There are so many guys out there who would love to get themselves a girlfriend, but they often find that the girls they really like are already taken.
Why does that happen and more importantly, how do you fix it so you can actually get yourself a girlfriend that you find attractive, you really like and you actually want to be with?
To help you understand that, I’ll first explain the 5 most common reasons why a guy may feel as though all the good women are taken.
Then, I’ll give you the solution and give you an example of something that you can say to a woman that you don’t know, in a random situation to get something going between you and her.
So, let’s begin with reason number one about why a guy may feel as though all the good women are taken, or all the girls he really likes already have a boyfriend.
1. He has been very unlucky up until this point
In this case, every woman that he has ever met, that he has really liked already had a boyfriend or a husband.
He has really bad luck when it comes to finding single attractive women.
Yet, he can change that.
I’ll explain how and why as we go through this video.
2. Lately, he hasn’t been meeting many new, single women that he finds attractive
A guy wants to be able to get himself a girlfriend.
He works in an office and he goes to work on Monday to Friday.
On Friday nights, he sometimes goes for after-work drinks with coworkers and he usually just sticks within his group or talks to his coworkers.
He doesn’t really venture out to talk to other women at the bar.
Then on the weekends, he may sometimes catch up with his friends who already have a girlfriend and he may not like any of the remaining single women in his social circle.
They may not be attractive to him.
He may like his friend’s girlfriend, or he may like a girl at work and find her very attractive, but she’s already engaged, got a boyfriend or is married.
So, as he goes through that cycle of his everyday life and week-to-week life, he doesn’t meet many new, single women and get to know them enough to know that he really likes them.
The reason I say that is that, in many cases, when a guy feels as though all the good women are taken, he has gotten to know some women via his social circle or work who already have a boyfriend or husband.
He likes those women.
Those women even like him.
They get along.
He’s able to talk to those women.
He feels comfortable around those women.
He likes those women.
He feels attracted to them.
Yet, with the women that he sees in his everyday life, or that he sees when he’s out at a bar and he doesn’t walk over and talk to, he doesn’t actually know that he doesn’t like them.
He may like a lot of those women that he finds attractive.
He may have a conversation with them and feel as though he really likes her.
Yet, how many new women is he actually meeting per month?
For many guys, it’s going to be zero.
For some guys, it’s going to be one or two women every month.
For some guys, though, they may have been trying to meet new women.
They may be meeting up to 10 new women a month and they’re still unable to meet a single woman who they’re attracted to and who feels attracted to them in return.
Why is that?
It will usually come down to reason number 3…
3. He has been meeting some attractive women who are single, but he doesn’t really know how to attract them and pick them up
As a result, single women that he likes may like him as a person or see him as a nice guy, but they won’t really be interested in anything sexual, or in being his girlfriend.
So, if he talks to a woman like that and asks for her phone number, she might say something like, “Sorry, I have a boyfriend.”
Many women will say something like that to hopefully let a guy down gently.
She doesn’t want to say, “No, I am not interested in you. I wouldn’t want to be with you. I’m not attracted to you,” and so on.
Instead, she uses the excuse of, “Sorry, I have a boyfriend.”
If that happens to a guy on a number of occasions, he may start to believe that all of the women he really likes already have a boyfriend.
In almost all cases, though, what he is missing is the ability to attract women as he talks to them.
When you know how to attract women as you talk to them and those women are single, that’s when you stop hearing, “Sorry, I have a boyfriend” as an excuse to end the interaction, or to let you down gently.
Suddenly, many of the single women you meet like you in a sexual and romantic way and you begin to enjoy your choice of women or you get yourself a girlfriend and settle down.
As mentioned, I’ll give you an example of what to say to attract a woman as you talk to her later in the video.
For now, another common reason why a guy might feel as though all the women he likes already have a boyfriend is that…
4. He goes through his everyday life assuming that all pretty women must already have a boyfriend
“60% of unmarried relationships break up within 2 months and 70% end within 1 year.” Source: Social Science Data Collection. Stanford University, California
The reality is that most new relationships don’t work.
