Flirting tips for men
Flirting with a woman is essentially about:

  • Showing your sexual interest in her in a discreet, non-sleazy way.
  • Demonstrating that you can subtly dominate her during a conversation.
  • Making her feel girly around you.
  • Making her laugh and enjoy an interaction with you.
  • Demonstrating your social intelligence.

You can use flirting body language or you can flirt with your words. Flirting is most powerful if you are confident and charismatic. If you try to flirt with a woman and come across as nervous, shy or intimidated by her, then she won’t really enjoy it. Why? For flirting to feel right, the woman needs to feel attraction for you. Women are mostly attracted to a man’s strength (e.g. confidence, masculinity) and are turned off by any emotional weaknesses (e.g. nervousness, shyness, anxiety).


Imagine that you’re talking to the waitress in the photo above. Here’s an example of flirting during conversation:

  • You: [Smile and say] Okay, so I thought I knew what I wanted to order, but now I am just looking at you thinking, “What? When did they start having such pretty girls working here?”
  • Waitress: [Likely thanks for for the compliment and laughs and smiles].
  • You: [Smile and say in a half-serious way] I have to say though: The last time a pretty girl took my order she completely stuffed it up. Are you a smart pretty girl, or am I going to get a chicken roast when I actually order a steak with chips?
  • Waitress: [Likely laughing and saying that she will get it right].
  • You: [Look relieved and say] Yeah, I thought so. You look kind of smart. You look like the sort of girl I would have copied answer from at school. I got good grades because of girls like you.
  • Waitress: [Likely laughing and enjoying your humor and flirting].

Instead of just being a standard nice guy and ordering your food like a normal customer, switch things up and be right there with her in the moment. Focus your attraction on her and let her experience your charisma and confidence via flirting. When you add in flirting when talking to women, you will be simply amazed at what happens. Suddenly, beautiful women who never paid you any attention will show you loads of sexual interest.

Who Am I and What Do I Know About Flirting?

My name is Dan Bacon and I discovered the art of flirting when I had hit rock bottom in my dating life. Most women would only ever see me as friend (or nothing at all), rather than a potential lover or boyfriend because I was always being too nice, too polite and lacking the all-important sexual vibe that flirting creates. If I did manage to get lucky and start dating a woman, it was usually with unattractive women that I didn’t even like. After getting tired of settling for second best, I decided to work out what it takes to be successful with women. Here’s a before and after photo of me…

Nervous - Dan

Look at how nervous I was in the beginning. This girl actually liked me and even gave me her phone number, but I screwed up the date because I was too nervous around her and didn’t know how to flirt or make her feel proper sexual attraction for me. I felt as though she was out of my league. Women like this forced me to become stronger by building more confidence and becoming more of a man.

Dan - confident

…then, I became confident and this is what happened.

When I discovered flirting and the many other techniques that now I teach here at The Modern Man, women began flooding into my life. Before I knew it, I was pulling one night stands (sex on the first night) from nightclubs and dating several attractive women at once.

Flirting Communicates Your Sexual Interest in a Discreet Way

Flirting is the indirect communication of sexual interest between a man and a woman. In other words, it is how to express your sexual interest in a woman without having to say something awkward like, “Hey, I’d like to have sex with you tonight or sometime soon. Would you like to have sex with me?” 

With the waitress example at the top of this page, it can be confusing for some guys to work out why that is flirting. Guys who understand and use flirting will not talk that way with women whom they are not sexually interested in. When talking to a woman who he doesn’t want to have sex with, a guy who understands how to use flirting will either tone it down or not use it at all. As for women, they know what flirting is and what it means, so if you flirt with a girl, she knows that you are expressing your sexual interest in her in a discreet way. Guys who don’t understand flirting are seen as uncool or lacking social intelligence by women.

When you flirt with a woman, it communicates the following message to her without you actually having to say it, “I’m attracted to you sexually and I am considering having sex with you.” However, that isn’t the best part about flirting. The best part is that flirting also asks her the question, “Are you interested in me in a sexual way?” without you having to ask her that awkward question…EVER. Once you have flirted with a woman, you simply need to look at her response to your flirting and you will see a clear, “Yes – I am interested in you!” or “No thanks” response based on the changes in her body language, words and behavior. She will NOT react like women do in the movies, where they slap a guy or tip a drink over his head for flirting or showing sexual interest. In the real world, women respond with clear yes or no responses via their body language and level of participation in the flirting exchange. If a woman flirts back at you and is enjoying the flirting exchange, it is clear sign that she is interested in you in a sexual way.

