The secret of how to be sexually attractive to women is to display the personality traits that women are naturally attracted to.
For example: A guy who is confident, charismatic, charming, funny and has a masculine vibe will make a woman feel attracted to him based on those five traits.
However, a guy who is nervous, suppresses his natural charisma because he’s afraid to be himself, lacks charm, is afraid to use risky humor and has a neutral vibe will make a woman feel turned off by him based on those five traits.
You can attract women in more than 100 different ways.
To be sexually attractive to women, you don’t have to trigger all of the 100 different attraction triggers that she has, but if you trigger more than 5, you will be sexually attractive to a lot of women.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use it to be sexually attractive to women…
Your Masculinity is a Huge Turn On For Women
When a woman interacts with a confident guy who thinks, behaves and takes action in a masculine way, she can’t stop herself from feeling sexually turned ON by him.
However, when a woman interacts with a guy who is nervous and thinks, behaves and takes action in a hesitant, shy, self-doubting or feminine way, she can’t stop herself from being sexually turned OFF by him.
This doesn’t mean that you can pick up every woman by being confident and masculine, because not all women are single. However, it does mean that you can spark feelings of attraction in pretty much every woman you meet by being confident and masculine.
What is an example of being masculine?
A guy who has big ambitions in life and is following through on them with unrelenting confidence, drive and belief in himself is masculine.
In contrast, a guy who is afraid of rising up and reaching for his true potential as a man, lacks mental and emotional masculinity. In other words, he lacks the balls to push through challenging situations and overcome obstacles on the way to success.
Women Are Attracted to the Strength in Men and Turned Off By the Weakness
The reason why women feel sexually attraction for confident guys and feel turned off by wimpy guys, is that women are naturally attracted to the strength in men.
This preference for tough men has allowed the human race to become stronger over the generations. Sexual attraction is triggered when we detect certain things in the other person that would be beneficial to our life in general, our happiness, our survival and the survival of any offspring we may have.
A man’s weakness is not beneficial to a woman’s survival and doesn’t make her feel protected and safe.
When we men see a physically beautiful woman, our attraction instincts are automatically turned on because it would be beneficial to breed with her (e.g. better looking children, favorable treatment from others, more enjoyable sex, a feeling of pride for having a beautiful woman, etc).
On the other hand, when we see a physically unattractive woman, our attraction instincts remain off because there is no benefit to breeding with a woman like that.
For a woman’s attraction to a man, it’s not about looks. Why? A man’s physical appearance is NOT the most beneficial thing to her survival.
For most of human history and still to this day, a man’s level of confidence, masculinity and social intelligence directly impacts his ability to survive, prosper and to protect himself, her and any offspring they may have.
A good-looking guy doesn’t mean that she will be protected or that he will be able to succeed in the world. It will just mean that he is good looking.
So, when it comes to your sexual attractiveness and the all-important topic of how to be sexually attractive to women, FORGET what the TV and magazine advertisements are telling you. It’s NOT about cologne, suits, haircuts, muscles, cars, money or penis size; it is about confidence, masculinity (how you think, behave and take action) and social intelligence.
An Alpha Male vs. a Lower Ranking Male
The human being is a special creature and clearly the most intelligent being on the planet (in terms of how we judge intelligence anyway).
That said, we do share a lot in common with animals when it comes to selecting a mate and breeding.
We may have a “dating scene” and be able to sleep with many women before deciding to breed, but if you take a closer look at our behaviors and attraction mechanisms, you will see that we’re not very different to animals when it comes to selecting a woman to breed with.
For example, a female lion will select the most physically strong lion that dominates the other males.
To her, he represents her best chance of survival in a world where animals attack and kill each other to rule a territory.
However, a human female does not need a man to go around beating up, biting or killing other men to show her that he can take care of her, himself and any offspring they may have. Instead, she needs to see that he is mentally and emotionally strong enough to handle the challenges of our complex human society.
Sexually Unattractive Behavior
Every guy has the potential to be sexually attractive to women.
However, if he displays the following behaviors and traits, women will naturally feel turned off by him…
A lack confidence and self-esteem
A guy who lacks confidence and has low self-esteem will automatically come across as insecure and nervous in his interactions with women.
His low self-esteem will cause him to doubt himself and the woman will instinctively pick up on it. She will sense that he doesn’t feel as though he is good enough to be with her and she will reject him because of it.
Why? Women don’t want to feel as though they are doing you a favor by being with you; they want to feel lucky to be with you.
2. Being too nice
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being nice to women. In fact, I recommend that you be a good guy if you want to experience lifelong success with women and in life in general.
Women DO like men who are nice, but they don’t a nice guy who is shy, nervous and anxious. They want a good guy who is confident, masculine and socially intelligent (i.e. a cool guy) in addition to being nice because that is attractive.