They don’t last, which results in men becoming single again and women becoming single again.
When you go into a cafe to order a coffee or some food, the barista may be single.
When you’re walking through the park and you see a woman with her dog, she may be single.
When you’re at a bar, most of the women there are going to be single.
Yet, in today’s world, a lot of guys tend to think about dating apps and how that is interfering with their dating life and reducing their chances with women.
To put it into perspective for you, imagine a woman using a dating app in a big city, for example.
Tens of thousands of guys have swiped on her hoping to get a match.
Imagine now that she matches up with a hundred of those guys and they start texting her day and night.
Most guys who a woman will match up with on a dating app, will start texting her and texting her and texting her and it becomes way too much to manage.
So, what happens for a lot of women, is that they just use dating apps as a source of validation.
They see that all these guys are liking them.
They match up with some guys.
Some messages come through and she doesn’t answer.
She doesn’t get into text conversations with 50, 100 or 200 men at once.
She just doesn’t do it.
In fact, according to a study of thousands of users of Tinder, 44.4% of people were using it to procrastinate (waste time) and hopefully boost their confidence.
I say ‘hopefully boost their confidence’ because in many cases, a dating app like Tinder doesn’t boost a guy’s confidence and instead kills his confidence.
He finds that he’s not getting any matches, or he’s only matching up with women that he’s not attracted to.
Additionally, in another study, only 29.2% of users said that they had met up with someone for a date via the app, whereas 70.8% hadn’t ever followed through and actually gone on a date with someone that they met via Tinder.
Of course, some women do use it for dates, but what you’ll find is that the majority of women who use it for dates aren’t very attractive and they’re swiping on guys that are better looking than them hoping that the good looking guy is going to accept her.
In some cases, the good looking guy will do that.
He’ll end up accepting a girl that he wasn’t initially very attracted to, but she grew on him and he thought, “Why not? I’ll just be with her.”
Yet, that same guy will go through his everyday life and see women that he is really attracted to: the girl working in a clothing store, the waitress, the girl behind the counter at a cafe, the receptionist, whatever it may be or at a bar.
He be thinking, “Wow, I like that girl,” but how many of them will he approach?
How many of them will he properly meet, where he has a conversation with them, attracts them and then picks them up?
That will usually be ZERO for most guys because most guys look at pretty women and assume that they must be taken.
She must have a boyfriend, or she must have hundreds of guys texting her on dating apps and she’s meeting up with them all the time.
Yet, in reality, although there are some pretty crazy women who go on dates with new guys every night of the week to get their dinner paid for, those women are the minority.
Most women aren’t engaging in ongoing text conversations with guys on Tinder and then following through and having loads of dates with all these different guys.
So, as you go through your everyday life, don’t just assume that every girl that you find attractive is taken.
Don’t go killing your confidences and your chances of being with her by assuming, “She is pretty, has to have a boyfriend. She’s beautiful, has to have a husband. All taken, all the good ones are taken.”
In reality, some of those women will be taken and some will be single.
Yet, almost all guys will look at her and think things like, “She must be taken” or, “She must have a long list of guys on a dating app who are trying to get a date with her. She must be going on dates with all those guys all the time” or, “She would have so many options that she wouldn’t give me the time of day.”
Yet, the reality is that when you talk to a woman in person and you make her feel attracted, it’s just you and her (not you, her and tens of thousands of guys on a dating app).
In that moment (in person), you and her are talking.
She is focused on you.
If you know how to make her feel attracted to you as you talk to her, she opens up to the interaction.
It becomes about you and her.
It’s a private connection between you and her.
It’s a private world.
She’s feeling attracted to you.
She’s not thinking about all the hundreds of guys, or thousands of guys who have sent her messages on dating apps. “Hey, beautiful. You’ve got beautiful eyes. Can I take you out sometime?”
She’s not thinking about that in that moment.
She’s focused on you.
Now, of course, there are some women out there who have very high standards in men.
