Ignoring a woman only has an effect if she is attracted and interested in you or if you have other women interested in you at the same time.
If she’s not attracted to you, she won’t care if you ignore her or not.
Do you know how to make a woman attracted to you and then hoping that you pay attention her, ask her out, have sex with her or begin a relationship with her? If not, watch this video to understand how it works…
As you will discover from the video above, most women who are attractive will rarely come across a guy who will offer any type of challenge.
Where Guys Go Wrong
There’s a common misconception amongst guys that goes something like this: If you want to get a woman’s attention, just ignore her. She’ll think that you’re cool and don’t even want her and that will spark her interest.
So, is it true? Do women like to be ignored? Will ignoring a woman make her want you?
If a woman doesn’t feel attraction for you, she isn’t going to care if you’re ignoring her. You’ll just be another random male in the surroundings who wants to bang her, but is pretending like he doesn’t.
On the other hand, if she is sexually attracted to you and you are ignoring her, then yes – that will get her curious and wanting to interact with you more.
Ignoring Her Isn’t Always the Answer
There are certain circumstances in which ignoring a woman can work really well.
For instance: Some guys (including myself) use the “ignore technique” when they are already in a relationship with a woman.
If a woman wants more of her man’s attention because she feels a lot of love, respect and attraction for him, then ignoring her will make her reach out to him. However, if a woman has lost a lot of respect and attraction for him during the relationship and he then starts ignoring her, she’ll usually just begin looking for a new man.
Sometimes, a guy wants to know if a woman is interested in him, so he tries ignoring her or “going cold” to see if she’ll feel desperate and worried that she’s losing his interest. A guy like that mistakenly thinks that ignoring her will suddenly make her feel rejected and want to chase him.
Sure, it will sometimes make a woman curious and she will show some interest to him just to check that he was putting on an act and is still super keen on her, but in most cases she just won’t care because he’s not a guy that she is sexually attracted to.
A woman isn’t going to get excited about a guy ignoring her if he hasn’t yet sparked her feelings of sexual attraction.
For example: Some guys use the “nice guy” approach to women where they essentially act (yes act) like they are just interested in being nice, innocent friends. Yet, secretly, the guy is super keen to have sex with her and is hoping that he will get to be her boyfriend one day.
Yet, using that approach leads to rejection in most cases. Watch this video to understand why…
As you will discover from the video above, it’s not the act of being nice that ultimately gets the guy rejected. What does? The fact that he is refusing to say or do anything that will spark the woman’s feelings of sexual attraction.
So, don’t waste any more time thinking that ignoring women (or any other superficial thing e.g. wearing great clothes, building more muscle) is the answer to success with women.
If you want women to like you in a sexual way, you’ve got to trigger their feelings of sexual attraction for you. If you currently aren’t very good at doing that around beautiful women, you need to improve that about yourself or you will find that most women really aren’t that interested in you.
Ignoring an Ex
In most cases, ignoring an ex girlfriend who doesn’t want to be with you anymore isn’t going to make her coming running back to you.
If you want a woman to feel attracted to you and want to be with you, the best approach is to make her feel something for you when you talk to her on the phone or in person.
You can actively CREATE feelings of attraction inside of a woman. You don’t have to sit around hoping that she feels attracted; you can MAKE her feel attracted.
For example: If a girl doesn’t feel much attraction for a guy and he then interacts with her, displays confidence, makes her laugh and feel good around him, she will then feel more attracted to him than before.
Guys Ignoring Girls in Hollywood Movies
Some guys grow up without a male role model who can explain what women are really attracted to about men.
As a result, a lot of the information that guys get about women tends to come via movies, TV or magazines, music videos or from random things that people say during conversation. It’s a big, confused mess of fantasy, fiction and insecure ideas.
What a lot of guys don’t realize is that movies and TV are primarily designed to entertain audiences. In TV shows and movies, the nice, innocent, sweet guy will get the girl in the end after he saves the day, saves the girl or saves the world.
Aww, how sweet.
If you think about it, most people probably wouldn’t pay to go to the movies if there was no fantasy involved.
If it was always a case of, Boy meets girl. Boy chats to girl. Boy likes girl. Girl likes boy. They go to his house and have wonderful, passionate sex together. The end. people would get pretty bored of going to the movies, right?
To entertain the viewers, the film industry creates complex and unrealistic relationships between the men and women on screen to make people laugh, cry, say “Awww…how cute” and so on.
Women are often portrayed as being mean, snobbish and flaky because that is entertaining for women to watch and scary for many men who just don’t understand that it’s not real…it’s just a movie.
In the movies, men are often portrayed as being weak, insecure, bumbling fools who would be so LUCKY to score with a woman. The relationships and interactions on screen lead some men to think that women like to be ignored, or snubbed, or controlled in order to feel attraction for a guy.
Copying what they see on TV sitcoms or in movies, many modern men waste their time ignoring a woman when, in fact, they should just approach her and get something going between them.
A confident guy who is successful with women doesn’t sit around worrying that a girl might slap him (like they do in the movies), tip a drink over his head (like they do in funny TV sitcoms) or coldly reject him in front of everyone (like they do in music videos where the female pop singer is acting all powerful).
