraction for you and get her on a date as soon as possible.
1. Re-Spark Her Feelings of Attraction By Making Her Laugh
You’ve probably heard women saying things like, “I love a guy with a sense of humor,” or “I want a guy who can make me laugh.”
Women aren’t just saying they like funny guys for no reason. They really do mean it.
According to a survey conducted on more than 1,000 American women between the ages of 21 and 55, it was concluded that 77% of women ranked a sense of humor as their #1 must-have in a man.
Most guys will say that looks are the main thing that men want in a man, but the truth is that a woman will often care less about looks if a man can make her feel attracted in other ways (e.g. by making her laugh, being confident and charismatic).
So, when you talk with a woman on the phone, the main thing you need to focus on is making her laugh and smile when she talks to you.
Of course, that doesn’t mean you have to be a comedian, or a constant joker to get her to feel attracted to you.
In fact, too much laughter and messing around and you can come across as being goofy, childish or as the type of guy who doesn’t know how to be serious.
When talking with a woman on the phone, making her laugh is simply about being confident and upbeat in your conversation with her, while also taking a risk to say something a little daring or bold at times.
For example: Imagine that you call a woman a couple of days after she has given you her number (e.g. at a bar, gym, mall, party).
Rather than just calling her up and saying, “Hi Sandy. This is John. We met the other night at Jason’s party. Do you remember me? You gave me your phone number so I thought I’d just call you to see if you’d like to go out on a date with me,” which is what every other guy who calls her up will say; it’s almost always better to first make her feel excited and happy to be talking to you again.
You can make her feel happy that you called her, by reminding her (in a funny, subtle way) that she really enjoyed talking to you at the party the other night.
You can do that by using something that is specific to only you and her to make her laugh and re-spark her feelings of attraction for you.
For example: When you met her at a mutual friend’s party, she bumped into you and spilled some of her drink over your pants, and you joked about it by telling her she’s going to have to take you home to give your pants a wash.
You told her that she’d look sexy doing laundry for you and both of you had a laugh about that.
As the interaction continued, you referred to her as Sexy Laundry Lady a couple of times.
So, when you call her up on the phone, you can then use that to re-spark her feelings of attraction.
- You: (In a confident, joking voice) Hey Sexy Laundry Lady, I thought I’d call you up and see what time I can bring my pants over for you to wash.
- Her: (Most-likely laughing).
- You: (Still joking) I only have one pair of pants y’know…I’m standing here in my underwear now at the mall. Everyone is looking at me.
- Her: (Most-likely laughing some more)
- You: Just kidding. Anyway, so how has your day been today?
- Her: (Starts telling you about her day)
By starting off in that manner, you are re-sparking her feelings of sexual attraction for you by reminding her of that special connection the two of you had, (i.e she’s your Sexy Laundry Lady)
At the same time, you are making her feel attracted to you by being confident and funny; two qualities that women find irresistible in men.
2. Make Her Feel Some Pressure to Impress You a Little
Once you get her laughing and remembering how good she felt talking to you, you can simply say, “So, what’s interesting with you?” or “What’s new with you?” or “What have fun, exciting things have you been up to since we last met?” and let her tell you about what she’s been up to.
These are the type of questions that puts a woman on the spot and she will often try to come up with an interesting answer to try and impress you.
Making a woman feel like she needs to impress you is a good thing, because most of the guys she meets will want to be with her just because she’s attractive, and they will be doing all sorts of goofy things trying to impress her.
That’s not exciting for her, which is why she likes it when a guy makes her do the work, where she has to try and impress him for a change.
In other words, a guy who is a challenge.
Watch this video to understand why women prefer guys who are a bit of a challenge to win over…
Being a challenge is about attracting her and showing some interest in her, but not being fully sold on her right away.
Let her get the sense that you’re not desperate like other guys and actually have standards about what you like and don’t like in a woman.
Don’t tell her that you have standards; just let her sense it by you not acting desperate or needy.
For example: Be willing to playfully tease her (e.g. “You use big words all the time. I think you’re too smart for me. I’d need to carry around a dictionary to understand what you’re talking about.”)
So, when you call a woman up on the phone, tease her a little or make her work a little to impress you rather than trying to be the nice guy and having a polite, boring conversation with her.
Women love it.
Women are so sick and tired of guys who just kiss their ass all the time and act super polite and nice in the hope of getting a chance with her.
A woman knows that she can have sex with almost any guy just by saying, “Yes” so it is very boring for her to meet guys who offer no challenge.
3. Take the Lead and Move Things Forward
The main thing you need to remember when you talk with women on the phone, is that the phone call is only a stepping stone to getting her on a date, kissing, having sex and starting an actual relationship.
Getting her phone number doesn’t mean that you’ve scored and now have a new girlfriend.
She will only become your girlfriend if you can get to sex or at least kissing, so don’t waste time with over texting, endless phone calls or polite dates.
Get to the point and kiss her, have sex and then begin a relationship.
Where some guys mess up is in thinking that if they can just talk to her for hours on the phone, she will really like him and then be more open to going on a date with him.
Yet, almost all women do not need long phone calls to say, “Yes” to a date. All a woman needs is to feel a bit attracted to you and for you then to have the balls to say, “Hey, we should catch up sometime this week” and then arrange a time to meet up.
2 Common Mistakes That Guys Make on Phone Calls With Women
Some guys are great at getting phone numbers, but it never seems to lead to a date, kiss, sex and relationship.
Here are 2 common mistakes that I see guys making…
1. Acting like just a friend.
When a woman gives a guy her phone number, it’s not because she is looking for another friend.
Something about him triggered her feelings of sexual attraction and she wants to see where things will go (i.e. go on a date, kiss, have sex and see if she wants to have a real relationship with him).
So, when a guy calls a woman up and all he wants to do is chat, gossip and catch up on her day, all he’s managing to do is kill any feelings of attraction she might be feeling for him.
Yes, she might still like him as a person, and yes, she might enjoy talking with him on the phone, but if he’s not actively sparking her feelings of sexual attraction and moving things forward by asking her out on a date, kissing, having sex and starting a relationship with her, she will usually just think of him as a nice, friendly guy and then open herself up to hooking up with a guy who wants to be more than just her phone friend.
If you get a woman’s number, my direct advice to you is to get to the point.
Get her to meet up with you, kiss her, have sex with her and then get on with having a relationship.
Don’t waste time acting like a friend if what you really want to do is start a sexual, committed relationship with her.
2. Waiting too long to ask her out.
Having a fun conversation with a woman on the phone is fine, but if all a guy does is talk on the phone without ever asking her out, a woman will begin to wonder, “What’s wrong with this guy? Why is he always calling me if he doesn’t want to ask me out? Is he gay? Is it just leading me on? Does he lack the confidence to ask me out?”
Eventually, she will usually just assume that he’s too nervous and insecure to make a move, lose interest in him and then move on to a guy who has the confidence to take the lead.
Always remember: Talking on the phone with a woman is not as important as getting her on a date where you can then re-connect with her and move things forward to the next level (e.g. kissing, sex and a relationship).
The main reason you should get a woman on a phone call is to re-spark her feelings of sexual attraction for you (e.g. via your confidence, sense of humor, charm), and then get her on a date as soon as possible where you can move things forward to kissing, sex and a relationship.
Don’t use phone calls as a way to hopefully get her to like you over time. Get to the point and make something happen with her right now.