That’s true, but those women are the minority.
The majority of women have what I call an open type, which means that they’re open to being with different types of guys, as long as the guy knows how to make her feel attracted, create a bit of a connection and then get something going between him and her.
The fifth reason why a guy may feel as though all the good women are taken is that…
5. He only feels comfortable being himself around women who are taken
So, if he’s talking to his friend’s girlfriend or wife, then he can feel comfortable because there’s no pressure on him.
He’s not trying to hit on her.
He’s just hanging out, being himself and talking to her.
There’s no intention there to pick her up, so he behaves like himself.
He’s being himself around her.
He’s being the cool, interesting guy that he is.
Yet, when he’s around an attractive girl, an attractive woman that he really likes, then, oh, things suddenly change.
Suddenly he becomes more polite, more nice, more reserved, more hesitant than he is or wants to be.
The cool, interesting side of him is hidden.
He doesn’t want to say the wrong thing and stuff things up.
He is worried that she might not like him.
He thinks that he needs to really try hard to impress her, so he puts on a bit of a character (i.e. he starts being nicer than he normally is, more polite and so on, more reserved).
As a result, single women that he finds attractive aren’t finding him attractive because he’s being too nice, or being too neutral, or he seems a bit awkward.
Yet, he does have a cool side to himself.
He has a confident side to himself as well.
He has an interesting side to himself, but it doesn’t come out around girls that he feels very attracted to.
He suddenly feels a lot of pressure, like he needs to impress her and that causes his behavior and conversation style to change and become unattractive and unappealing to the woman.
So, what’s the solution?
The solution is that you need to prepare yourself to get the result that you want.
In other words, you’ve got to get yourself ready to start a conversation with a woman that you find attractive, keep the conversation going, attract her, get her phone number, or kiss her, depending on where you meet her.
You’ve got to know what to say and do to make that happen so you can get the result.
For example: Would you know what to say if you saw this girl in a supermarket or a grocery store right now?
Would you know how to start a conversation with her, keep the conversation going, keep it interesting, make her feel attracted, connect with her and get her number?
Would you know how to do that?
How about this girl working in a clothing store?
Would you know how to attract her and get her number?
How about if you went to a bar and saw this girl, would you know what to say and do to attract her and pick her up?
Finally, this girl in the park with her dog.
Would you know what to say to start a conversation, make her feel attracted, keep the conversation going, keep it interesting and eventually get her number?
The thing is, most single guys who see a woman in the park with her dog and find her attractive, will assume that she must be taken, or that worry that other people at the park will think he’s a sleaze, he’s harassing women and so on.
Yet, here’s the reality…
If you saw a normal guy walk over and talk to a woman in the park and they were getting along, having a conversation, having a laugh, what would you think?
People aren’t going to come running from all directions towards a man and the woman who are talking, having a laugh and getting along and say, “Stop talking to each other. You two are getting along. You seem like you like each other. Stop talking to each other.”
Instead, most people are just going to go on about their business and not even notice, but the people who do notice will think, “Oh, those two people like each other. They’re having a nice conversation.”
Or, if it’s a single guy or a single woman, they may look on and think, “Why doesn’t that happen to me? I walk my dog and no one comes over and talks to me.”
It’s not harassment or sleazy behavior to have a friendly conversation and create a spark with a woman.
So, if you saw a woman in the park with her dog and you found her attractive and she was sitting down with her dog, or she was walking slowly, or just hanging out in the park with her dog, you can walk over and say something like this to her.
“Hey, cute dog. It’s even cuter than its owner.”
Pause, smile and add, “Just kidding. It’s only a little bit cuter than it’s owner. Hey, I’m Dan, by the way. I was just walking past and I saw you with your dog and I thought, oh cool dog. I’ll come over and say hello. What’s your dog’s name? Maxine. How are you doing little lady? How about you? What’s your name? Jenny. Hello, nice to meet you. Can your dog do any tricks? What? You haven’t taught her any tricks? Come on. She’s got to be able to do backflips and things like that.”