Instead, he knows that women will be naturally attracted to his confidence and that he simply needs to guide a woman from a conversation to kissing, sex and into a relationship. It’s actually a very easy thing to do when you start out by making the woman feel very attracted to you. She wants it to happen.
Be the Confident, Forward Moving Guy That Women Are Hoping to Meet
Single women want you to be confident and walk over and talk to them. They don’t want you to be nervous, shy and hesitant when you approach and act like you are worried that it might not be okay to be talking to them.
They want to see that you believe in yourself and that you have the social intelligence to understand that it’s a man’s role to approach a woman and make something happen. There is nothing wrong with approaching a woman, so don’t be afraid to do it.
Walk up to her and make something happen between you.
Do you have the confidence to approach women that you find attractive? If not, watch this video…
As you will discover from the video above, you have a lot of direct control over the way you feel. You can choose to feel nervous if you want to, but it isn’t going to help you succeed with women.
As a man, you’ve got to do what it takes to build up your confidence with women. You will need it when approaching and talking to a woman for the first time, when you’re on a date with her, having sex with her and deep into a relationship with her.
Confidence is one of the things that initially attracts a woman to a guy and it’s also one of the most important traits that maintains a woman’s attraction when in a relationship.
Traits and Behaviors That Turn a Woman Off
It’s very easy to attract women and turn them on, but it’s also very easy to turn them off. For example a guy who ignores a woman instead of confidently making a move may appear to be:
1. Lacking in self confidence
If a guy approaches a woman in a nervous, almost apologetic – sorry for disturbing you – manner, he comes across as being insecure, weak and unsure of himself. Insecurity is a sign of low self confidence and if a guy doesn’t believe in himself and in his worth, a woman certainly won’t either.
2. Lacking in self esteem
Some guys will have such a low sense of self esteem that when he approaches a woman, he is already expecting her to reject him. If a guy acts like he is not good enough for her, a woman will inevitably pick up on this insecurity and she will respond in kind. No woman wants to waste her time trying to build up a guy’s self esteem.
3. Mentally and emotionally weak
A guy who cannot make up his own mind and doesn’t know how to take action and go after what he wants, inevitably comes across as being mentally and emotionally weak. A woman cannot feel a strong attraction for a guy who is weaker than her because this means that she will have to be the dominant one in the relationship and that she will have to take the lead.
This is a turn off because a woman wants a man who can make her feel like a real woman and when she’s doing all the “hard” work, not only doesn’t she feel like a real woman, she also feels like she is not getting the support she needs from him either.
4. Lacking in social intelligence
Social intelligence is the ability to interact well with other people, whether one-on-one or in groups. It is the ability to conduct an interesting and engaging conversation, read body language and respond in a way that makes everyone feel connected to you and happy to be talking with you.
Despite being academically intelligent, some guys are lacking in the area social intelligence and come across as being boring, uncomfortable or even creepy.
When a guy lacks social intelligence he will be unable to engage a woman and make her feel at ease with him and then to feel attraction for him. He will appear “uncool” and her friends will let her know that he doesn’t fit in with them and that she shouldn’t date him.
5. Lacking in conversation skills
The art of conversation is referred to as such, because being able to have an interesting and engaging conversation with a woman (or anyone for that matter) is like creating a work of art. It’s poetry in motion. You’re literally painting a work of art sometimes or playing together like musicians and creating conversational music based on each other’s input.
Conversation with a woman, when done right, should engage, create interest, cause suspense, create anticipation and ultimately sexual attraction. If a guy trying to attract a woman conducts an interview style conversation with her, simply asking her a series of personal questions, he will only succeed in making her feel uncomfortable and tense.
Alternatively, if he only talks about himself, complains about things or blames others (the government, the rich people, the politicians) about his problems, she will be bored and may even feel offended.
At that point, she will not feel any attraction for him and will want to get away from him as soon as possible.
6. Using an approach that doesn’t fit the situation
Some guys do all the wrong things when they are attracted to a woman. They will wait for the woman to make the first move, hoping that she will choose him. They might snub her during a conversation and hope that she will respond favorably to them.
Some may indeed choose to fully ignore her. Unfortunately, if the guy has not established a strong attraction between himself and the woman, all of these approaches (or lack thereof) will only serve to make her feel angry and she will probably be giving out her phone number or going home with someone else.
Start Paying Attention to Women in the Right Way
Getting a woman to like you and want to be with you doesn’t come down to you ignoring her and hoping that she runs over to you and begs to be your girlfriend.
In the real world, you’ve simply got to spark a woman’s feelings of attraction for you, connect with her and begin the process of making her falling in love with you.
These days, many women are open to having sex on the first night or first date, so don’t make the mistake of acting like you’re not interested in sex.
According to a study done in the USA, 55% of couples admitted to having sex on their first date. Another study in Europe found that 70% of women admitted to having experience a one night stand before.
So, rather than ignoring women or playing complicated mind games, just make her feel attracted, connect with her and guide her to kissing, sex and a relationship…