Update: We are now married and have twin girls.
Dan Bacon from The Modern Man is engaged and is now on the path towards marriage.
So, what is going on? Why would someone like me get married when I’ve had so much choice with women over the years? Why would I decide to go down a more traditional path of a relationship?
Before I get into that and answer some other questions about relationships and the state of marriage in today’s world, one thing that I want to point out first is that marriage is not for everyone. I understand that. I understand that some guys want to have sex with many different women throughout their entire life and never get married.
Every guy should choose the path that he feels will bring him the most happiness, joy and fulfillment in life. So, the question that I want to ask you before I begin talking about my experience is, “What is your relationship goal with women?”
Survey: What is Your Relationship Goal?
I ran a small survey recently and the results at the time of typing this article are:
- Marry a woman and stay with her for life: 43%
- Stay with one woman for life without getting married: 10%
- Have relationships with many women throughout life: 32%
- Still not sure: 16%
Total voters at the time of writing this: 338
Please have your say by adding in your vote below.
Now that I’m engaged, I’m definitely not saying that everyone should get engaged or that it’s the best thing to do to make a relationship work. Deciding whether or not to live as a de facto boyfriend and girlfriend couple or as a wedded husband and wife is a personal choice that a man and a woman need to make for themselves.
Your decision will be based on what you really want in the end with women. Deciding whether or not to get hitched only makes sense when you find the right girl and have the sort of love that I’m going to talk about in this post.
In This Post
Here are the questions that I’m going to answer in this post and after I’ve finished with that, I have some important questions for you about your success with women and your relationship goals.
- Why did I accept my girlfriend’s marriage proposal after rejecting other girlfriends in the past?
- Why not keep having sex with new women for life?
- Isn’t marriage a risky thing to do in a world with such a high divorce rate?
- Am I worried about the 15 year age difference between her and I?
- Is it really possible to stay together for life anymore?
- What are my future plans for The Modern Man?
1. Why did I accept my girlfriend’s marriage proposal after rejecting other girlfriends in the past?
When I say marriage proposal I don’t mean that she got down on a bended knee and asked me to marry her. It has simply been a case of her asking me to marry her on a number of occasions and me finally saying yes.
When her and I first met and were about 2-3 weeks into the relationship, she had already began talking about marriage and family with me, like most women did throughout all the years that I was living the bachelor lifestyle and enjoying my choice of women.
Whenever she brought it up, I told her that I wasn’t interested in family or marriage and if she wanted to be with me, she could be with me in a committed relationship and that would be it.
Back then, that was basically my attitude towards her and the future of our relationship, but over time I have developed a newfound appreciation, love and wanting for family.
It’s something that her and I want to build together and whenever we talk about family, we always talk about having a really close, connected and loving family. We’re excited about all the things that will come along with that.
So, why I chose her and accepted her proposal compared to the other women that I’ve been with over the years is mainly that I just wasn’t ready in the past.
Over the years, I’ve had some amazing girlfriends and have been in love and had an awesome time with so many women, but I just wasn’t ready to settle down.
Yet, that has changed now and I’m more open to it.
There are so many reasons why I have said yes to her request to marry me (e.g. compatibility, true love, a relationship that just keeps getting better and better, etc).
We both have the same long term goals and views about life, we’re in love, we respect each other, we’re attracted to each other and we have an awesome relationship.
So I thought, “Why not?”
She definitely deserves it more than other women I’ve been with, because she willing to go without family and marriage just to be with me. She was never a pain in the butt about the fact that I said I would never marry her and would never want kids.
She just loved me patiently and waited in hope that I would change my mind. When I did change my mind, it sincerely felt like the right thing to do.
When you meet the right girl, it just feels right, so why not?
2. Why not keep having sex with new women for life?
If you know about my story, you’d know that I used to be hopeless with women and couldn’t get myself a girlfriend.
I then discovered all of the techniques that I now teach here at The Modern Man and I’ve enjoyed my choice of women for more than 10 years and for the last 2 years and 4 months, I’ve been with my girlfriend who is now my fiance.
It never got boring having sex with new women all the time.
It’s a really fun lifestyle to live and I would often say to myself, “I love my life” because it feels good to be getting so much love, affection and pleasure from women.
I was perfectly happy with the path I was following, but then I met my girlfriend and we developed an amazing love and connection and it’s not something that needs to be thrown away.
