To the untrained eye, women can appear to be very strange in the way that they behave, think and take action in life; especially when it comes to sex, dating and relationships.
Don’t feel bad about not knowing what I’m about to tell you now, because most guys don’t know what I’m about to reveal here. Even the famous psychologist, Sigmund Freud went to his grave still not knowing what women want. He was quoted as saying:
“The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is ‘What does a woman want?'” Sigmund Freud Psychologist, 1856-1939.
If someone of that level of intelligence, in terms of psychology, doesn’t know what women want, don’t feel bad about not knowing what I’m about to tell you now.
1. They would rather miss out on being with you than have to lead you
Even if a woman really likes you, she will usually avoid asking you out, showing too much interest or making the first move.
Leading you through the courtship would place her into the masculine position in your “relationship.” If she is like almost every woman on the planet, she will want to be the feminine one and be able to follow your masculine lead. She wants you to “lead the dance,” so to speak.
Some guys see that type of behavior from women as being strange and will ask me, “Why do women give mixed signals?
Why do they have to play games like that? If she likes me, why doesn’t she just tell me?” What these guys don’t realize is that she is simply trying to be a woman and let him be the man.
She wants to feel attracted to his confidence and masculinity as he leads the way from a conversation, to flirting, kissing, sex and a relationship. She doesn’t want to have to “baby” him or “mother” him through the courtship process.
The same applies to sexual intercourse. Most women want to be with a guy who feels stronger than them, mentally and emotionally. A woman wants to be able to fully surrender her body and mind and open herself up to a more masculine force. She doesn’t want a scared, fearful guy who will not be able to give her that feeling in the bedroom. She wants a guy who has the confidence and wisdom to be the man at all times.
Here is a comment that a woman left on The Modern Man recently:
“I am in this situation right now. I’m not really sure if I want to date my male friend, but I would like him to do more work than me trying to initiate things. Should I just give him lots of space and let him initiate? what if he doesn’t really initiate for FWB (Friends With Benefits) activities unless I do? Does that mean he isn’t into it because i know he does…We’re also co workers…”
Notice how she said, “I would like him to do more work than me trying to initiate things.”
She may not be a dating guru, but as a woman, she instinctively knows what she wants from a man and what is going to “feel right” for her. She has likely been giving that guy obvious signals for months and he is probably wondering whether or not she likes him.
2. They want to be approached, but behave as though they don’t
Have you ever seen women standing around in a bar or nightclub who have gone to a LOT of effort to look beautiful and attract attention, yet they are behaving as though they don’t want ANY attention.
This can seem very strange to a lot of guys, who will look at these women and think, “Why are they so stuck up? Why are they being such bitches?” What a lot of guys don’t realize is that these women DO want to be approached.
However, to screen out the nervous, self-doubting, insecure guys, women will often make themselves appear uninterested and unapproachable.
These type of women are looking for a man who will not be afraid to approach them and say hi, no matter what vibe they are giving off. When a guy does approach, they will still seem unimpressed initially to test his confidence.
If he doesn’t buckle under the pressure and become nervous, the women will slowly open themselves up to him.
Then, when they realize that he is truly confident and masculine, they will become desperate to be with him because they know that it’s next to impossible to find a guy with that level of confidence around women.
It’s a lot easier for us guys to find the type of woman we want.
Our attraction is mostly based on a woman’s looks, so we know almost instantly which women we want to have sex with when we look around a bar, nightclub, party, etc.
However, for women, it’s a lot more difficult to find the right guy. Most guys they meet will not have the type of confidence and masculinity that they are looking for.
3. They say that they want a nice guy, but it isn’t what they really want
No doubt you would have heard a woman say, “I just want a nice guy. I want a guy who cares, listens and is sweet to me.” You would have also heard women refer to men that they are dating as being nice, “Oh, he’s such a nice guy. He’s so sweet.”
You may have also heard that nice guys finish last and that women don’t like nice guys, so what is going on? Here it is…
When a woman says that she wants a “nice” guy, what she’s actually saying is that she wants a guy whom she is attracted to, but who is also a nice guy (or a good guy).
She doesn’t just want a guy who is really nice to her, but doesn’t even make her feel any attraction. The traits that make women attracted to you are things like your confidence, masculinity, ability to make her feel girly, your social intelligence and overall personality.
If you pay attention to what the media says, you may come to believe that a woman’s attraction for a man is all about his looks, height and money.
However, if you pay attention to the real world around you, it will become clear to you that a woman’s attraction is not based purely on a guy’s looks, height and money. If it was based on those superficial things, then 99% of guys wouldn’t have a girlfriend or wife because most guys are not a tall, rich, male model.
Let’s talk about some deeper stuff…
A woman’s core, primal attraction for a man is based on his ability to protect her and help her (and any offspring they may have) survive. Why? For most of human history, a woman needed a man to protect her from being raped or killed and she also needed a man who could provide food and shelter.
It’s only in the last 70 years that attitudes have begun to change towards women in terms of social equality, the ability to work and earn money, voting rights and a fair justice system.
Prior to that, a man was a woman’s protection and safety barrier from the big, bad world around her, so a woman’s attraction to a man who can keep her safe and help her survive is pretty much engrained into her instincts.
