Most guys want to get an edge over other guys or stand out from the crowd to attract women more easily.
So, a question that I’ve been asked here at The Modern Man a few times over the years is, “What color attracts women?” and “Does wearing a certain color shirt make it easier to attract and pick up women?”
For the guys reading this who actually understand how a woman’s attraction really works, you will know that asking what color attracts women the most is a pretty naïve question.
Why? A woman’s attraction for a man is mostly based on how his personality and behavior makes her feel, not what color clothes he is wearing.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man really works and why it doesn’t really matter what color clothes a guy wears…
As you will discover from the video above, you can make a woman feel just as much attraction for you if you wear a red shirt, a black shirt or even a brown shirt.
What really matters is how you make her feel when she interacts with you. If your confidence, charisma, humor and masculine vibe makes her feel attracted and turned on, she will like you regardless of what color shirt you are wearing.
The Myth of the Color Red
A lot of people blindly talk about how red must be a great color to attract women, because it attracts a human’s attention in general.
For example: There is a reason why red is used for stoplights / traffic lights and for stop signs. It gets attention.
However, when it comes to attracting women, that’s a completely different story altogether.
Personally speaking, I remember wearing a red shirt about 12 years ago when I was first learning how to approach and attract women.
The red shirt didn’t help or hinder my success. Why? I was being rejected by women because I was nervous, self-doubting and wasn’t emotionally strong enough to handle their initial tests of my confidence when I approached and interacted with them.
I could have been wearing a blue shirt and it wouldn’t have a difference. A woman’s attraction is mostly based on how you personality and behavior makes her feel, not on whether you are wearing red, blue or orange.
My personality and behavior was turning women off because I was coming across as nervous and unsure of myself, even though I was trying hard to appear confident.
Billions of Opinions
There are currently more than 3.5 billion women in the world and you will likely get a lot of different opinions when you ask them the question of, “What color attracts women?”
Women will answer randomly with things like, “Oh, I like guys who wear blue” and another woman will say, “Oh no, white shirts are the best because they look clean and fresh” and another will say, “I prefer black. It’s mysterious.”
Yeah, whatever. Each of those women will have been attracted to, hooked up with and been in relationships with guys who were not wearing that color when they met.
Most women do not reveal what really attracts women to men and simply say random things about what they want in a guy, (e.g. “I just want a nice guy”), even if they don’t even follow through on what they are saying.
If you want women to be attracted to you for real, the most important thing is how you make them feel when you interact with them.
Watch this video and you will see what I mean…
When a guy interacts with a woman and makes her feel attracted to his behavior and personality traits, (e.g. his confidence, ability to make her laugh, ability to make her feel feminine and girly in comparison to his masculinity), she’s not going to be worried about trivial things like whether or not he is wearing clothes in her favorite color or not.
On the other hand, a guy interacts with a woman and behaves in ways that turn her off (e.g.being nervous and self-doubting around her, having a boring conversation style, treating her like a friend rather than a woman he wants to have sex with), she will feel repelled by him and his clothes will become another reason why she doesn’t feel attracted to him.
The most important thing you need to know is that the more ways you can make a woman feel attracted to you, the more intense her attraction for you will be, and the more interested she will be in the idea of having sex with you or becoming your girlfriend…regardless of what color you are wearing.
Are You Making Excuses About Not Being Attractive to Women?
A lot of good guys don’t really know how to attract women, so they focus on unimportant things like the color of their clothes, in the hope that it will somehow change their luck with women.
Yet, attracting women is not a matter of luck.
It’s actually a skill that a guy either has or doesn’t have. Guys who have the skill of being able to attract women are the guys who actively attract women with their confidence, charisma, sense of humor and masculinity.
Guys who don’t have the skill of being able to attract women try to “get lucky” by being really nice to women and trying to impress them by being a gentleman or having a great fashion sense.
They just don’t know that it is possible (and very easy) to attract women with their personality, behavior and conversation style, because they’ve been filling their heads with excuses about why they’ve failed with women for so long.
Watch this video and you will see what I mean…
Common excuses that guys use to explain why they’re not attracting the kind of women they really want, include some of the following:
- I’m not good looking enough.
- I don’t have a lot of money, an expensive car or a nice house.
- I’m not a doctor or lawyer; I only have a simple job.
- I’m not rich enough to buy the latest fashions, drive a luxury car or wear expensive jewelry.
- I wear the wrong color clothes, so women don’t find me attractive.
The list of excuses just goes on and on.
If a guy really wants to believe that these are the main things that women look for in a guy, he will keep finding “proof” to substantiate his beliefs.
For example: He will see a guy who is wearing a red shirt with a hot woman and he’ll think, “Ahah! Another one. Red shirts do attract women!” and will forget that he’s seen 100s of other guys wearing different color shirts, but still with a hot woman.
