When a guy says to me, “Dan, I want my wife back. What can you do to help?” he is usually at the point where he has tried everything he can think of and realized that if he doesn’t get some professional help, he may lose his wife forever.
You can get your wife back, but you have to make sure that you don’t make the classic mistakes that husbands make, which turn their wife off even more.
Watch this video to understand where a lot of men go wrong and what you should do to get this done right…
As you will discover by watching the video above, if you have truly changed and are now able to make your wife feel the type of love, respect and attraction that she wants in the marriage, she will naturally begin to become open to giving it another shot.
However, if you expect her to come back to you because you want it or because you think she should stick to the vows she made on the wedding day, she’s most-likely going to keep saying no.
If you want to get your wife back for real, you’ll most-likely need to make some real changes about yourself and get an up-to-date education on modern relationships, being a man and making a woman happy.
In the past, men didn’t have to learn about this sort of thing.
A woman had to get married and then stick by her man for life, even if she was unhappy.
Obviously, that is no longer the case in our modern society. To keep a marriage together for life, a man now needs to know how to deepen his wife’s feelings of love, respect and attraction over time, rather than taking her for granted.
Personally speaking, I recently got married to my sexy, 22 year old girlfriend (she’s 15 years younger than me) after living a playboy lifestyle for about 12 years.
Now that I’m married, I have a tremendous appreciation for how important it is to keep a marriage together for life. The sense of peace, security and happiness that you get from a truly loving marriage is like nothing else.
If you do want to get some professional help to get your wife back, I hope that you decide to learn from me here at The Modern Man.
Why Did She Leave You?
The first step in the process of getting your wife back is to understand the real reasons (not the vague ones she probably gave you like, “I don’t love you anymore” or “I don’t know if I want to be married” or “I need time to figure out what I want”) why she left the marriage.
Only when you know the real reasons for the split, will you be able to make accurate changes that get her attention and make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for you.
Watch this video for more info…
As you will discover from the video above, you can guide your wife back into the marriage by taking her through the 3-step process in reverse.
First, you need to get her respect back, then get her to feel attracted to you again and when that happens, she will naturally begin to reconnect with the love.
Here’s an example…
Let me tell you a story about Steve (Not his real name. I’ve changed his name for privacy reasons), who was a phone coaching client of mine.
When Steve came to me, he felt as though the situation with his wife was hopeless because she walked out on him saying, “I want to spend some time alone to think about where my life is headed. I don’t feel the same way anymore and I don’t even know if I want to be married.”
At that point, Steve and his wife had been married for three years and although they’d had their fair share of ups and downs, Steve had no idea why she was so deeply unhappy in their marriage.
In his words, her decision to walk away was like “a bolt out of the blue” and it came as a complete shock to him.
He tried calling her to get her to explain herself further, but even though he left several messages every day for the first week, she didn’t return any of his calls. Eventually, she left a message on his cell phone saying she would call when she was ready to talk.
Steve was angry because this was HIS wife. He felt a certain level of ownership over her because they’d been together so long and had vowed to stay together for life on their wedding day.
Understandably, Steve was in shock and couldn’t eat or sleep properly for more than a week following his wife’s message. Making some of the same classic “break up mistakes” as most guys make, Steve then continued to leave messages on her phone begging her to come back.
He pleaded with her by saying, “I can change, just tell me what it is you want me to do and I’ll do it,” but without realizing it he was actually delaying her call by turning her off even further. Why? The more he called and the more he begged and pleaded, the more attraction and respect she lost for him as a man.
The bottom line is that Steve’s wife needed time to think about her feelings for him.
At the time of walking away, she felt as though she had fallen out of love with him, so the more he called and behaved in a desperate and needy way, the less attracted she felt and the more she wanted to distance herself from the negative feelings she experienced whenever he contacted her.
Saying to his, “I can change” was seen nothing more than an empty promise in her eyes. Why? She knew that he didn’t yet understand what she wanted him to change and was simply saying that he would change. Yet, what would he change?
Women don’t want a man to say, “I will change, just tell me what you want me to do” because she doesn’t want to have guide and lead a man through life, like a mother would do for her young son.
Whether a woman is honest enough to admit it or not, she dreams of being in a relationship with a man with confidence, masculinity and the ability to take the lead and let her relax into being a feminine, girly woman.
What Steve needed to do to get his wife back was to rediscover and redevelop the qualities that she loved about him when they first met. He needed to show that he was not only the man she fell in love with, but was now a better man.
Getting a woman back is about changing and actually letting her experience the new, improved version of you. You can’t just expect her to take you back when it’s going to be the same old thing as before.
Steve was a bit resistant with some of my methods at first (because it really pushes you outside your comfort zone and gets you to grow and transform very rapidly), but he put his trust in me, followed the steps of my system and he then got another chance with his wife.
The last I heard from Steve, he and his wife were happily back together and had planned a weekend away together.
This is a typical type of success story from my clients because the truth is that it is possible to get a woman back. Watch this video to understand why…
As you will discover from the video above, the love that your wife has for you is now simply in the background.
She will only want to reconnect with that love if you can start making her feel the type of respect and attraction she sees as necessary for a marriage to be healthy, happy and relevant.
Missing the Signs
Relationships, marriages included, rarely fall apart “out of the blue.”
In Steve’s case, he thought that his wife had dropped a bomb on him “all of sudden” by just changing her feelings “overnight.” However, it turns out that she had given him plenty of warnings verbally, with her behaviour, with her body language and through her actions to try and tell him how unhappy she was.
She wasn’t always completely clear and direct about it because women tend to avoid being a man’s teacher and will usually just give hints and hope that he changes. It didn’t really matter what she said or did, because Steve would completely miss her signs, not worry about them or misinterpret them as her just being a moody woman.
In his mind, she was his wife and she would stick around for life because that’s what married people do.
Yet, what he didn’t realize is that it’s no longer 1905 where a woman felt ashamed to get a divorce or separate from her husband. Unfortunately, in today’s world, separations, affairs and divorce are often glamorized by TV shows, music videos and Hollywood movies.
If you want your marriage to last for life, you’ve got to be able to deepen your wife’s feelings of love, respect and attraction for you.
A big part of that is being the type of man that she can look up to and respect, rather than you taking a backseat in the marriage and expecting her to lead the way and be the strong one for both of you.
It doesn’t matter how independent, confident or successful (in her career) that a woman may be, she will always yearn to be with a man who has what it takes to make her feel like a real woman (i.e. girly, feminine and free to be emotional).
A woman doesn’t want to have to take on the lead and guide a man through life. Instead, she wants to relax into being feminine and not have to worry about taking care of her man as though he’s a lost, insecure man who needs her to protect him.
More often than not, the women in “TV marriages” are the ones wearing the pants and taking charge of everyday life. The henpecked husbands just go along with everything the wife wants because that’s what makes her happy – or so he thinks – and when she’s happy, he’s happy. This is not what makes women happy.
The more a woman is put in the position of “taking charge” the less feminine she feels. The less feminine she feels, the less sexual attraction she feels for her man.
When the natural masculine/feminine balance becomes lost in a relationship, the all-important sexual spark also begins to die and then neither party feels truly happy, satisfied and balanced.
Getting Your Wife Back For Real
If you’re saying to yourself, “I want my wife back,” just know this…
You can begin the process of getting your wife back by changing your statement from “I want my wife back” to, “I want to become an irresistibly attractive man that my wife will want back.”
The qualities that you will need to get her back can be learned and I can teach you right now.
Are you prepared to do whatever it takes to get your wife back?