Although today’s world is much safer for a woman and she can now earn her own money, she will has an instinctive attraction to a man who seems like he would do a better job at keeping her safe and helping her to survive.
Where a lot of “nice guys” go wrong with women is in thinking that when a woman says, “I want a nice guy” she means a really nice, polite, sweet guy who puts her needs ahead of his own. The guy then treats her in the nicest, most polite, innocent, friendly way that he can, only to find that she isn’t interested.
What women really mean though is a guy who is confident, masculine, socially intelligent as well as being a nice (or good) guy.
If that is true, then why do women hook up with jerks or bad boys? For the same reasons why you jerk off to porn online. You’d most-likely want your girlfriend or wife to be a beautiful, intelligent, down to Earth, trustworthy, loyal woman with good morals and values, right?
However, you jerk off to sluts when you watch porn. True?
How that relates to women hooking up with bad boys and jerks is that those men are usually very confident and masculine.
Even though the woman knows that the bad boy or jerk isn’t the best choice for a boyfriend or husband, she can’t help enjoying the feelings of attraction that she experiences with him.
She would rather be with a very confident, masculine GOOD guy, but those guys are usually already taken. The same applies to your attraction to women. You would most-likely want a nice girl for a girlfriend, but you can’t help but feel attracted to strippers and pornstars.
4. They say that they want a good looking guy, but then they date, have sex with and even marry average looking, below average looking or “ugly” men
A lot of guys who see a beautiful woman with an “ugly” guy, an unattractive guy or a below average looking guy think to themselves, “HOW did he get her? What’s going on there? Why is she with him? What am I lacking that he’s got?”
To the untrained eye, that type of “Beauty and the Beast” match up can seen very strange.
We’re told in the media that it’s all about being good looking, tall and having six pack abs, but that is wrong. The truth is that women feel attracted to guys who are confident, masculine and who can make them feel girly and feminine.
When I refer to making a woman feel girly, I’m not talking about disrespecting a woman’s maturity or intelligence and treating her like she’s a naive little girl. What I am saying is that she feels girly and feminine in response to your masculinity.
5. They say that they want a confident guy, but tease you if you behave too confidently
For a guy who doesn’t understand women, this behavior will seem very strange and weird. Women are saying that they want a confident guy, women are attracted to confident men, but when a man behaves too confidently and has a lot of self-belief around women, they will often tease him and put him down. Why?
Simple: They are testing to see how confident he really is.
If the guy buckles under pressure, becomes nervous or apologizes for being so confident, then the women know that it was just an act and he’s really not that confident.
Additionally, if a woman is able to dominate a guy like that during a simple interaction, it is a huge turn off for her sexually. A guy like that is not going to be able to be the man that she wants and needs in the bedroom and in a relationship.
6. They behave as though they are too beautiful for a guy like you, but they are insecure about their looks
Something that is really surprising to a lot of guys, is that most women don’t think that they’re beautiful.
A great piece of research to back this up was Dove’s Global Survey on Beauty. They found that 96% of women don’t consider themselves to be beautiful.
Prior to seeing the results of the Dove study, I already knew that women were insecure and was using that knowledge (that I had gained from approaching and having sex with so many women) to feel even more confident about myself when interacting with women.
The more confident I became, the more that women liked me and the easier it became to sleep with very beautiful women. We men are lucky that women find our confidence so attractive to women. If it was about looking like a male model, most guys would simply get rejected.
When you’re out there meeting women, you will notice that many women will act as though they are too beautiful for a guy like you, but guess what?
Deep down, she is insecure about her looks.
I’ve asked this question to my beautiful female friends and some ex-girlfriends.
Even though they are all sexy, pretty women, they each have one or a few things about themselves that they claim makes them “ugly.”
They say things like, “I hate my nose. If I had a nose like Megan Fox, then I’d be beautiful, but I’m just average” or “I hate my ears. They make me look like a monkey. I’m not beautiful and I know it.”
Yet, if you met any of these women out on the town, they would behave as though they are so damn beautiful and way too hard to get for a guy like you. Why? Two main reasons:
- She is trying to cover up her lack of confidence by behaving like she is very confident.
- She is testing to see if you will be scared away by that level of confidence from a woman. If so, you’re not strong enough for her.
7. They pretend to be offended when a guy shows sexual interest, but they actually need it
What a lot of guys don’t realize is that most women need you to show your sexual interest in them, in order to feel turned on and to open themselves up to being sexually seduced by you.
Since most women don’t consider themselves to be beautiful, they aren’t sure how sexy they really are to men.
So, when a man comes along and shows sexual interest in her (in the right way), she gets excited. She’s happy and very flattered to be appreciated in that way. It’s a huge moment for her and she suddenly starts thinking sexual thoughts and feeling turned on.
However, to test a guy’s confidence, she will usually pretend to be offended at his sexual interest in her. If the guy gets nervous, apologizes or appears rejected, then she knows that he isn’t a strong enough man (mentally and emotionally) for a woman like her.
In the movies, you will see a man getting slapped, having a drink tipped over his head or humiliated for showing sexual interest in a woman he likes. However, in the real world where most women are insecure about their looks, they actually need it and welcome it.