Our relationship has always just kept getting better and better and I have a newfound appreciation, love and wanting for family, so my perspective has changed.
Hooking up with lots of women was so much fun, but true love is just as fun.
I could have kept going down the old path and continued to be happy being the playboy type of guy, but there is another side of life with women that I want to explore and I think that it’s going to be just as amazing, especially when we start a family and let all that unfold within our close, loving relationship.
3. Isn’t marriage a risky thing to do in a world with such a high divorce rate?
If you look around the world, the divorce statistics are pretty high in most countries. Depending on the country it can go up to 40, 50 and even 60% in some places. When looking at those numbers, marriage can seem like a daunting or scary thing to enter into.
However, if you look at the positive side of things, with a divorce rate of 50% for example, it means that 50% of the couples are able to stay together.
Not all of those marriages are going to be happy, but there are couples out there who after 30, 40 or 50 years into a relationship are still completely happy and in love. In fact, they are in more in love than ever before and have built a lifetime of memories together.
That type of relationship success is possible. I’m going to walk that path now and I hope to be an inspiration to you if you want to go down that path also.
I want to show you that you don’t need to be afraid of the divorce rate. I want to be living proof for you that when you use the right approach in a relationship, it stays together and it gets better and better over time.
Update: My wife and I have been together for almost 5 years now. You can now learn how to keep the love and sexual spark alive in a relationship for life in my new program, Make Her Love You For Life
If you are one of the guys who have gotten some or all of my programs about approaching and picking up women, you would already know that the wisdom I provide about women and about being a man really does work.
If you have been using my techniques, you would know that you can have your choice with women and you would have been experiencing that already.
All of those foundational programs have been created and now I want to show you what is possible with relationships.
I’m going to continue to provide you with more techniques, more insights and more inspiration for you to go after what you want and achieve what you want with women. (I’ve now done that with my new program, Make Her Love You For Life).
One thing to point here about marriage is that I don’t think that marriage is the ultimate thing that people have to do to keep a relationship together for life.
There are couples out there who stay together for life and never get married, so I am definitely not saying that you have to get married and that marriage is the way to keep a relationship together, but it is something that can be done.
Getting engaged and then getting married is something that a couple can do to show their commitment to each other. In the case of my relationship, I don’t really have a massive desire to get married at all, but it’s something that I’m not afraid of doing.
I’m mostly doing it out of respect for my girlfriend and her family. She comes from a family that places a lot of importance on marriage and staying together for life and that’s fine by me.
Her family loves me with or without the marriage, but I’m happy to enter an engagement and go down that path as a sign of respect to them and also because I’m just not afraid of it.
I’m not worried that if I get into this marriage it will end up in divorce. I don’t see any reason why her and I would want to break up, especially when our relationship just gets better and better all the time. If our relationship was getting worse and there were problems, then I would be doubting it, but we just get better and better for each other every day.
It sounds a bit corny, a bit romantic and maybe a bit selfish because I’m talking about myself, but I’m just telling you for the sake of showing you that it’s possible. You can have a relationship that gets better and better over time.
4. Am I worried about the 15 year age difference between her and I?
When I met my girlfriend, she was 20 and I was 35.
As of writing this, I’m now 37 and she’s 22.
Update: I’m now 40 and her and I are still madly in love. It just gets better and better.
15 years is a big age difference between her and I.
Some studies will suggest that it’s risky to have such a difference in age and that it will most-likely lead to a break up or divorce very soon.
Yet, I’m not afraid of those studies, just like I’m not afraid of the divorce statistics where approximately 50% of couples end up divorcing.
I know that my relationship with her gets better and better every day.
What’s been happening between her and I is that the love, respect and attraction has been deepening over time.
It’s not fading away.
It’s about being the sort of man that a woman respects and looks up to.
She feels like a real woman around you (i.e. feminine, free to be girly and emotional, engulfed by the love she feels for you).
I’ve been doing that and it is working as described in the program.
I’ve taken on a bit of a challenge by having a younger girlfriend, but I’m not afraid of the commitment I have made with her.
I know that love is a powerful thing and that when a man and woman truly love each other, respect each other and feel attraction for each other and then build a life together, it can stay together for life.
If you look at the world around you, it’s obvious that there are so many couples who get it right and live a life of love and happiness together.
