Have you ever found yourself wondering, “What’s my purpose in life?” or have you ever considered whether having a definite purpose in life might help you to get more out of your life and achieve your true potential?
Without purpose in your life, you’re effectively drifting through life waiting to see where you happen to end up or what happens to come your way, so when you look at it that way, not having a clear purpose is unlikely to help you achieve what you really want out of life.
When you have a life purpose, you have a “reason for being” but if that all sounds a bit “new-age” for your liking, having purpose in your life stops you from drifting along and helps you to take control over where you’re going in life and, perhaps more importantly, who you become as a man on the way.
A man who has purpose in his life is a man who is not settling for what happens to drift his way; he’s a man who knows what he wants and he’s taking steps to move towards what he wants.
In this sense, you could say that asking yourself, “What’s my purpose in life?” is similar to asking yourself, “What’s my ambition in life?” or, “What drives me and spurs me on in life?”
Of course, these aren’t questions that are always easily answered and it’s quite often when a man finds himself drifting aimlessly without drive and ambition, or when he finds himself feeling unfulfilled by life that he comes to realise he lacks purpose.
Life Purpose vs. Life Intentions
Guys with purpose know what they want out of life and they know with the right amount of effort and focus, they can achieve their ambitions and realise their dreams.
Guys with purpose tend to think big too, but crucially, they remain open to their dreams and ambitions changing as they go through different stages in life. What a guy might want to achieve when he is 18 will likely be different when he reaches 30, 40 or even 50.
The mistake a lot of guys make is thinking that unless it’s their ambition to find a cure for cancer or to create world peace, then they don’t really have a useful purpose in life. That’s missing the point. The point of having purpose in life is to give yourself purpose in your life so that you can feel a sense of achievement, happiness, and fulfilment in your life.
The something useful and the something good only needs to be relevant to you and your life, and for this reason it can be helpful to think in terms of life intentions rather than life purpose. “What’s my purpose in life?” can be too big a question, but, “What’s my intention in life?” can be a little easier to get your head around in the beginning.
Look at it this way; a guy might write down on a piece of paper, my life purpose is … and then find he can’t think of anything to write to fill in the blanks. But, if he writes down, my life intentions are … he can probably start filling in the blanks without agonising over it too much at all. For example, he might write…
- To find love, and to love and be loved.
- To be liked, and to be a good friend.
- To be happy, and to make other people happy.
- To be the best I can be in whatever I choose to do.
If you’re not feeling fulfilled by your life as it is, it must be your intention to change your life for the better.
If you’ve yet to find love, it must be your intention to make the changes needed to help you find love.
If you’ve yet to find happiness, it must be your intention to make the changes needed to help you find happiness.
If you don’t feel you’re achieving your true potential in life, it must be your intention to change what you’re doing or how you’re doing it to help you achieve more.
The intention is all important because without it, nothing can change and your life will stay exactly as it is.
Be Your Best Self
When it’s your intention to change yourself and your life for the better, you’re a man of purpose, and when you’re a man of purpose, you’re a man who is taking control of where he is going in life and you’re a man that women find very attractive as a result.
Women are attracted to men who have self-confidence and a genuine belief in themselves and their ability to achieve what they want in life.
Confidence is an attractive trait in a man but confidence and arrogance are not one and the same. Women are instinctively attracted to men who know who they are; men with quiet confidence, and men who know what they stand for in life.
They are not attracted to arrogant “chest-beating” displays of confidence, they’re attracted to men who have the strength of character to stand by what they believe in and what they value most in life.
It’s having an understanding of what’s most important to you in life and knowing what you really believe in and value most that allows you to understand your life purpose. A man with purpose is a man who has established a core set of principles by which he will live his life.
When a man has principles, he has what it takes to face life’s challenges head on because he has his own set of beliefs on what’s really important to him in his life, as well as what’s right and wrong, on which to base the decisions he makes and actions he takes.
This makes him a man who will always be true to himself and therefore a man that others – men and women – can trust and rely on. It also makes him a man who has what it takes to naturally lead the way in a relationship and offer a woman the protection and security she instinctively craves in a relationship.