How Do You Make Women Feel Right Now?

What usually happens when you talk to a woman you like and want to have sex with? Are you usually able to make her feel sexually attracted to you,  or do most women simply talk to you in a friendly or even distant way? Believe me, when you know how to flirt with women properly, you will see a MASSIVE change in the way women treat you. For example: When I’m out at a shopping mall, I’m able to use another flirting technique that women LOVE to experience that makes women smile and flirt with me WITHOUT me having to say ANYTHING to them first. If you’re looking for flirting tips for men that give you the edge over other guys, then my secret flirting techniques will literally change your life overnight. Or, you might want to check out my friend’s site called Flirtdegree. He recommends the book, the

When I started using the flirting techniques that I know teach in my advanced training programs, I went from being single and lonely to having women FLOOD into my life. Do you want to have the same power over your dating life? Let me teach you. I promise I will really help you. Get started

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  • Matthew  

    Very cool! I have always been making the mistake of asking girls if they like me. I only properly heard about flirting a few days ago when a girl from work explained it to me.

  • Adrian H  

    I was the same as the other guy Matthew – asking women if they’d like to be my girlfriend…! Changed my approach 2 months ago to make women attracted to me first, then let it happen naturally…now I am getting results. Slept with a woman last week for the first time in 2 years! I know, I know – horrible! But it is awesome to be back in the game. Thanks for the flirting tips – they work!

  • Hugh  

    Some really solid advice here! Gonna try and put some of it to practice tonight ;D

    • naz  

      yeh! its similar to applying for a job. if you put your application for the post of friend all you get will friendship. if you apply for charming romantic and sexual relation, then you need to add cheeky smiles in your eye contacting application.

  • Kevin  

    Hey Dan,

    I have no problem talking and flirting with women and I’m confident but I think I may be coming on too strong. Women seem to enjoy talking with me, I make them laugh we flirt but when it comes down to it they clam up (no pun intended). I’ve even had some women who I’m friends with that I’ve flirted with tell me I’m a playa and such, funny thing is, I’m not. So, can you come on too strong and do you have tips on this subject?



  • Hi Kevin

    Thanks for your question.

    What do you mean by they clam up? Do they tell you they’re not interested? Please explain further so I can provide more specific advice for you.


  • justin  

    Sup guys! Hey dude that’s awsome advise! But I know this girl for three years now and I realy like her but I just see her like on decembers, this is kinda embaresing but she says I’m sexy and cute but I’m too young for her,, I’m three years yonger than her! But I know that love is a connection so powerful that age doesn’t even matter right? So I just want little more tips if you guys don’t mind giving me! Thanx!

    • Hi Justin

      Thanks for your positive feedback and question.

      Yes, love is a powerful thing, but it sounds like you’re approaching it in the wrong way. You see, a woman wants to feel lucky to get you, rather than feeling like she is doing you a favor or “giving in” to accept your proposal. You need to make her chase YOU Justin. She should be worrying whether you really like her, not the other way around. She should be falling madly in love with you and trying to get you to feel the same way. That’s what she wants.

      Check out my book for all the answers on how to be successful with women. Log in here for more info.


  • Kit Quiton  

    Very nice approach. Genuine and true. I hope I can do this and be a master in the art of flirting. Thanks man.

  • Ashly  

    Wow, Im a chick and, that actually would work, I mean yea were not going to say yes if you ask us if we like you, or wish to pleasure yourself, (& us ;D) but flirt a little and you can be in bed doing us in no time! This will for sure work! ;D

  • coolio  

    Ah man i need help… i know this girl for 20 weeks and i love this chixk, i went with friend and with the giel in our car and we drove to the pizzeria we gt all three a roller pizza and we ate it ad thr parking place ,i was silenced thebwholle time and i didnt knew what to say.. instead of my friend.. he was playing around with her and trowing the folie to her and they were just having a goos time.. i talk with her tru whatsapp and there she says im cute and handsome.. on whatsapp i chat to this girl non stop and im sure shes laughing her ass out when i say something.. why cant i talk normal to her in real. What the fc is wrong??? HELP plzz

    • Hey Coolio

      Yes, good question. Don’t worry – millions of guys struggle with the same problem. Sign in to my newsletter and I will begin teaching you how to overcome that fear. I’ll send you free videos, audio clips and interviews, articles and reports. If you like what you’re learning, you can then decide if you want to invest in my premium advice where I reveal all of my most powerful secrets for success with women.


