What Women Want in a Man
What do women want from a man? What will make women want you over all the other men available?It's Dan here & today we're going to discuss what women want in a man. Instead of me writing today's article, you'll be hearing from Stu - our resident 'natural'.
To put it simply: Stu is AMAZING with women. His latest girlfriends include a stunningly attractive, blonde stripper with a French accent and a gorgeous glamor model who looks like a real-life version of the Barbie-doll. So, like all of our advice here at The Modern Man, the following insights come from our REAL-life experiences and EXTENSIVE research.
Here's Stu...
In begin discussing what women want in a man, I'm going to talk about the concept of VALUE. The fact is - we ALL want to add value to our lives. Working hard for extra money can add value to our lives, because of what we can do with the increased disposable income.
We often choose to go to a sports game with friends because such social activities can add value to our lives. We save up to go on a holiday for similar reasons. Everything we do can be broken down to a point where we are striving to add value to our lives. Keeping that in mind, let's move to the topic of meeting & dating women...
We've all seen the kinds of beautiful women who shine like 'beacons of femininity'. You know the ones I'm talking about, right? She's stunningly attractive, and often found laughing and having fun with her friends in social environments. However, as guys we sometimes take the wrong approach when starting conversations with women like that.
What do we do wrong around women like that? Anything and everything possible to try and IMPRESS her! When the interaction begins, the expression of our true personality suddenly becomes restrained as we try to avoid offending her. We no longer behave like the man that we truly are at our deepest core. We become passive and much of our natural masculinity goes out the window.
Stop for a moment...
Imagine yourself being nervous during a JOB interview. You're frightened of what to say and how to say it, so you pretty much agree or go along with everything that is being discussed in order to avoid ANY sort of controversy. The interviewer can FEEL your anxiety and can sense that you're putting on an 'agreeable persona.'
Now, while you still may be able to land some jobs being nervous and using a false persona, it is the WRONG approach to take with women. Especially beautiful women. By suppressing our real personality in an attempt to avoid 'offending' women, we fail to offer women any VALUE...and are not being what women want in a man.
To add to that, women are generally not attracted to males who are intimidated by them. Instead, women prefer a man to be confident and capable of leading. So a man who is uneasy around women will display neither of these VERY important traits. Let's look at this in another way...
Imagine that you're an attractive woman with a large social network and have guy's queuing up to be with you. People want to spend time with you, whether it's to socialize or just 'hang out.' When it comes to your social life as a woman, you are in demand and things are pretty good.
Now picture yourself as that attractive woman in a social environment, such as a bar. A guy walks up to you and shyly begins a guarded conversation. Example:
Guy: Hi...having a good night?
Woman: Yes, thanks...
Guy: Cool...so what are you drinking?
Woman: Vodka.
Guy: With what?
Woman: Raspberry.
Guy: Cool...so...umm...so...what do you do?
Woman: (Turns to friends, "Let go dance.")
Ever had a woman walk off on you like that? I'm guessing that most guys will answer "Yes". You see, a lot of guys will approach women and ask boring, uninteresting questions like the ones mentioned above. The problem with the boring questions (apart from the obvious!)? Questions like those don't offer any VALUE to a woman's night.
Nor do they express attractive personality traits...and to add to that, it is not what women want in a man. She's heard those 'lines' a million times before and usually from guys who are inexperienced with women. The question is: Do you want to be placed in the same category as all the others who have bored her to tears? Again, we all know the answer.
You see, an attractive woman in a social environment is usually looking to ADD value to her life - not SUBTRACT from it. When I go out socializing, I too am looking to add VALUE to my night. If somebody is boring and negative, they aren't adding value. In fact, they're subtracting value.
The reality is that people naturally gravitate towards those who are lively, humorous and challenging. Why? Because it's those sort of people who typically add the most value to our lives. Dull, negative, and guarded people add little or no value and subsequently may have fewer people in their lives.
Ask yourself this question: If you were that attractive woman and two different guys came up to start an interaction, who would you be more interested in pursuing?
- The passive, boring guy who asked a lot of uninteresting questions?
- The exciting, unpredictable guy whose body language and conversation was confident, opinionated and daring?
The simple fact is that women are more interested in getting involved with guys who can add value to their lives. As Ben from The Modern Man says: "...If you were an attractive woman, would you rather trade UP or trade DOWN?"
So, the next time you find yourself in the vicinity of a woman you'd like to interact with, remember to be yourself. By 'being yourself', I don't mean your platonic, innocent, non-sexual self. I mean that you should express your REAL personality and steer away from standard polite and guarded conversations.
Enjoy the experience of meeting women and if you ever find yourself being 'too nice' or platonic, remember this: What women want in a man is someone who is lively and interesting because, like you, they too are looking to add value to their night and to their lives.
Stu
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