The secret of how to get your ex-girlfriend to want you back is to trigger both painful and positive emotions within her.
Painful emotions include jealously, loss and regret, while positive emotions include respect, attraction and love.
Before your ex-girlfriend broke up with you, she would have lost respect for you, stopped feeling attracted to you and then fallen out of love with you.
So, to get her to want you back, you need to guide her through the respect, attraction and love process in reverse. While doing that, you also need to be making her feel the painful emotions that will cause her to come running back to you, or at least become open to seeing you again.
First, watch this video to understand the respect, attraction and love process in more detail…
Second, watch this video to understand where guys mess up when trying to make an ex-girlfriend jealous…
Third, watch this video to learn 5 classic mistakes that guys make when trying to get an ex-girlfriend back and what you should do instead if you want to be successful…
As you will discover by watching the videos above, to get your ex girlfriend to want you back, you will need to change the way she currently perceives you.
Just like you might have hated someone in the past (e.g. a person you worked with or went to school with) and then really liked that person later on when they changed their behavior or the way they communicated with you, the same applies to getting an ex-girlfriend to want you back.
At the moment, she will have a negative perception about who you are and how you make her feel, but those perceptions about you are not permanent.
You can change the way she feels about you by changing the way that you thinks about you in her mind. It’s basic human psychology and any guy can do it, as long as he has been taught how.
Going Through the Process of Getting Her Back
Changing her perception of you and making her want you back is a step-by-step process that you can go through, which I teach in my program Get Your Ex Back: Super System
First, you need to discover exactly why she broke up with you (most women don’t share the real reasons for the break up, so in my program, I explain 70+ subtle and obvious reasons why women break up with guys) and then make the exact changes that she really wants you to make.
For example: Some women will have broken up with a guy because he wasn’t being enough of a man for her. Yet, the guy doesn’t know that and is saying the wrong thing to her, “I’ll do anything. I’ll change. I’ll treat you better. I’ll take you on a vacation. I’ll do anything – just tell me what you want.”
That’s not what she wants to hear though. Telling your ex girlfriend that you will change is not enough; you actually have to fix the precise things that she really broke up with you because of, as well as improve your ability to make her feel the type of love, respect and attraction that she needs to feel to justify being in a relationship.
Top 3 Pitfalls to Avoid
Here are three common mistakes that guys make when they’ve been dumped and are desperately trying to get their ex-girlfriend to want them back:
1. Being Clingy or Too Possessive
Ironically, the more desperate you are to get an ex-girlfriend to want you back, the less likely it is that she’s going to want you back.
In the movies, the desperate “loveable loser” character will beg and plead and then do something really nice for the girl and get another chance. However, in real life, desperation is not an attractive trait in a man and any hint of desperation in your thoughts or actions will completely turn her off.
In fact, it could be that your relationship became an ex relationship because of “desperate” patterns of behavior such as clinginess or over-possessiveness and unless you can demonstrate that you’ve changed your ways, she’s not going to be open to taking you back.
2. Begging, Crying or Pleading
Many guys who are desperate to get an ex-girlfriend back, often make the mistake of crying and showing emotional weakness, which is a huge a turn off for women.
When this is the case, a guy might try to win her back by sending her a sweet love letter, texting the crap out of her, filling up her Facebook inbox with messages, crying to her on the phone or pouring his heart out in long-winded voicemail messages.
He might even whimper or cry again and say things like, “I’m nothing without you. I feel lost in the world. I need you” not knowing that such weakness and lack of direction is not attractive to women.
To a guy who is behaving like that, he may think that he’s doing the right thing by demonstrating how important she is to him, yet it simply makes things worse.
Women are turned on by guys who make them feel like a real woman (i.e. she feels feminine, girly and free to be emotional) and are turned off by guys who make them feel as like a big sister or mother figure.
Essentially, whether a woman admits to your face or not, she wants you to make HER feel girly as a result of how masculine you are.
So, if you’re wondering how to get your ex-girlfriend to want you back, you now have part of the answer: Become more of a man than you already are right now. The more emotional masculinity and maturity you can display when you interact with her, the more she will feel respect and attraction for you.
Of course, a lot of the guys who are trying to get an ex-girlfriend back have been blocked by her on social media and she is no longer answering his calls or replying to his texts.