Of course, there are a lot of people who get it wrong, but I’m going to be one of the people who get it right.
Another thing about my girlfriend is that I actually met her in a nightclub.
A lot of people say that you can’t meet your perfect girlfriend or a potential wife in a nightclub.
They will suggest that women in nightclubs are the sort of women who can’t be trusted and you can never settle down with them, but I’m going to be living proof that they are wrong.
I’m going to show you that wherever you meet a woman (e.g. in a bar, online, through friends, at a cafe, university, at work, etc), you can make the relationship work. What’s most important is that you deepen the love, respect and attraction that she feels for you and that you are the sort of man that she wants to be with and stay with.
On paper, it seems like a risky situation that I’m in.
It’s like, “Hang on…she was 20…you met her in a nightclub…there’s no way you can get that to work.”
Well, I’m going to show you that you can make it work.
I’m going to show you that it is possible.
I’m going to show you that you don’t need to be afraid.
I’m going to show you that you can have a relationship with the type of woman that you want.
Whether you want to pick up your next door neighbor, a girl at university or a woman at work, I’m going to show you that you can have the woman that you want and you can make it work.
5. Is it really possible to stay together for life anymore?
If you know a lot about science and about fields such as nanotechnology, artificial intelligence, biotechnology, genotherapy and other technologies that may contribute to human life extension, you will know that a lot of the top scientists in the world are talking about humans being able to live a lot longer very soon.
So, what would happen to your relationship if you were able to live for 100, 150 or even 200 years in a healthy state of being?
Are you going to be able to keep a relationship together for life if you’re essentially ‘young’ for 200 years?
Additionally, what if the divorce rate goes up higher than it is right now? It is going to be possible to stay together for life?
You can’t say, “Yes! 100% for sure” because it seems like there will be a lot of changes to society and humanity in the coming decades.
In my case, there are absolutely no guarantees that her and I will stay together ‘forever’ and for all of eternity.
What I do know is that we are in love now, we’re going forward with it and are going to build a family.
If the world changes in 40 years time, then so be it.
If the world does change dramatically and it becomes impossible to stay together with one woman, I don’t think it will be seen as a failure to have lived an amazing life with a woman whom you truly love and who truly loves you.
If you have lived a life and enjoyed a lifetime of amazing experiences together, it won’t be your fault if the world suddenly changes and divorces rates skyrocket.
However, if things continue on and it remains possible to stay together in a relationship for life, then it will continue to be possible for you to do it too.
If you look out there into the world today, you will see couples that are still happily married or happy in a relationship 30, 40 or 50 years in.
That is possible.
A lot of people get it wrong, but that doesn’t mean that it’s not possible to get it right.
6. What are my future plans for The Modern Man?
All of the structured training programs about approaching and picking up women and getting yourself a girlfriend are available on my site.
All of the techniques are there and are ready for you to use.
I’ve been using the techniques and 1,000s of guys from around the world have been using them as well.
They’ve been enjoying success with women and so have I.
From here on in, I’m going to continue being an inspiration, a role model and a guide for you in terms of success with women.
I’ve already helped 1,000s of guys to get themselves a girlfriend, I’ve helped 100s of guys to get their ex back and I’ve helped guys to get the spark back in a dying relationship with a girlfriend, fiancé or wife.
I’m going to continue on that path, working full time on The Modern Man like I always have.
In my personal life, I am continuing to gain more and more wisdom, knowledge, insights and experience about how to be happy in a relationship, how to live a balanced lifestyle, how to be in love and stay in love and enjoy an amazing life.
I’m continuing to gain more and more knowledge of those things and I’m intending on sharing that in the future.
In the meantime though, before I even get to all of that, I’ve got some more programs that I want to make about texting/SMS.
A lot of guys have been asking me for advice on that.
I will also be releasing a product about sex and I have some relationship programs planned as well.
Above: Photos taken at the Dating Power seminar.
I’ve been working on The Modern Man since 2005 and I’m not going away. I am someone that you can count on now and in the future.
I’m going to be here for you as a guide, as an inspiration and as a teacher to help you get the results that you want with women.
Talking about that, here are some questions for you…
Important Questions About Your Success With Women
- What do you want to achieve with women?
- What are your ultimate goals?
- What have you already achieved by using my techniques and methods?
- What do you still need help with?
