Finding your life purpose is the most important thing you will ever do as a man.
Without a clear purpose in life, you will be floating around in the wind like a plastic bag. You will have no direction and will be easily swayed.
When you are a man of purpose (i.e. you have a mission and you’re following through on it), you glide through the air like a bullet and head directly towards your target.
Even if there is a bit of wind (i.e. obstacles that come up along your way to your target), you have such force and determination that you stay on target and reach your destination. If you get knocked down, you get right back up, reload the gun and shoot for the target once again.
Men of Purpose Are Attractive to Women
Another reason why finding your life purpose is important as a man, is that a man of purpose is very appealing and attractive to women.
Women are naturally attracted to guys who have mental and emotional strength to follow through on their biggest goals and ambitions and never give up. This attraction is directly linked to a woman’s need to align herself with a man who will be able to survive, thrive and prosper in this world.
Throughout human history and still to this day, survival has always been a challenge for humans. In the past, we had to hunt and gather our own food and now we need to work and compete in the workforce or business world to be able to survive, thrive and prosper.
When a woman meets a guy who is a man of purpose, her natural instinct of attraction kicks in.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use your clarity of purpose and your determination to achieve it as a way to make her feel attracted to you…
As you will discover from the video above, having purpose in life is just one of the ways that you can attract women to you as a man.
What is Your Life Purpose?
Every man has a purpose in life, but finding your purpose is not always an instant or an obvious discovery.
Some guys are lucky enough to grow up knowing what they want to do and they then follow that path throughout life and live it out to its fullest potential.
However, for most guys, the idea of having a life purpose seems to make sense, but they just can’t seem to work out what it is for them and where they fit into the world.
As a result, they often go through life hoping that one day, the idea for their life purpose will come to them in a flash of inspiration. Unfortunately, that doesn’t happen for the majority of guys and they end up wasting much or most of their life waiting for that elusive flash of inspiration and insight.
How Do You Know if You’ve Discovered Your Life Purpose?
You’ll know that you’ve found your life purpose or are on the path to realizing your life purpose, when it is the thing that gets you out of bed in the morning more than anything else in the world.
Years into working on it, you still feel excited and still have an unrelenting passionate about it. You’re always thinking of ways that you could improve your skills in the area or improve the area (of life that you’re focused on) for other people.
From all my experience with the topic of having purpose as a man, I’ve found that if a guy simply follows his gut instinct and heads along down the path that he feels will lead him to achieve his life purpose, then he will either:
- Stick with the path he chose, rise through the levels of his true potential in the area and achieve his life purpose.
- Grow from the experience and then realize that his life purpose can be even bigger than he once imagined. He will then begin heading down the path of his new aspirations and dreams.
When finding your life purpose, you won’t always have a crystal clear picture of what you will achieve and how. Sometimes, you just have to trust your gut instinct and take several connecting paths to reach the point where you realize your life purpose.
During that time, you will be building valuable skills and acquiring knowledge that will prepare you and help make you ready to begin achieving your true purpose in life.
However, if you don’t trust your gut instinct and instead hide away from doing what you really want do be doing in life, then life will get pretty gloomy for you. Over time, feelings of regret, emptiness and disconnection from the world around you will increase and you will feel unfulfilled at your core.
Have You Been Ignoring What You Really Want to Do With Your Life?
Ask yourself, what do you really want in life? What do you really care about doing in this life more than anything else? Be honest with yourself.
What would make you happy?
What would make you feel totally satisfied with life, even if it means following a path that others might think is silly or impossible?
If you can answer those questions easily, then you will know where you want to head in life. You don’t have to have a complete, step by step plan on how to get there, but you do need to trust your gut instinct and then build a vision of how it could play out.
You then need to have an intense desire to go after it will unlimited determination.
The Difference Between a Hobby and a Life Purpose
When the subject of life purpose comes up, many guys will make the mistake of thinking that their hobbies and general interests are their purpose in life.
An example is when a guy thinks, “Okay, well, I love cars. That’s what makes me happy. I want to make enough money to buy a Ferrari or a Lamborghini one day. That’s going to be my purpose in life.”
