What has gotten into women these days?
It seems that no matter where you meet a beautiful women, whether she works with you, attends the same class at college or university as you, or even if you meet a woman in a nightclub or bar, most of them seem to be stuck up and arrogant, right?
Whenever you approach women or talk to them, they give you the cold shoulder, ignore you or generally just look down on you, right?
After experiencing that sort of reaction from women for a while, it’s only natural that you would begin to wonder, “Why are women so stuck up?”
For guys who find themselves in this situation, they will often turn to their friends for some advice, but since most guys fumble their way into relationships and are not experts at attracting and picking up women, they will likely just agree with you that women are stuck up and too difficult to pick up these days.
Some people may even make the mistake of telling you that women are only interested guys with looks, money, cars and height and that you need to be fashionable, “cool” and “in” to get any attention from them, but they would be wrong.
Women are not stuck up; they simply have a very effective screening system in place to determine whether or not you are compatible with them.
If you approach a woman and she tests your confidence by acting uninterested and sees that you squirm and get nervous in response to that test, then she knows that you’re not strong enough for her.
She doesn’t want to end up accepting a guy who will be weak or wimpy in a relationship, or won’t be able to handle the challenges of life. We live in a very challenging world and women rely on the strength of us men to make them feel safe when times get touch.
If a woman meets a guy and he can’t even handle her initial tests of his confidence, how is he going to handle the challenge of competing with people at work?
When it comes to sexual attraction and a woman submitting and opening herself up to be penetrated by you, she wants to feel as though you are mentally and emotionally stronger than her. In other words, she doesn’t want a wimpy guy pumping away at her and potentially getting her pregnant.
Coming to Terms With the Fact That Women Want You to Be Strong
Some guys get really pissed off at how women expect men to be confident. It really annoys the insecure guys who just want to be liked, loved and appreciated for how nice they are.
Yet, there are very good reasons why women want and need men to be strong.
Watch this video to understand why women are attracted to guys who are mentally and emotionally strong and turned off by guys who are insecure, nervous and self-doubting…
As you will discover from the video above, women are not crazy, mean bitches for wanting a strong guy.
It’s just how nature works and you will either accept that, become stronger and get on with enjoying success with women, or you will fight against it and expect women to like you because you’re a nice guy.
There’s nothing wrong with being a nice guy (I’m nice and I’ve had sex with more than 250 women and I recently got married to my sexy, 22 year old girlfriend who is 15 years younger than me), but you also have to trigger a woman’s feelings of sexual attraction for you.
Watch this video to understand why being nice is not enough to turn a woman on and make her want to begin a relationship with you…
As you will discover from the video above, women do want a good guy, but they don’t want a nice guy who refuses to turn them on and expects to be liked, wanted and desired simply as a result of being nice.
The Downward Spiral
When a guy begins to get rejected by women due to his lack of confidence around them, he begins to head along a downward spiral that makes his problems even worse.
He goes through life with ineffective and harmful thinking patterns (mindsets), such as:
- “Women are so difficult to talk to.”
- “She’s going to shoot me down in flames. Why even bother trying to talk to her?”
- “I’m wasting my time; women are all the same! They are all stuck up bitches.”
- “I’m not good-looking enough for these women.”
- “I always get nervous around beautiful women. Maybe I don’t deserve a beautiful woman and need to settle for an unattractive woman. At least she won’t reject me or leave me.”
- “I will probably be single and lonely for the rest of my life.”
- “Why don’t women like me? What’s wrong with me?”
Women pick up on these insecurities by observing a guy’s body language, behavior, conversation style and the way he takes action.
Since women are mostly attracted to a guy’s confidence, when they detect this weakness they proceed to shoot him down in flames (as he predicted would happen), leaving him to walk away, licking his wounds and asking people, “Why are women so stuck up?”
To make matters worse, a few minutes later, he might see another guy approach the same woman and notice that she is laughing, flirting and touching the new guy and they are getting along beautifully.
Suddenly, she isn’t being the stuck up bitch that he encountered and she’s being all nice and friendly. The rejected guy will most-likely conclude that it’s because the other guy is better looking, has more money or is better dressed than him.
No, no, no!
Let’s be honest, there are many average looking, or even “ugly” guys, who are married to, or dating and having sex with, really hot women.
The woman was most-likely attracted to the new guy because he triggered her feelings of sexual attraction, whereas the other guy was just being nice and friendly. Success with women is not about having more money, driving a better car or wearing more fashionable clothes or being even nicer than you already are.
Likewise, getting rejected by women is not due to them being stuck up.
If you want women to desire you sexually, you have to trigger their feelings of sexual attraction. You can’t expect women to want to have sex with you simply because you’re a nice, intelligent guy.
That is not how the human mating dance works and you need to come to terms with that, otherwise you will continue to experience rejection from women and will likely conclude that they are all stuck up bitches.
“It is not enough to have a good mind; the main thing is to use it well” Rene Descartes, French philosopher, mathematician and writer
Use Your Intelligence to See the True Reality
If you’ve read this far into the article and if you are smarter than the average guy, then you’ve probably already worked out that women are not stuck up and are simply trying to reject guys who are not compatible with them.
Attractive women don’t want to be nice to wimpy guys who aren’t compatible with them, because the guy will get the wrong idea and think that he has a chance.
Most guys don’t even know how to make women feel attracted to them, which is one of the things that beautiful women hate about single guys.
It might piss you off that women hate things about single guys, but if you watch this entire video, you will understand why they behave like that and what you can do to get a positive reaction from them from now on…
As you will discover from the video above, if a woman is attractive, pretty much every guy is willing to have sex with her at least once.
Most guys are too easily impressed by attractive women, which is boring for those women. If a woman is attractive, she wants to meet a guy who makes her feel attracted and then makes her feel as though she will only be able to get a chance with him if she plays her cards right.