  • Joe  

    Don’t forget to play hard to get. This works best if accuse/tease her that she wants you…and you disqualify her with something…like too bad your not my type. Make sure your playful, not serious. Lastly women like test you, but only if they’re interested. They test you to see if your a wuss and give them the power. Keep the power, either ignore,be absurd or use humor to turn it around.

    • Hi Joe

      Thanks for your input.

      However, sorry to say that you’ve got most of it it wrong.

      1. You don’t PLAY hard to get and try to trick a woman into thinking you have standards. You HAVE standards and only accept women you want. “Playing” hard to get means you are faking it and are actually desperate, rather than picky with women.
      2. You can be playful or serious – it’s up to YOU. You, as the man, get to decide how you act. Women respect men who can be themselves.
      3. Women test you whether they are interested or not. People are always testing each other to see who is the more dominant one, what the hierarchy is within a group, etc.

      You are obviously someone who is on his way to becoming good with women, but you’re not there yet. If you want to be truly successful with women, stop looking around the net and start learning from me. I’ve been at the mastery level of success with women for 7 years now.


  • doub  

    I got this girl that I met I got her number and every thing…like I’m really off to a good start…I dn’t want to mess it up.give me a new and better idea on how to get her to go on a date with me…I want to Imprese…

    • Hi Doub

      Thanks for your comment.

      If you want those tips, sign up here for free and I will send you a secret link to a free video series I created. You will learn exactly how to impress this new girl you’ve found.


  • Aditya  

    Hey Dan ,
    Hwz drr??
    I just wana let u knw, that I’m very bad in flirting , whenever m in front of gals , I know i always behave as dumbo person and gals 100% think m kind f boring and uninterested person.
    So plz do let me knw the solution of mah problem.
    I am eagerly waitin for ur reply with a solid solution.


  • kostas  

    Hi Dan…undoubtedly cool stuff..i have already bought 2 of your programms, flow firsty and after dating power before 5 months…i have surely huge improvement but there is a problem, I use to come back to old bad habits and I need to read again…this is no problem actually, I like to read your programms..i think that I dont utterly understand the flirting..sometimed I use it petfrcty some other in the opposite could u help me to solve it? Cheers friend Dan!

    • Hey Kostas

      Thanks for your positive feedback and question.

      There are many examples of flirting in The Flow and Dating Power. If you want to understand more about the mechanics of flirting, I recommend you listen to this:

      You will understand flirting more when you use the flirting examples from our programs. Once you start doing it, it begins to make simple sense and later it becomes natural and automatic for you to flirt correctly with women.


  • kostas  

    Ok Dan, I ll give you an example that came to my mind and I would you tell me please if I use the flirting technique properly…in the example that I ask “if she stays we her parents” and the flirting here is is it because u are dont know cook :) , if add something like “i know I know the only you can cook is boiled sausages and after the main plate, bananas with melted chocolate…whats your opinion? Is it fine? I think its playfull cocky humor but she understsnd that its flirting, right? Thank u again Dan!

    • Yes, that sounds fine mate. As long as you are smiling and being easy-going when saying it.

      If you want to hear examples of how to use flirting, I recommend that you listen to The Ultimate Guide to Conversation.


  • Taimur  

    Thanks a million Dan.

    I got The Flow and I’ve realized that now [Edited: Customer revealed a key technique from The Flow]. A few months ago I would not even connect!

    I am learning how to flirt and it is good. The one girl who is kinda receptive is the one who I flirt with and joke about her with.

    Awesome advice.

    • Hey Taimur

      Great to hear mate.

      Yes, you’ll find that it just gets easier and easier from there. I look forward to seeing a comment from you where you say something like, “Hah! Now girls are trying to pick ME up.” If you truly put the advice from The Flow into action, that is what will happen.


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