Some guys want to get one girlfriend and settle down, or find a wife, get married and never hook up with any other women ever again.
That’s completely fine if a guy wants to do that, but it’s also completely fine if a guy wants to be a ladies man.
In today’s world, sex is no longer taboo and both men and women are free to have sex with each other before marriage or without even ever getting married.
It’s now more acceptable than ever to be a ladies man, especially when women are so carefree about casual sex and relationships.
- An American study found that 55% of couples had sex on their first date.
- A study in the UK found that 51% of women admitted to having experienced a one night stand.
- A study in Europe found that 70% of women admitted to having experienced a one night stand.
- An American survey found that the amount of men that a woman has sex with before marriage has almost doubled in the last 10 years from 3.7 to 7.7.
So, how can you get in on the action?
How can you be the sort of modern man who is not only loved and wanted by women, but also really enjoys spending time with women, flirting with them and enjoying sex and relationships with them?
The answer is to become what people refer to as a ladies man. Here is the dictionary definition of the term.
Ladies man (noun): A man who the ladies love, respect and want to have sex with. A man who enjoys flirting with women and enjoying sexual, romantic relationships with women.
As you can see from the dictionary definition above, being a ladies man doesn’t mean that you are sleazy, take advantage of women or only care about sex.
It’s actually a lot classier and cooler than that.
So, here are 7 things that you need to do if you want to become a ladies man…
1. Have the confidence to approach and interact with women that you find attractive
Most guys don’t have the confidence to approach women that they find attractive, which is actually a huge opportunity for you and other ladies men.
Attractive women rarely get approached by good guys who are confident and who can be normal around a woman like her.
If a woman is attractive, most of the guys who approach her are too nervous, drunk or are being too sleazy with their approach.
However, that’s not what a ladies man does.
A true ladies man will approach an attractive woman with an easy-going confidence, which will allow his natural and unique charisma to come through.
She will feel attracted to his confidence and charisma and she will love the fact that she’s finally being approached by a guy who doesn’t need to put on an act of being nicer, tougher or cooler than he actually is.
He’s simply being his normal self and letting his confidence bring his natural charisma to the forefront, which is refreshing, attractive and calming for a woman to be around.
So, how about you? Do you have the confidence to approach women that you find attractive, or do you tend to chicken out when it comes to that moment where you want to approach?
Do you put on an act of being an even nicer guy than you really are, or are you able to be confident, normal and naturally charismatic when you interact with beautiful women?
Do you tend to only approach and talk to women who are average looking or unattractive, because you are worried about getting rejected by attractive women?
Have you tried approaching attractive women before, but they haven’t responded well to you?
Whatever the case is for you, here is how you can begin building up the confidence to approach women that you find attractive…
As you will discover from the video above, you have a lot of direct control over how much or little confidence you have in life.
From this day onwards, you are going to use your powerful mind to become more confident, or you aren’t. The choice is yours.
2. Be able to spark a woman’s attraction for you when you interact with her in person
This is the most important skill that you will ever develop as a man in terms of your level of success with women.
If you don’t know how to make women feel attracted to you when you talk to them and interact with them in person, then there is no point approaching and talking to women at all because they simply won’t be interested in anything sexual with you.
If you don’t have the ability to attract women, but you are a good guy, then women may like you as a friend or speak to you politely, but she is going to have little to no sexual interest in you at all.
So, how can you make women feel attracted to you?
Essentially, you need to display some of the personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities that naturally attract and arouse women.
I teach more than 100 traits in my programs here at The Modern Man, but some examples are: Confidence, charisma, humor, having a masculine vibe that makes her feel girly and feminine in comparison to you, etc.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use it to become a true ladies man…
As you will discover from the video above, you can actually CREATE feelings of attraction inside of a woman.
You don’t have to sit around waiting and hoping that women like you because you are wearing a nice shirt, working in a great job or driving a nice car.
You can get a woman NOW by creating feelings of attraction inside of her. That is what a true ladies man does.
3. Talk to her in a way that makes her fall in love with you and want to have sex with you
In the same way that most guys are afraid to approach attractive women, most guys also don’t know how to talk to attractive women in way that makes the woman feel attracted and turned on.
This is a huge opportunity for you.
Most of the guys that an attractive woman talks to will make her feel uncomfortable, bored and flat.
She will know that the guy likes her and is hoping to “get a chance” with her, but he’s not saying or doing anything to make her feel attracted and aroused during the conversation.
Watch this video to understand where guys go wrong and what you should do instead if you want to become a ladies man…
As you will discover from the video above, most women are bored and annoyed at how clueless most guys are about how to attract and turn women on.
It’s very easy for an attractive woman to get a guy to want to have sex with her, because pretty much every guy would have sex with an attractive woman at least once regardless of what she said during a conversation.
Yet, that’s not how it works when women choose a guy for sex.
Most women (not all) are looking to feel attracted and aroused by a guy’s inner qualities, personality traits and behaviors because that is what is most important to them.
4. Be charming, but don’t be too nice
If you want to be a well-respected ladies man amongst family, friends and coworkers, it’s important that you are a charming ladies man rather than an arrogant ladies man.
Being charming essentially means that you make a woman feel attracted to you (e.g. by being confident, charismatic, getting them laughing, making them feel feminine around you, etc) and you also treat them nicely (e.g. give compliments, be courteous, be a bit of a gentleman at times, etc).
However, just being nice to a woman on its own is not enough to mark you out as a charming guy. If you are simply being nice to women, giving them compliments and treating them well, then you will be what is referred to as a nice guy.
Nice guys and charming guys are different.
You have to get clear on this.
