Have a look at these women and decide whether or not you would feel as though the woman is approachable or unapproachable.
Would you approach her?
How about this woman, does she seem approachable?
How about this woman, does she seem approachable? Would you approach that woman, or does she seem a bit unapproachable?
Over the years, many guys have contacted me and essentially said something along the lines of, “I really want to approach and talk to women that I find attractive, but they just don’t seem like they want a guy to come over and talk to them. They seem like they want to be left alone, like I would be interrupting them and they wouldn’t like that. They wouldn’t like it if I came over and said hello.”
So, even though the woman that he really likes is right there, he avoids her and remains alone.
In many cases, if he knew how to talk to her and make her feel attracted, she would like him.
He could then get her phone number and set up a date.
Before he knows it, he would kissing her and having sex with her and enjoying a relationship with her.
So, the question is: Is it true that most single women are unapproachable, or is it just the guy imagining things?
What is the truth here? What is really going on?
Well, as you’ll discover from the following list, the answer isn’t black and white.
There are a lot of shades of gray when it comes to women.
However, the solution is very simple.
So, let’s go through the list.
1. Sometimes a woman is single and would love to be approached, but she seems like she doesn’t want to be approached because of her body language
She seems a bit closed off like she’s in her own world and doesn’t want to be disturbed, but secretly, she is lonely and wants to have a boyfriend.
She doesn’t understand why it’s not happening for her.
She knows that other women haven’t had to approach men to get themselves a boyfriend, so she wonders why she is still single and alone.
Why doesn’t a guy who likes her just come up and say hello?
2. Sometimes a woman doesn’t want to be approached, but her body language seems the same as other women who do want to be approached
She also seems kind of closed off and in her own world, but in this case, she doesn’t want to be approached.
3. Sometimes a woman is out with her girlfriends and acts like she just wants to have fun and doesn’t want to be approached by men, when she is secretly hoping that a guy will come over and talk to her
If anyone would have asked her why she has gone out that night, she will say something like, “Oh, I just want to dance. I just want to have fun.”
Yet, in reality, she is single and is secretly hoping to find herself a boyfriend.
4. Sometimes a woman would love to be approached, but is afraid of showing interest in being approached and then feeling like a reject when no guys talk to her
5. Sometimes a woman would love to be approached, but doesn’t want to seem too easy or keen because she knows that many guys place less value on women like that
In almost all cases, a guy wants to get himself a girl who doesn’t seem like she would go flirting with other guys if he wasn’t around.
She is the sort of a woman who controls herself, who keeps to herself rather than going around flirting with loads of men in random situations.
6. Sometimes a woman would love to be approached, but displays closed body language to avoid being approached by weird guys, or old people who are walking around the streets and looking to have a conversation with any stranger who will show some interest
So, her body language is closed and she keeps to herself rather than looking like she is openly inviting anyone to come and talk to her.
7. Sometimes a woman would love to be approached, but it doesn’t like like that because she isn’t reacting to men in the same way that they react to her
This reason, which is based on a scientific discovery, is that the sexual pursuit area of a human brain is 2.5 times larger in a man compared to a woman.
This specific difference in the brain has a noticeable effect on how men and women pursue sex.
Men are physically wired to ‘be on the look out’ and to try find themselves a woman to have sex with, whereas women are physically wired to be more passive when it comes to dating or the pursuit of sex.
This is why almost all women simply wait to be approached by a man.
So, sometimes a woman would love to be approached, but it doesn’t look like that because she isn’t reacting to men in the same way that they react to her.
She is in her natural state of being passive, rather than going around approach men to find herself a boyfriend.
Of course, sometimes a woman will get so desperate that she will force herself to approach a man to see what might happen.
Yet, in my cases, it won’t work out well for her.
For example: I get thousands of comments every month from all over the world and about every 3 to 4 months, a guy will comment saying that he got approached by a woman.
Some of the comments I’ve received have gone something along the lines of this…
A guy was at the gym.
A girl came over and approached him and was interested right away.
He didn’t want to talk to her or continue the conversation because he felt it was too easy.
He felt as though she was too keen.
There had to be something wrong there.
So, he rejected her.
He didn’t keep the conversation going.
