Whether it’s at Thanksgiving dinner, Christmas lunch, Cousin Susie’s wedding or Uncle Bob’s 70th birthday party; you are constantly bumping into the same people and the same family members.
After a while a pattern develops and you start to dread going to these family events because you know that inevitably, someone is going to ask the dreaded question…
You’ll be sitting down having a wonderful meal with the whole family, enjoying the turkey and the cranberry sauce; lulled by the food and the wine you begin to relax when suddenly out of the blue Aunt Millie asks, “Why are you still single?”
An expectant hush falls over the whole table and everyone turns their eyes on you… “Well?” prods Aunt Millie, “…answer the question! If you can’t meet anyone I know this nice girl that works at the library. She’s really quite sweet, a bit too shy for my liking, but… ”
Embarrassed, you make some flippant retort, excuse yourself from the table and make a hasty retreat to the bathroom where you face yourself in the mirror and ask yourself that question of questions, “…people always ask me why I’m single, what should I say in response?”
If you’ve ever experienced anything like that before, you would already know that some people have started to make assumptions about you (e.g. rumor has it that you’re still a virgin, you must be gay or you are intimidated by women and still haven’t worked out how to be a confident man).
You’re stuck and you don’t know what you’re doing wrong or how to fix it.
Really…Why Are You Single?
The truth of the matter is that if you are at a point in your life where people are always asking you why you’re single, then there must be an issue that you are not addressing. If you are honest with yourself you will stop making excuses such as:
- I’m too focused on my career right now.
- I’m too busy for a relationship.
- I want to travel first before I settle down.
- I just haven’t met the right woman yet.
You will then realize that you are literally running out of excuses and that you’re not facing the fact that you just don’t know how to make women feel sexually attracted to you. You’re lost and you are looking for excuses because you either don’t know that you need to actively attract women with your personality, or you are expecting women to suddenly start liking you because you’re such a nice guy.
Watch this video by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man) to understand what a guy really needs to do if he wants to be successful with women…
In addition to what Dan talks about in the video above, here are some additional questions that will help you get to the source of your real problems with women…
1. Do you lack the all important confidence that women find most attractive about men?
When you find yourself in the company of women, especially women that you find attractive, you become nervous and uncomfortable. You either mumble through your words or stand there in stunned silence and have to hastily excuse yourself, doing exactly what you did at the dinner table with Aunt Millie.
2. Do you know what to say when you approach a woman?
When you see a woman that you find attractive you find yourself unable to approach her and even if you did, you probably wouldn’t know what to do after that. You are not sure what to say, how to stand and what to do when and if she does something unexpected; which is something women always seem to do.
3. Do you avoid places where women are open to being approached?
You avoid places where there are lots of available women that you can meet, knowing that you won’t be able to handle the stress. You also avoid interacting with women at the mall, the park, the gym, at yoga class or at your local supermarket. Even when a beautiful woman approaches you, you find a way to make yourself unavailable.
4. Do you lack the ability to keep a conversation going and keep it interesting when talking to a beautiful woman?
You don’t know how to make a conversation interesting and engaging for an attractive woman and you make the mistake of talking about your boring job, your boss, the weather, your mom or the state of the nation.
If you’re not talking about those things, you may then begin to interrogate her by asking question after question in the hope that she will just keep talking to you for long enough to realize that you’re a nice guy and you mean her no harm.
5. Do you know how to flirt?
Flirting is an art and is the first course in the dating ritual. If you don’t know how to flirt and use your body language to turn a woman on, then the result will be that you make her feel uncomfortable and tense.
6. Do you avoid approaching attractive women?
Instead of being a go getter who confident goes after the women that he likes, you sit in a corner hoping that the woman will take pity on you and come to you. Unless you are very good looking or famous, this is NOT going to happen.
7. Have you been behaving like a lower ranking male?
As a man, you are either an alpha male or a lower ranking male. If you are getting the girls you are alpha and if you are not getting the girls you are a lower ranking male.
When you behave with insecurity, nervousness and a lack of direction and purpose in your life, you are behaving like a lower ranking male, women will pick up on it and will reject you every time because they are always on the lookout for an alpha male who is confident, self assured and has purpose and direction.
If you relate to some or all of these points, then you are in definite need of some help. The longer you go around saying people always ask me why I’m single without looking for a way to change your single status, the harder it will get.
A Little More Action Please
If you want to change your single status and you want to make women feel sexual attraction for you, then you need to address the issues above; you need to become more confident around women and you need to unleash your alpha male potential. Alpha males are the ones who always get the girls; they see what they want and they go out and get it.
Sitting around moping and saying people always ask me why I’m single is not getting you anywhere. Action is what is required at this point.
What Should You Do?
The key to your success is to change the things that are holding you back and preventing you from changing your “single” status to “taken.” Unfortunately, when you have waited too long to make the necessary changes you may feel stuck and unsure about how to go about it. You might want to approach and attract women, but you also might have absolutely no idea how it’s done.
Luckily for you, you are at the right place. Here at the Modern Man we have got all the advice you’ll ever need, or use, to help you approach and engage as many beautiful women as your heart desires.
The next time you’re having dinner with the family, you can say, “Hi everyone…I’d like you to meet my beautiful girlfriend…”