Being charming means that you first spark a woman’s attraction for you and make her feel aroused by the way that you are interacting with her and then you also treat her nicely.
It’s not just about being nice on its own.
Watch this video to understand why just being nice isn’t enough to make a woman want to have a sexual relationship with you…
Being nice to women is the right thing to do, but just make sure that you start out by making a woman feel attracted to you first.
If a woman isn’t attracted to you and you are being nice to her, she isn’t going to see you as being a charming guy.
Instead, she will simply label you as a typical nice guy who is clueless about what women really want.
5. Believe in yourself
The main difference between a ladies man and a guy who will fail to become a ladies man is self-belief.
No doubt, you will have seen guys who are really good with women, but they aren’t good looking, they work in a normal or average and don’t really seem to have anything special about them at all.
Yet, what you will notice if you pay attention from now on, is that these guys have one thing in common: Self-belief.
They feel worthy of the attention, affection and desire of women. They believe that they deserve that from women.
Whenever I’ve coached guys who are failing at picking up women, I always find that one of the main things they are missing is self-belief.
For example: A guy might be good looking, have really great fashion sense, work in a great job, be tall and drive a nice car, but he simply doesn’t believe in him and therefore can never be a true ladies man.
For guys like that, it is very easy for them to instantly transition to being a ladies man because all they need to do is start to believe in themselves and many women will find him attractive.
Yet, for guys like me who aren’t good looking or tall, we have to make up for our lack of physical attractiveness by being attractive in other ways (i.e. by displaying some of the personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities that naturally attract and arouse women).
Of course, some women out there will only accept a good looking, tall guy with loads of money, but the majority of women are much more flexible about what they find attractive in guys.
This is why you will see some guys who are ladies men, but they don’t seem to fit the stereotype (e.g. he might had bad teeth, be bald, short, skinny, overweight, working in a crappy or average job, etc).
How do those guys live the life of a ladies man without being good looking, rich and tall?
If he knows how to attract women by displaying the personality traits, behaviors and inner qualities that naturally attract and arouse women and he also has self-belief, then most women are going to feel more than enough attraction for him to want sex and a relationship.
As a result, he can be just as successful with women as a good looking, rich, tall guy can.
6. Smile, but don’t be a softie
When guys are trying to become more confident with women, they will sometimes make the mistake of putting on act of being indifferent and not really care about what women think or if women are actually interested in them.
In cases like that, a guy will often stop himself from smiling and looking happy and will instead try to appear tough and too cool to care about women or anyone else in a social environment.
This can then result in a guy going into his shell because he is spending way too much time lost in his thoughts, rather than actually being present in the moment and enjoying interactions with women and other people.
Yet, that is not what a ladies man does.
A true ladies man is allowed to be aloof and indifferent towards people if he wants to, but if he is going to charm the ladies, then he is going to be using his confident, charismatic smile as one of his weapons.
When a guy confidently smiles and interacts with women while maintaining his self-belief (i.e. that he is worthy of women), what happens is that he begins to display his unique charisma, which then makes women feel attracted to him.
You have a unique charisma that is unlike anyone else on Earth, so don’t hide that behind and act of being too cool for everyone else or pretending like you don’t even care to be in a particular situation.
Be there, believe in yourself and smile if you want to. However, don’t smile so much that you come across a soft, happy-go-lucky, naïve guy who is simply too nice and needs to grow some balls.
Women do like good guys, but they don’t like guys are too nice to the point where the woman feels like she is more masculine than he is.
7. Don’t give up if you make a mistake or don’t get an end result immediately
Every guy starts out at a slightly different level when it comes to his ability to attract women and be a ladies man.
However, what separates the winners from the losers is the persistence and determination to succeed no matter what.
This is the same in all areas of life, where people who are losers tend to give up when they encounter challenges and obstacles and they then conclude that it’s just all too difficult and that they could never do it.
On the other hand, people who are winners understand that there will always be challenges and obstacles on the way to higher levels of success in life.
The same principle of success in life applies to success with women.
If you are aiming to become more successful with women than you are now and reach higher levels of success (e.g. have sex and relationships with attractive women), then you are going to encounter challenges and obstacles on your way to achieving it.
If you are not willing to keep going, keep learning and keep growing, then you’re not going to get to that end result and will simply give up when you reach the end of the easy part of the process.
However, if you are wise enough to know that a person will always encounter new challenges and obstacles when they are reaching for higher levels of success in life, you’re going to be prepared to keep going when you make a mistake or don’t get an end result in a certain situation with a woman.
You’re going to know that you simply need to learn more or practice more and you will then get the result the next time or the time after that.
Some guys aren’t willing to do that and only want a result the first time that they try something, but that is a loser mindset.
True winners in life are those who understand that you have to keep pushing past the point where most people give up and you will then reach true success.
The Best Part About Being a Ladies Man
When you do get to the point where you are a ladies man, picking up women becomes extremely easy, simple and consistent.
Personally speaking, I still feel amazed at how easy it is to attract and pick up women compared to how much I used to struggle in the past when I had no idea how to attract women.
In the past, I would try to talk to women and get them to like me because I am a good guy and I would hope that they’d give me a chance because of that.
Yet, just being a good guy is not enough for a woman to want to get into a sexual relationship with you.
Women want to be able to feel sexually attracted to you and feel lucky to be getting a chance with you, rather than having to give you a chance to be with them.
When you get to the point where you effortlessly make a woman feel lucky to be getting a chance with an awesome guy like you, you will realize how easy and simple it is to pick up most of the women that you meet.
Most women put on an act of being really difficult to pick up, but in reality, they are extremely easy to pick up when you are what is referred to as a ladies man.