Another guy was approached by a woman, he didn’t mention where, but a woman came over and talked to him and seemed interested.
She was pretty and the type of woman that he was looking for.
Yet, he felt he wasn’t ready for a relationship at that point because he wanted to improve his career, or something like that.
So, he didn’t keep the conversation going with her.
She had worked up the courage to come and talk to him and show interest and he had rejected her.
She may have walked away thinking that she wasn’t pretty enough, or that she may have seemed desperate and therefore low value, but in reality, the guy said that she was pretty and he liked her, but he didn’t feel like he was ready to have a girlfriend because of his career.
He needed to improve himself more first before he had a girlfriend.
Finally, another example: A guy commented saying that a woman approached him and he felt intimidated by the situation.
He felt like there was a lot of pressure on him to suddenly talk to her and keep the conversation going and he didn’t know what to do with it.
Now, she probably felt a little bit rejected at that point.
She had worked up the courage to talk to a guy who ended up not seeming interested.
He didn’t seem like he wanted to have a conversation with her.
The conversation dried up very quickly.
He seemed like she was making him feel awkward.
He seemed uncomfortable, so she ended up walking away.
On the flip side now, sometimes a guy will walk up to a woman and she will like him, but she’ll feel intimidated by the situation.
She won’t know what to say or she will worry that if the guy got to know her, he wouldn’t really like her and therefore, a relationship wouldn’t work.
Her relationships in the past haven’t worked.
She doesn’t really feel like she can keep a guy in a relationship.
She wants to.
She sees her friends or family in happy relationships, but as for her, she continues to remain single.
Her relationships don’t work out.
She wants to have a happy relationship.
She wants to get herself a boyfriend and have a relationship that works, but she hasn’t been able to find that.
As a result, she may begin to worry that she is the problem.
So, what’s a woman to do?
Likewise, what’s a man to do?
Well, my channel is for men.
It’s not for women and my advice here is for men.
If you want to get a girl, take a chance to advance your situation by talking to her, rather than waiting around and hoping that pretty women will come over and talk to you.
It’s always best to take control of the situation yourself by talking to a woman that you find attractive and knowing what you need to say and do to pick her up.
Personally speaking, I used to take guys out to approach and pick up women and I did that every weekend for about 4 years.
Guys would initially say that women seemed unapproachable and they didn’t want to be interrupted, but when they actually approached, they found that almost all women were immediately open and friendly.
Additionally, I ran seminars for many years and guys have always been concerned with the same sort of things.
Women seeming unapproachable, like they don’t want to be interrupted and so on.
Yet, what I’ve always found from my personal experience and from teaching other men is that about 80% of women are immediately friendly and open when you walk over and talk to them.
About 10% of women are closed, but they then warm up if they see that you’re a confident, easygoing guy, or a cool, easygoing guy, or a cool, easygoing guy.
The remaining 10% are very cold and many of them will remain that way for at least 5 to 10 minutes into the interaction.
Those type of women want to see that you’re truly confident and you truly believe that you deserve to have a woman like her.
You’re not just putting on an act of being confident.
You are truly confident in yourself, regardless of how women behave around you.
So, if you want to put the odds in your favor as a man, you have to build up the courage to talk to women in person.
From my experience teaching men, hearing from men all over the world who have used my techniques and from my own experience meeting women, you have an 8 out of 10 chance that a woman will react in an open and friendly way when you approach in person.
Compare that to dating apps where you are trying to compete with tens of thousands of other guys for her attention and it’s pretty obvious that talking to women in person is where you have the advantage as a man.
Additionally, compare approaching a woman in person, making her feel attracted to you, getting her phone number, setting up a date and getting something going between you and her, versus a guy who waits and hopes that if he can just become successful enough in life, then one day, maybe 5, 10, or 20 years from now, women will eventually approach him and chase him.
They’ll want to be with him because he’s so successful and so on.
Yet, if a man does become very successful, then he’s going to have another problem on his hands.
That is, he’ll most likely worry that a woman will only like him for his money and success.
Well, he has just spent many years or decades working his butt off, in the hope that one day women will like him because of that.
Meanwhile, other guys have been getting girlfriends regardless of what stage of life they’re at.