All different types of guys come to my website looking for help with women.
Some guys have never had a girlfriend and are still a virgin.
Some guys have a girlfriend, but aren’t sure if she is good enough for them.
Some guys are afraid to approach women, while others are comfortable approaching women, but can’t seem to get women to feel enough attraction for them.
Some guys are in a relationship with the woman they love and it is falling apart or has already broken up and they are trying to get her back.
There are so many different needs that guys have in terms of their success with women and I’ve got all the programs for that.
So, I hope that if you are enjoying my advice in the posts and videos that I’ve been making, you actually take the next step and invest in my programs for your success with women.
The wisdom, skills, understanding, power, confidence and success that you will get from using the advice in my programs is priceless. Yet, which program is ideal for you?
You most-likely fit into one of the following three categories:
- You are interested in approaching women and getting a girlfriend or getting laid.
- You are in a relationship that seems to be falling apart and you want to fix it before it breaks up.
- Your relationship has already broken up and you want to get her back.
If you are interested in approaching women, getting a girlfriend or getting laid, then I recommend that you read The Flow and then get any or all of the other programs that I have at The Modern Man, except for Get Your Ex Back: Super System.
If you’re in a relationship that seems to be falling apart, I recommend that you watch Make Her Love You For Life to prevent a break up, get the spark back and make her love you the way she used to.
If your relationship or marriage has already broken up and you want to get her back now, the program for you is Get Your Ex Back: Super System.
When guys are starting out and they haven’t got any of my programs, it can be difficult to instantly understand the enormous value contained within them.
The wisdom, experience, techniques, insights, mindsets and realizations that are contained within those programs are priceless.
Most guys really don’t know that until they’ve gone through the programs and had the realizations, gone through the transformations, used the techniques and gotten the results. So, it’s hard for me to tell you to go and try my programs if haven’t ever experienced it.
It’s not like suggesting that you purchase a bottle of water. Everyone knows what a bottle of water is and what is going to happen if you buy it. You buy the bottle of water, drink it and are hydrated once again.
Yet, with my programs, it’s difficult for some guys to understand what they are going to get in the end. So, I will explain a bit about it for you now…
The more that you learn from my programs, the more confident that you become with women. As you learn from my programs and have the realizations, you become more sure of yourself as a man and you truly begin to understand what it means to be a man.
Women feel intensely attracted to you when you meet them; they feel emotionally connected with you, they want to be with you and they want to stay with you.
Instead of you trying to get women to like you and hopefully getting one woman to say yes to going out on a date with you, most of the women that you meet are attracted to you so you get to enjoy your choice of women.
In terms of a relationship, your woman feels more and more respect, love and attraction for you over time. She is in the position where she wants to impress you and make you love her even more. She wants to build the relationship and she wants to be with you.
She doesn’t have one foot out the door thinking, “I’ve got to get out of here. This guy isn’t for me.” She’s thinking, “I want to be with this guy. This is the man for me” and she sees other guys as being nothing compared to you.
That is the sort of position that you can be in as a man in a relationship with your perfect woman.
To some guys, that might sound unbelievable or impossible.
Yet, all you need to do is look out there in the world; there are couples in relationships where the woman does feel that way and the man doesn’t look like anything special.
In terms of approaching and picking up women, look out there into the world around you; there are guys who don’t look like anything special and they’ve got a beautiful girlfriend, fiancé or wife or they are enjoying their choice of women.
You can do it too.
Going After What You Want With Women
The most important part of this post is for you to be inspired to go after what you want, whether that is having sex with lots of women and enjoying that lifestyle or settling down with your perfect woman.
You can be successful with women.
You don’t need to be afraid of relationships.
You don’t need to be afraid of approaching women.
If you are afraid of approaching women, then learn my confidence techniques, learn my conversation techniques, learn my attraction techniques and then use them and you will see that approaching women is one of the easiest, most exciting things that you’ll ever do in your life.
When you use the right approach and techniques, approaching women is so much fun because they like you when you begin talking to them, they feel attracted to you and it’s easy.
When it comes to relationships, don’t be afraid of the divorce statistics.
There are couples out there who do it right and when you use the right approach to relationships, it gets better and better over time.
The main point of this post is for you to think about what you really want with women.
I hope that me sharing my experience serves as an inspiration for you to not be afraid of going after what you want with women.