If he sees a guy who is good looking with a hot woman, he will think, “Ahah! Another one. It’s all about a guy’s looks! You have to be good looking to get a hot girl” and will forget that he’s seen 100s of average and below average looking guys with hot women.
Yet, what he doesn’t realize is this simple truth…
It is possible to attract most women by displaying some of the personality traits and behaviors (e.g. confidence, charisma, sense of humor, masculine vibe, etc) that naturally attract women.
Human Attraction is Actually Color Blind
Something that a lot of guys don’t realize is that most women (not all) are attracted to guys for a range of different reasons that have nothing to do with a guy’s looks, social status, money or fashion sense.
In fact, most women are just hoping to meet a guy who has the personality traits and behaviors that she feels naturally attracted to.
What are these behaviors and personality traits?
- Confidence and a strong belief in himself and in his abilities and value as a man.
- Masculinity (how he thinks, feels, behaves and takes action) that makes her feel girly and feminine in his presence.
- The ability to be charming and sweet without being too much of an ass-kissing, people pleasing nice guy.
- The ability to make her laugh, feel happy and feel turned on by how he talks to her.
Here’s the thing though…
Most of the guys that a woman meets will turn her off because they will usually display personality traits and behaviors that are the opposite of the ones that are attractive to her (e.g. self-doubt, nervousness and insecurity, a dull or formal conversation style, etc).
Watch this video to understand where many guys screw up when talking to women and what you can do instead to succeed…
As you will discover from the video above, most women don’t get to meet guys who can just be normal around them.
Most guys put on an act of being even nicer than they really are, while also suppressing their real personality, which then hides their natural charisma.
It’s very boring, typical and even annoying for a woman who keeps meeting guy after guy who simply can’t be normal around her and allow her to feel some attraction.
So, rather than wasting a lot of time talking to guys like that, a woman will immediately try to make it clear to him that she is not interested in him.
For example: She might tell him she already has a boyfriend and ask that he please leaves her alone.
She might give him the cold shoulder and just ignore him, or she might make “fun” of him by saying something like, “Gross, I hate your red shirt…it doesn’t suit you” in the hopes that he will feel embarrassed or uncomfortable and then go away.
Naturally, if this happens to him, he will immediately cling to a new excuse of why he didn’t get the girl by thinking, “It’s my clothes that are turning women off. If I can just find out what color attracts women the most, I will then finally get lucky with women. Maybe I should wear purple! Yeah, that will work!”
Yet, no matter how much he tries to convince himself that he’s wearing the wrong colors around women, he will always continue to see men who are wearing the same colors as he is, but they actually have a hot girlfriend.
He will then try to come up with another excuse like, “He must be rich” or “He must have a huge dick” in an attempt explain why a woman would like a guy who is wearing that color.
It’s pretty silly I know, but guys think all sorts of crazy things when they don’t actually know how to attract women with their personality and behavior.
Back when I was hopeless with women, I used to think that women were rejecting me because my nose is bent (I broke it in an accident when I was younger).
I also thought that I wasn’t good looking enough, so women just wouldn’t want anything to do with me.
I wasted so much money buying all sorts of fashionable clothes in the hope that it would be thing that finally changed my luck with women.
Yet, all I got was comments like, “Nice shirt” or “I like your shirt” while talking to women, but they still rejected me when I attempted to get their number, go in for a kiss or ask them out.
Why? I was turning them off by displaying personality traits and behaviors that naturally repel women (e.g. nervousness, insecurity, self-doubt, being too nice, etc).
You Can Attract Women, Regardless of the Color of Your Shirt
Women can feel incredibly attracted to men for many other than looks, money, or the style and color of their clothes.
The next time you go somewhere where there are a lot of people, look around you and pay attention for a couple of minutes.
You will see all different kinds of guys (e.g. tall, short, overweight, thin, handsome, average looking, below average looking, etc) walking around with attractive or even very beautiful women and the guys will be wearing many different styles and colors of clothes.
All the guys won’t be in a red shirt or blue shirt. They will be wearing all sorts of colors and styles of clothing.
These guys are attractive women because they know how to trigger a woman’s feelings of sexual desire with the personality traits (e.g. confidence, charisma, humor, masculinity) that are naturally attractive to women.
It’s as simple as that.
So, if you want to be attractive to women, the most important thing is how you make them feel when you interact with them.
Yes, some of the women you meet might have a preference for a certain color that they like a guy to wear, but if your personality and behavior turns her on, she will be happy to overlook your “bad” color choices and she might even start imagining how she would like to buy things for you in her favorite color if she becomes your girlfriend.
What Color Do You Like Wearing the Most?
The color that you like wearing the most is going to be the best color for you. Why? The color that will attract women to you the most is the one that you can wear with the most confidence and belief in yourself.
If you are confident and believe in yourself more when you wear black, then wear that color. Women will like you more in black because you will be more confident.
Confidence is one of the most important traits that a woman looks for in a guy, so just wear whatever makes you feel the most confident.