Other guys haven’t needed to become successful in life to get a girl.
They just had to speak to her, make her feel some attraction and get things moving along between themselves and her.
So, the solution as a man is to put the odds in your favor by approaching and talking to women that you find attractive.
You have an approximate 80% chance that a woman will be friendly and open if you talk to her in person.
If you can deal with those odds, then you can have direct access to pretty women, without waiting around to hopefully be chosen out of tens of thousands of other guys on a dating app.
Just say hello to her in person.
That is where a man is in the position of power for many reasons, one of which is that almost all men are too afraid to approach, so there’s hardly any competition.
If you have the confidence to approach and you know how to make a woman feel attracted to you as soon as you start talking to her, then you can attract and pick up many of the women that you meet.
Of course, it’s not possible to pick up every pretty woman in the world, but you can attract and pick up many of the pretty women that you meet.
Best of all, these women actually want to be picked up, so they can get themselves a boyfriend.
Yet, they don’t make it obvious, which is why they seem so unapproachable to the majority of men.
By the way, if you want to get this area of your life sorted now, rather than waiting around for women to hopefully come rushing after you and approaching you 10 or 20 years from now, then I recommend that you read my eBook, The Flow, or listen to the audiobook version The Flow on Audio.
When you read or listen to The Flow, you will unlock a type of confidence in yourself that will completely change your life with women from now on.
This confidence comes from knowing exactly what to say and do to start conversations with women, how to make them feel immediately attracted to you as soon as you start talking to them, how to keep conversations going and keep them interesting, how to make a woman want to contribute to the conversation and hopefully get something going between you and her, then how to initiate touch in a way that she wants and welcomes, how to initiate a first kiss, how to get her phone number, how to have sex on the first day or night that you meet her, or how to initiate a kiss and sex on the first, second, or third date; the choice is yours.
When you follow the simple steps of The Flow, you and a woman will smoothly flow from one step to the next.
It’s the easiest way to get laid or get a girlfriend.
No One Cares About You Talking to Women, Just Like You Don’t Care About Other Guys Talking to Women
One final point that I want to make for you in this video, is that many guys don’t approach women because they’re worried about what other people may think.
What will people think if he walks over and talks to a woman?
Well, I’ll ask you.
What have you thought when you saw a cool, easy-going guy talk to a pretty woman and the guy and the girl were immediately getting along with each other?
They were talking and laughing together.
They seemed like they were connecting with each other and so on.
Did you think, “That guy is a loser! That guy is doing something wrong! Everyone! Everyone, look at him! The guy is talking to a pretty woman. They’re getting along. We need to stop this!”?
It goes without saying that people don’t react in that way.
In almost all cases, people look on and they actually feel a bit jealous.
They actually feel a bit left out.
Many people look on and think, “Why isn’t my life like that? I want a girl like her? What does that guy have that I don’t?”
Or, if it’s a single girl, “Why doesn’t a guy come over and talk to me like that? Why am I single? Why am I not being approached? What’s wrong with me?”
Of course, if you were to look at that woman, she wouldn’t necessarily seem like a woman who wants to be approached.
She wouldn’t necessarily be sitting there looking around the room and hoping that some guy makes eye contact with her and comes over and approaches her.
She’s most likely going to be playing with her phone, or drinking her coffee, or eating her food and minding her own business.
She’s going to be sitting there and if she’s single and she does feel a bit depressed and left out, then she’s going to be feeling that.
She’s going to be thinking, “Why can’t I get a boyfriend? What’s wrong with me?” and so forth.
Yet, from a guy’s perspective, he may look at her and think, “Wow. She’s pretty, but she doesn’t seem like she wants to be approached. If I go over her, I’m going to be interrupting her. That’s not cool. I can’t do that.”
So, a pretty girl that he really likes is right there, but he doesn’t do anything about it.
She goes this way and he goes that way and he almost certainly never sees her again.
The reality is that if you’re in a big city, you will rarely see the same girl again.
If you’re in a small town, you may see her again, but by the time that you work up the courage to talk to her, she may already have a boyfriend.
So, if you see a girl that you find attractive, take a chance.
Walk up and say hello.