Watch this video to understand why nice guys usually get rejected by women and what you can do to succeed with women, while still being a good guy…
As you will discover from the video above, there is nothing wrong with being nice to a woman, but you ALSO have to make her feel sexually attracted to you.
When a guy is just nice to a woman, it doesn’t trigger her feelings of sexual attraction and therefore, there is no reason for her to want anything more than a polite conversation or friendship.
3. Being mentally or emotionally weaker than the woman
Women play all manner of mental games to test if a guy is an alpha male.
For example: She may snub him, act offended or act uninterested, interested and turned off all in the same day just to see how he will react.
A guy who cannot weather these “tests” with strength and confidence will reveal himself to be emotionally and mentally weaker than her. Since most women dream of being with a guy who is mentally and emotionally stronger than they are, a guy like this will get rejected almost every time.
4. Being neutral or feminine
A woman can only feel like a real woman (i.e. feminine, girly, free to be emotional) if the guy thinks, behaves and feels like a masculine man.
If a guy cries at the movies or gets overly emotional if his car gets scratched, then he’s not behaving like a real man.
A man who is more in touch with his feminine side than a woman is definitely not going to inspire any lasting sexual attraction in her. Although some women will put up with it for a while (before breaking up with the guy or cheating on him), they do not want to feel as though they are the dominant, masculine one in the relationship.
5. Being too afraid to flirt or show sexual interest in a woman
Flirting is essential for interacting with a woman all the way from the first conversation through to a lifetime relationship.
If a guy does not know how to flirt appropriately with a woman he will struggle to create sexual chemistry between himself and a woman during a conversation. He may get lucky one day and meet a woman with whom the sexual chemistry happens automatically, but it will fade away when the initial lust of the relationship wears off.
6. Being too polite and reserved when talking to women
Great conversation skills are a sign of social intelligence and that is a quality that modern women definitely look for in guys.
When a guy approaches a woman, bores her to tears with polite conversation or asks her a series of questions that make her feel as though she’s being interrogated, he’s not going to be getting laid anytime soon.
A guy like that will be wondering how to be sexually attractive to women and since he doesn’t know what you are now learning, he’ll likely get sucked into thinking that it’s all about looks, money, height and muscles.
7. Placing women above him in terms of dominance
Women want to be with a man who feels like “the man” around her. Although women may behave as though they want to boss men around when you see them on TV shows, music videos, etc – that is not what women really think or want.
Women behave that way around guys to test how confident and alpha the guy really is. If a woman can dominate a guy during a simple conversation or interaction, how is she going to feel dominated in the bedroom?
Women don’t go around admitting that they want to feel submissive around a guy, but if you pay attention, you will see that it is the men who make women feel girly (and submissive) around them who are the ones that women chase and lust after. It’s not the super nice, polite, fearful guys who feel intimidated by women.
Be Sexually Attractive to Women Right Now
If you sincerely want to know how to be sexually attractive to women, then stop wasting money on colognes, cars, body building supplements, expensive clothes and shoes, creams and lotions.
Take some time to improve your ability to attract women with your confident, masculinity and personality. When you do that, it won’t matter if you are bald, overweight or wearing non-designer clothes, women WILL feel sexually attracted to you.
Don’t believe it is possible for to easily attract women?
Watch this video and you will see that it doesn’t matter what excuse a guy makes up for his lack of success with women, it always comes down to one, simple thing…
Attraction is an automatic reaction that humans (and animals) experience and if you’re not making women feel attraction to you now, then you are doing it wrong – it’s as simple as that.
Learning how to set off a woman’s feelings of sexual attraction is a quick and simple process. Once you know it, you’re set for life and can get on with enjoying sex, love and relationships with beautiful women.
Are you willing to give this a try?
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Dan,
I’ve gone through many of your courses. And it has improved my attractiveness, confidence, and everything about my life.
There are two girls at my workplace that I believe are into me. One of them lights up every time I come in, flirts with me, and we sort of act like we are married. She admitted that she used to have a crush on me. She grabs my arms and feels my muscles often (I’m not if by any means. I’m slightly bigger than Mark the Master). There is strong eye contact between us. We sort of act like we are married. And I’ve always taken it as a joke, like flirting, but after learning more and more about this stuff I think she is into me. Am I right about this?
Also, the other girl was suggesting that we hang out, was asking me if I’m seeing anyone, and was asking me what I was doing after work that night. She couldn’t keep her eyes off me, was introducing me to her friends when we went on break together, who I confidently conversated and messed with them. I texted her and she replied to one message but didn’t respond after that. Then I came in the other day, and she went far out of her way to get attention from me. Yelling my name from across the room, I didn’t respond because I was busy so she got up and came over to me. She was also flirting with me and couldn’t keep her eyes off me. I’m not sure how to move things forward with her, however. Is she also into me?
I set up plans to go to a diner after work with both of them and some coworkers in a few days.
Hey Jason
Thanks for your positive feedback and for sharing your success.