You simply keep a conversation going with her.
You make her laugh, you be confident, you connect with her and you flirt with her.
If both of you are off work that day or if it’s a weekend, you might walk together and get a coffee or get a juice.
If not, you just get her number.
You get her number, call her up, set up a date and then on the date, you’ll most likely kiss her and you might have sex.
If it doesn’t happen on the first date, it may happen on the second or third date and then you and her become a couple.
You’ll be walking along the street and a guy who feels as though all the good women are taken, looks on at you and thinks, “All the good women are taken. See, I like her. Why can’t I get a girl like that? Every girl that I know has already got a boyfriend or a husband. All the good women are taken.”
Yet, how many women is he properly meeting and does he know how to attract those women as he talks to them?
Does he know how to create a connection and then get her number?
Is he actually doing that, or is he meeting the same women over and over again through his friend group or at work?
Is he really venturing out?
If he does venture out and talk to new women, does he know how to attract them?
What’s important to understand is that all these other guys that you see with a girlfriend aren’t going to be better than you.
It’s not as if you’re not an interesting guy.
It’s not as if you can’t make a woman feel attracted as you talk to her, if you know how to do that.
These guys aren’t super amazing guys.
They’re just normal everyday guys in most cases and they’re able to get themselves a pretty girlfriend.
If you think that you can’t do that, then you need to think again.
You can do it.
By the way…
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Alternatively, you can get a phone number, set up a date, kiss her on the first date and have sex on the first, second or third date or whenever you want to do it.
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It’s the easiest way to get laid or get a girlfriend.
So, Why Does Every Girl YOU Like Already Have a Boyfriend?
After reading the points above in this article, what has been the case for you?
Has it been that you’ve just been very unlucky with meeting women (i.e. every woman that you’ve ever liked has already had a boyfriend)?
Has it been that you haven’t been meeting many new women properly? You haven’t really been expanding your options.
Has it been that you’ve been meeting new women, but you haven’t been making them feel attracted? You’ve just been having friendly, neutral, or nice conversations with them.
Have you been assuming that all the pretty women you see are already taken, or assuming that there are no single women in your area?
Has it been that you only really feel comfortable around women that you’re not trying to pick up, that are already taken and that’s when you can be yourself? You haven’t yet worked out how to be comfortable and confident around women that you find attractive.
Well, the solution for that, is to prepare yourself to get the result (i.e. get a girlfriend), by understanding how to attract women as you talk to them.
What happens, when you know how to attract a woman as you talk to her and you do that and you see that she’s attracted, is that you then feel more confident.
You then know that if you talk to another woman, there’s a high chance that you’re going to be able to make her feel attracted.
If you talk to her and you make her feel attracted, your confidence increases even more.
You’re like, “Okay. I’ve got this now.”
Yet, if you just look at women that you find attractive and you don’t talk to them, or if you talk to women that you find attractive and you just have friendly, neutral, or nice interactions with them and therefore don’t create a spark inside of the woman, then you may end up going through your life thinking that all the good women are taken.
You may end up assuming that there’s no quality women left for you, when in fact there are.
The reality is that you can make women feel attracted to as you talk to them.
It’s not possible to attract and pick up every single woman in the world, but it is possible to attract and pick up many single women, including women that you see as being pretty and beautiful.
Other guys have done it.
Don’t go through your life thinking that those guys are better than you and that you can’t do it.
You need to start thinking differently about yourself.
You need to start giving yourself more credit.
You need to start believing in yourself.
You need to start understanding that it’s not difficult.
You CAN make women feel attracted to you as you talk to them.
When you do that, you will then realize that you could have been enjoying your choice with women all this time.
Yet, at least you’re doing it now; at least you’re not going through more years or a decade or more of your life thinking that there are no pretty women for you.
At least you’re not wasting more of your life believing that you can’t get a girlfriend, you can’t get laid and you can’t fix it.
Other guys can do it, but you can’t.
Come on, you CAN do it.