Yet, working hard and saving up to buy an expensive car is simply a goal based on acquiring a material object. Achieving that will not deliver him total life satisfaction for his entire life, unless he’s a shallow person with very limited dreams.
There’s nothing wrong with aiming to acquire material possessions, to live a comfortable life or to become wealthy. However, those things are not your life purpose and they are not what life is all about.
Material possessions and wealth are simply added luxuries in an already amazing world. There are so many documented stories of business people who only ever got into business to make money or to “escape the rat race,” thinking that it would satisfy them and make them eternally happy.
Yet, all they ended up with was numbers in a bank account and an empty feeling about life. Instead of having a real desire to contribute to the world, change the world or achieve something amazing, they worked hard to get money and to get away from the world.
Unfortunately for them, they didn’t know that a fulfilling life purpose is something that brings you closer to the world, not farther away from it.
Turning a Hobby into a Life Purpose
In the example of a guy really loving cars, he could turn that into a life purpose by getting deeply involved in the automobile industry.
For example: He might become a car collector, start or join a club for car enthusiasts, continually improve his knowledge on the subjects related to cars or even write a book about the complete history of cars.
He might also try to get a job with a company who are designing cutting edge cars and use his passion and knowledge to help make the project a success.
He might even start a business of his own. If his love for cars is going to be a fulfilling life purpose and not just a hobby, then it needs to go beyond the car itself.
To make it his life purpose, he should delve right into the industry, topic or area and contribute in the best way he can, rather than just buying a car and feeling proud of himself.
A Man with Purpose
Felix Baumgartner, the Austrian man who jumped from the edge of space in a supersonic free-fall in 2012, is a man who knows all about pushing his limits and reaching for his true potential as a man.
Millions of viewers watched his record-breaking jump on YouTube and held their breath as he attempted to become “the fastest man alive.”
His success inspired a lot of people, not necessarily in terms of wanting to go out and take up extreme base jumping, but in terms of giving them a reason to think, “What am I doing with my life?”
Before jumping from the edge of space, Baumgartner had already made over 2500 “death-defying” jumps from some pretty extreme locations, including one from the iconic Christ Redeemer in Rio.
He started skydiving at the age of 16, honing his skills as a member of the Austrian military display and competition team before joining Red Bull in 1988. He describes himself as “born to fly,” but by the 1990s he felt he’d “gone as far as he could with traditional skydiving,” so he started pushing his boundaries with base jumping.
You could argue that Baumgartner didn’t have to find his purpose, he knew from an early age what he wanted to do with his life, but it’s not that cut-and-dry.
At the age of 16, he didn’t set himself the target of jumping from the edge of space; he set his sights on pushing himself to the limits of what it was humanly possible for him to achieve and the Red Bull Stratos project came into his life as a result of following that purpose.
If he’d been thinking small or just thinking about skydiving to amuse himself for the sake of a hobby, he would have stopped pushing himself after any one of his 2500 jumps.
In 2003, he achieved something no man had ever done before when he crossed the English Channel with a carbon wing; he could have stopped there, but he didn’t. Always following his gut instinct desire to do what he loves to do, he followed a path that lead to a point where he jumped into the record books from the edge of space.
Will he stop there?
Not at all.
He’s now pushing his potential as a pilot to the next level. In a recent interview he said, “You can’t keep me out of the air. I have already been flying as a commercial helicopter pilot in Europe, and now I will have the time to take that aspect of my career to the next level. I’m really looking forward to it.”
What is Your Gut Instinct Telling You to Do?
Finding your purpose is about listening to what your gut instinct has been telling you all along.
Many guys will waste decades working in an industry they’re not even passionate about, while always knowing what they’d really love to be doing. Often, the excuse will be, “I can’t afford to leave my job and pursue what I love, because I wouldn’t start earning money from it for years.”
Yet, that isn’t a valid excuse because when it comes to achieving your true purpose in life, you don’t reach the top of the mountain on day one.
You need to get involved in the industry or profession in some way, rather than thinking that glory will happen on day one.
Work your way up and make a promise to yourself that you’ll keep going until you get to where you really want to be in life.