Yes, it sounds as though she likes you. Going to dinner with both of them will be a good idea. Just be confident, make them both feel sexually attracted, flirt with them (in a way where you’re not trying to get anywhere) and then just sit back and let them compete over you.
Cheers
Dan
Hi Dan,
I seem to occasionally feel like a woman is attractive to me but I have no idea how to go about finding out if I’m just imagining the chemistry or not. For example, I was at the bank the other day and I felt like the teller’s attraction for me was growing and growing throughout the conversation. In my mind, though, I just kept telling myself that I’m imagining the attraction in our eye contact. I want to ask women out but the few times I have in the past, I’ve gotten rejected. I’m tired of not getting the attraction to genuinely build between me and women I’m attracted to. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I’m easy to converse with and I feel like I’m charming. What could be the problem?
Hi Adrian
Thanks for your question.
What did you expect the bank teller to do? Tell you that she likes you? Ask for your number? It’s not up to her to do anything more than show some interest. After that, it’s up to you to be confident enough to make a move and get her phone number.
With bank tellers and other women who work in “serious” environments, you can’t always get the phone number on the first interaction. Instead, you have to build up some attraction and interest and then come back another day to build on it again before getting the number. We talk about the dynamics of meeting different women (and what to say and do in each situation) in this program: http://store.themodernman.com/products/21_great_ways_to_get_a_girlfriend.html
Cheers
Dan
Dan,
Whats your view on that guy Elliot Rodger in the states who killed those women in May because he didn’t feel like he got any interest attraction from women? Watched a documentary on it the whole time I was just thinking themodernman themodernman!
While obviously what he did was completely wrong I kind of felt sorry for him he was a good looking kid just ill informed he didnt have to do that <such an understatement but its a complete waste of his life and others.
They showed clips of his rants i was constantly thinking in my mind 'you just don't get it' its scary to because some of the things he was saying are not too far from what a lot of guys say on here. Obviously not saying anyone would do that but just that mindset guys are in.
Cheers
Hi Dan
Thanks for your question.
I feel sorry for him and for the people he killed. Had he come to my site (I checked – no record of him as a customer), I would have been able to help him. The poor guy thought that because he had a nice car, designer sunglasses and good clothes that it would make women like him.
I watched a few mins of a couple of his videos and he was a twisted little kid that had been led astray by the media. I think his parents should be ashamed of themselves for letting him develop those beliefs.
Anyway, I’m doing my best to increase the popularity of The Modern Man to help avoid tragedies like that one. I’ve just started making more Youtube videos, so I hopefully I can reach guys like him and help get rid of the brainwashed, consumer society view they have of being a man in today’s world.
Cheers
Dan
Hello gentleman! I’m the proud owner of the flow and the modern relationship, and I will boldly speak to how successful they have made me with women. My current girlfriend and I have been together for about a year, and I’m seeking some advice. In my childhood, I experienced some sexual abuse which causes some insecurities naturally. Also in a previous marriage, my ex was a sex abuse victim and it created a very frustrating and unsatisfying sex life. These have been the largest sexual experiences I have had up until this current relationship. And now I’m finding that some insecurities and traumas from the past are affecting me now. When my girlfriend and I get frisky, I sometimes can’t get aroused, or if I get her as it won’t last. As you can imagine this causes frustration and confusion for my girlfriend, and for me as well.it’s been affecting how she feels that I view her, even though I still flirt and compliment her regularly. Do you have any advice on how to talk with her about this in a real man kind of way? I read plenty of the articles on sex and relationships, and it’s easy to get down on myself because in the bedroom I find it hard to be that guy sometimes. Even though, in the rest of the relationship, I have no problems being the alpha male. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
Hey Matt
Thanks for sharing your success so far.
Man, sorry to hear about what happened to you when you were young. My advice here would be to have a honest chat to her about what happened and let her know that it still troubles you. However, from that moment onwards, you absolutely must then begin to make progress away from feeling troubled about your past.
She won’t be able to maintain her respect and attraction for you if you keep going downhill with it. However, she will be proud, respectful and loving towards you if you show her (i.e. via your behavior, body language, vibe, conversation, etc) that you are becoming stronger everyday. She’s got to see the progress away from the weakness. That is what counts. She needs to see your strength.
About not being able to get it up for her at the moment because of the thoughts clouding your mind: In a case like yours, there is nothing wrong with using Viagra. Laugh about it with her and say that until you stop worrying about what happened to you in the past, you are going to give yourself a boost with some Viagra because there is nothing more that you love than being inside of her.
In life, you don’t have to be embarrassed about anything if you don’t want to. You can literally laugh with her about the idea of using Viagra and then just look on the bright side (i.e. that you get to enjoy sex together for longer).
Also, be sure to make it clear that you find her sexy and appealing. Check out point 2 on this post: http://www.themodernman.com/blog/5-ways-to-make-a-woman-want-to-have-sex-with-you.html
Cheers
Dan