Most guys cannot give an attractive woman that type of experience because most guys are 100% interested in a woman immediately, just because she looks good.
When a woman encounters a guy who doesn’t understand the reality she lives in, she will try to get rid of him as quickly and painlessly as possible by acting like she is stuck up or disinterested.
If she doesn’t coldly reject him or act stuck up to make him feel uncomfortable enough to leave her alone, she will be encouraging a clueless guy to think that he has a chance with her, when all she was doing was being nice and not trying to hurt his feelings.
Not all women will act uninterested or cold though.
Some women don’t like to be mean, so they will chat to the guy and be nice to him, even though they have absolutely no intention of ever having any kind of sexual relationship with him.
However, if the woman is attractive, she will eventually get to a point where it is easier (for and the guy) to just brush him off by acting stuck up or mean. This may piss some guys off, but I hope you can now understand where she is coming from.
Women Behave in Response to How You Behave
While it is true that some women are bitches and enjoy rejecting guys for the fun of it, the majority of women are nice and friendly when a guy approaches them to begin an interaction.
Most women are feminine and don’t to have an aggressive interaction with a random guy. Instead, they would rather be nice, friendly, feminine and just see what happens.
Here’s the thing though…
You will only experience that nice, friendly side of women when you approach with relaxed confidence and immediately begin to trigger their feelings of attraction for you (e.g. by being charismatic, funny, charming, masculine, etc).
Many women will test your confidence by initially playing a bit hard to get, but if you can remain relaxed, confident and easy-going, they will eventually drop their guard and open up to you. You have to be prepared to stay in there though and not expect that women be gentle and nice with you when you approach.
If you’re approaching attractive women, they will need to check to see whether you are truly confident or have just worked up a bit of initial courage to approach them and are hoping that they are gentle and nice and give you a chance.
So, make sure that you really do work on building up your confidence to approach women before you head out there trying to meet hot girls…
As you will discover from the video above, you have a lot of direct control over how much or little confidence you feel. Much of it comes down to what you think about yourself and women.
For example: If a guy approaches a group a women already thinking that they are arrogant bitches and will quickly reject him, the women will sense that insecurity in his body language, tone of voice, attitude and conversations style.
Women can sense it when a man is insecure and nervous and to avoid wasting their time with a guy like that, they will simply behave in a stuck up and arrogant manner to turn him off and let him know that he is not a compatible match.
It’s not because women are evil, mean-spirited, bitches or that think they are too cool for anyone else – they are just trying to find the right guy for them.
Instead of looking for reasons why you will fail or why women are too difficult to pick up, focus on reasons why you will succeed and why women would love a guy like you. Then, use that confidence in yourself to spark attraction in women when you first meet them.
Common Mistakes That Lead to Rejection From Women
Attracting women is pretty simple when you understand what types of personality traits and behaviors turn women on and off.
Essentially, you’ve got to be confident and then simply add in any number of other ways of attracting women (e.g. being charismatic, charming, funny, having a masculine vibe, etc). The more attractive personality traits and behaviors you display, the more attractive you will be to women.
Unfortunately, most guys never get taught how to be attractive to women, so they end up making some or all of the following mistakes that lead to women behaving like they are stuck up or simply rejecting guys who attempt to pick them up.
1. Displaying a lack confidence or self-esteem
A woman can spot a guy with low self-confidence and self-esteem from a mile away.
She sees it in the way he walks, stands and in the way he needs to get psyched/pumped up before he can approach her. A confident guy won’t even think of the possibility of being rejected by her and will simply walk right up to her and start chatting and flirting.
The woman will naturally feel an instinctive attraction to his confidence and the conversation will flow smoothly, aided by the all-important element of attraction. Without attraction, conversations with women you like will be boring, closed and without any “spark” to them.
2. Being nervous or tense around attractive women
When a guy approaches a woman and displays nervous behavior such as fidgeting, tense or darting eyes or being too hesitant, it makes her feel uncomfortable and she will reject his advances by being arrogant or behaving in a stuck up manner.
3. Using a shy or guarded conversation style.
Some guys feel as though if they can just show women how polite, well-mannered and shy they are, women will take pity and give them a chance.
4. Being overly polite or accommodating.
Have you ever seen a guy being extra nice, polite and accommodating to a woman that he secretly liked?
His thought process may have been something like, “I’ll be super nice and do everything for her and THEN she will like me.”
Unfortunately for him, that is not how it works. Women have to feel sexual attraction for you and THEN they will consider having sex with you or being your girlfriend. Niceness is only exciting to a woman after you have triggered her feelings of sexual attraction.
She thinks, “Wow, this guy is not only sexy, but he’s also a good guy. I’ve hit the jackpot.”
However, if a guy is just nice to a woman and doesn’t do anything to trigger her feelings of attraction, she might like him as a person and be open to having a polite conversation with him or being his friend, but she won’t feel much or any desire to have sex with him.
Don’t Fight Against the Nature of Women. Learn to Love Women For What They Are
Instead of fighting against a woman’s natural instincts to test whether a guy is mentally and emotionally strong enough for her, learn to love it and see it for what it really is.
If you are the kind of guy who keeps asking, “Why are women so stuck up?” and thinking that they are all bitches who need to stop being so difficult towards you, then you are missing the point.
We live in a challenging world and women seek to breed strength and courage into humanity via men, while we men seek to breed healthy and beauty into the human race via women.
Women want your strength and one of the best ways to find out if you have it, is to test you by acting stuck up or playing hard to get.
If you squirm and get nervous, you fail the test, but if you remain confident, relaxed and can appreciate why women do that, you pass the test and women feel respect and attraction for you.