The secret of how to be a cool guy is to be the guy who can:
- Naturally attract women with his personality and confidence.
- Make other guys respect him and want to be his friend by being a good guy alpha male.
- Be charismatic and charming around people.
- Remain confident, focused and driven as he goes after his biggest dreams and goals in life. He is then the type of guy that others look up to and respect.
The first one on the list above is the ability to naturally attract women with your personality and confidence. Are good at making women feel attracted to your personality and confidence?
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Being a guy who can naturally attract women ensures that women like you, guys want to be your friend and people admire you because you have hot women in your life.
However, when a guy doesn’t know how to attract women, he’s often looked upon as a bit of loser and outsider when he’s around the “cool crowd” or beautiful women. Attracting women is easily the most important skill that you need to have to be considered a cool guy by others.
Being Cool is Easy…For Some Guys
There are some guys in this world who make everything look so easy.
They seem to have the coolest jobs, they always seem to hang out in the coolest places and they definitely always appear to have the most beautiful women on their arms.
For the guys who don’t have any of those things, these guys are the epitome of “cool.”
Understandably for guys who feel that they are “un-cool” finding a quick fix solution is at the top of their agenda. How to be a cool guy however, is not about just about how a guy presents himself physically, what he has accomplished in life or what he does for a job; it is about how he feels about himself.
What Does it Mean to Be Cool?
Being cool is not about being just like a certain guy you’ve seen in a movie or on TV.
Coolness means something different in every culture and to every person. For example, what some people will describe as cool clothing – others will view as weird, or a person who is a cool celebrity in one country will be considered a geek somewhere else.
However, the one thing that everyone will agree on, is that being cool is the ability to be comfortable with yourself and with who you are.
Of course advertising and TV bombard us with so many images and ideas about what they say is cool, that often the one thing that makes a person cool, their ability to be themselves, is the one thing that gets lost in all the hype.
The media is designed to sell us stuff and in their attempts to do this they will convince you that to be a cool guy you will have to:
- Wear a certain cologne.
- Drive a particular make of car.
- Wear a certain brand of clothing.
- Hang out at a specific club / bar / restaurant or holiday resort.
However, coolness is not something that you buy in a shop or wear on your body. It’s about who you are as a person; your confidence, your belief in yourself and how that allows you to be your true self all the time.
So, stop looking in the mirror and trying to work out how you can look cooler. Coolness comes from within. Believe in yourself and your sex appeal to women and you will naturally exude the type of vibe that attracts women and makes other men respect you.
Mistakes That Guys Make When Trying to Be Cool
Often, guys will do almost anything to be seen as being “cool” by those they are looking to impress.
Unfortunately, trying too hard in that way has the opposite effect and the guy ends up revealing that he doesn’t believe in himself, doesn’t think he is good enough “as is” and has to keep trying to hopefully impress others, in the hope that they might find him cool. Common mistakes that guys make in their efforts to be a cool guy can include:
1. Pretending to be someone he’s not
Guys like this will put on a front (a fake or exaggerated persona) so that others will perceive them as being cool.
They might pretend to like things that they secretly hate, hang out in places where other “cool” people hang out even though they don’t like to be there and act in ways that are against their personal beliefs and opinions, just to fit in.
2. Following all the latest trends in the hope of fitting in
As mentioned earlier, the media can easily convince guys that buying the latest cologne, shirt, watch or car will make him cool. When in conversation, he will continually bring up the brand of clothing he is wearing, the cool car he drives, the watch he wears (that a certain celebrity happens to wears) and so on.
People will instinctively realize that he is insecure and unsure of himself and is looking to use material possessions to prove his coolness, instead of realizing that coolness is about who he is as a person, with or without any material possessions.
3. Constantly changing his opinions to suit others
Some guys will change their opinions depending on the crowd they are with at the time; even if they secretly disagree with what is being said. When people pick up on that, they will quickly realize how uncool the guy is. He’s so unsure of himself and so lacking in self-confidence that he is willing to forego who he is, in the hope of being seen as cool.
4. Being a people pleaser
Always doing what others want in the hope that they like you, is a surefire way to appear uncool. People pleasers are perceived as being mentally and emotionally weak; the exact opposite to what cool guys are.
How To Be a Cool Guy: Be Your Best, Most Confident and Authentic Self
Have you ever heard someone say, “Just be yourself?” It’s actually great advice.
Yet, most people cannot be themselves due to their fears, nervousness and anxiety brought on by their ineffective mindsets.
Unless you are truly confident in yourself around people and women, then you’re not going to be considered a cool guy by most people you meet.
Sure, lower-ranking males will consider you to be cool as long as you’re a little bit more confident than them, but if you want the “cool crowd” to see you as a cool and beautiful women to see you as a cool guy they’d love to have sex and a relationship with, then you need to have the confidence of an alpha male.
When it comes to the topic of how to be a cool guy, just don’t get sucked into thinking that the latest deodorant, hairstyle, car or piece of clothing will finally turn you into the cool guy you’ve always dreamed of. If you want to be a cool guy for real, you’ve got to focus on improving YOU, not your wardrobe.
To be a cool guy, you need to:
1. Believe in yourself
Know what you want in life and believe that you can and will achieve it, no matter what.
2. Stand up for yourself
Being a people pleaser and allowing others to push you around (because you’re too afraid to say anything in case it makes them not like you)is not cool and will basically make you appear like a weak-minded loser. I hate to use the “L” word (loser), but it really does apply.
3. Be assertive, but flexible
Just because you stand up for your opinions, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be open to listening to what others have to say and visa versa. A guy who is secure in himself and stands up for what he believes in, but who also respects others for their beliefs is definitely a cool guy.
4. Be loving
Caring about others is a sign of someone who is confident in himself and who is emotionally secure. Listen to people when they speak and allow them to feel good about themselves, but at the same time, don’t let them push you around or overlook you.
5. Command respect
Do this in a light-hearted way without being aggressive or overly-serious about it. Let people know what you want, but also take what they want into account also.
As long as you aim for win-win situations (i.e. both of you benefit from the situation) and don’t let people push you into win-lose situations (i.e. they win/they benefit and you lose/you don’t benefit), you command respect in the right way.
6. Have purpose in life
If you have purpose in life, are reaching for your true potential and are on your way to success (or already successful), other guys will brag about you to their friends and will want to be around you more.
7. Be yourself
Having the confidence to truly be yourself is a sure sign of coolness. You don’t have to be perfect to be cool. Everyone has self-perceived flaws, but to be at ease with them is the epitome of cool.
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