If you’re in that situation with your ex, I recommend that you use the techniques from my program, Get Your Ex Back: Super System
Using my approach, she will get on a phone call with you (I guarantee it) and she will agree to meet up with you in person.
3. Trying to Make Her Feel Pity
Women want to be in a relationship with a man whom they can look up to and respect.
Sometimes, a guy who has been dumped by a woman he loves will make the mistake of behaving as though he’s going to be lost, destroyed and hopeless without her in his life.
Using that approach, he might be able to make her feel guilty for a few hours or days, but she will eventually realize her mistake and break up with him for good.
Women are attracted to strong men who have the emotional strength required to make a woman feel protected and safe in a relationship. Being able to do that makes a man stand out as a real man amongst other guys and gives him a presence that women feel sexually attracted to and respectful of.
If you want your ex-girlfriend to respect you, it’s important that you show her that you’re happy, confident and moving forward in life with or without her. However, when you do talk to her in person, you also need to have the emotional strength and courage to also tell her that you love her and still want her in your life.
Don’t put on an act of being happy, confident and moving forward in life without her if that isn’t true for you. It has to be genuine or else she will see right through it.
If she’s unable to determine whether you are putting on an act or being truthful, all she has to do to find out is show some interest in you, say she is thinking of giving the relationship another chance and then when you are excited, she will pull back her interest and say that she changed her mind.
If you were truly happy, confident and moving forward in life with or without her, you would see that as her loss and keep moving on without her. However, if it was an act, you would become desperate and insecure again and try to get her to change her mind.
Getting Her Back For Good
Taking all of the above into consideration, knowing how to get your ex-girlfriend to want you back comes down to showing her (not telling her) that you understand the real reasons for the break up and have already changed.
If you have changed in the ways that she needs you to, then she will naturally begin feeling respect and attraction for you again. If you do that right, she will also begin to reconnect with her feelings of love for you.
If you’re not sure how a woman’s attraction for a man really works, watch this video for the full explanation…
As you will discover from the video above, you have a lot of direct control and influence over how much or little attraction your ex-girlfriend will feel for you.
If you display the personality traits and behaviors that naturally make a woman feel respect and attraction for a guy, she will feel the attraction and begin to feel like she wants you back or at least wants to meet up with you again to see how she feels when interacting with you in person.
Here are 3 examples of personality traits that naturally attract women…
Women are instinctively attracted to confident men because this world that we live in is challenging and life isn’t always easy and without challenges.
When a guy is trying to get his ex-girlfriend back, he usually displays a lot more insecurity than confidence, which turns his ex off even more.
To be able to make a woman feel like a real woman (i.e. feminine, girly, free to be emotional), you need to think, behave, feel and take action in a masculine way around her.
When a guy is trying to get his ex-girlfriend back, he often displays a lack of masculinity by being emotionally sensitive and weak, which turns his ex off even more.
3. Social Intelligence
Social intelligence is essentially your ability to get along effectively with other people.
For most of human history, resources like food have been hard to hunt and gather, so women developed an instinctive attraction for guys who have the social intelligence to make friends with others and be respected by others, especially alpha males.
When times get tough, it’s the guys who have the most social alliances who are able to survive the easiest, whereas guys who are outsiders often have a harder time getting by.
Now that we live in a modern society with supermarkets and grocery stores, a woman’s instinctive attraction for social intelligence has not disappeared.
Social intelligence is now an important trait that allows a guy to get promoted at work or to succeed in business by being effective at building positive relationships with other people.
When your ex-girlfriend notices that you have become more socially intelligent than you used to be, she will automatically realize that other women would love to be with the new you and she will begin to look at you in a more positive light.
Those are just three of many different ways that I will teach you to help you re-attract your ex girlfriend.
To get your ex-girlfriend to change her current negative perception of you and begin to want you back, she has to experience a renewed sense of attraction and respect for you first. That is something that I can teach right now.
It is very simple, natural and automatic and once you know how to do it, you have that power over her (and other women) for life.
Are you ready to begin the exciting process of making your ex-girlfriend want you back?
Can you imagine how good it will feel when she’s finally back in your arms and saying that she loves you?
Can you imagine how proud you will feel of yourself for accomplishing that?
It’s an awesome feeling to get an ex back and if you’re serious about getting her back, I’m ready to show you the way right now…