You’re basically fine with women and have no problem speaking with them – until you come across a woman you’re really interested in.
For some reason you just freeze up. You’re either too nervous to talk to her, you run out of things to say if you do talk to her, or you just make a total fool of yourself every time you try to speak with her. If that sounds familiar, read on!
If She is Attractive, Most Guys Treat Her Extra Nicely…Not Just You
You probably have many women in your life (e.g. friends, co-workers, relatives, neighbors, etc) and when you’re around them, you’re just fine. You can talk to them about almost anything and they think you’re funny, confident, charming and smart because you’re totally relaxed.
Yet, what you are around a beautiful woman or a woman that you really like, you treat her nicer. Suddenly, you try a little harder to be liked, you laugh at all of her jokes and hope that if you can just be good enough to her she will like you.
Yet, that’s not how it works.
What she wants to feel is sexual attraction for a guy and she then wants to feel like she would be lucky to get a chance with you. If the woman that you like is beautiful, pretty much every guy thinks she is special and really likes her.
Whenever you meet an attractive woman and suddenly feel as though you really like her, you have to remember that pretty much every guy is going to like her or at least be interested in having sex with her.
There is a big difference between being attracted to a woman and being interested in her. Don’t confuse the two or your mind will trick you into thinking she’s perfect in every way. While it is fine to be 100% attracted to a woman, you should not be 100% interested in her just because of her looks.
If she is attractive, she will be bored of guys being 100% interested in her immediately just because she looks good. If you want her to value your interest in her, you have to make her earn it, even if only subtly.
Be Your Best Self…With a Twist
As I said, one of the reasons that many other women like you is because you’re relaxed, confident, easy to talk with, funny and charming. And that’s great if you’re looking for a female friend. But if you want that special woman to look at you as dating material and in a sexual way, you have to get yourself out of the ‘finding a friend’ mindset and start behaving as someone she would want to have sex with. Confidence is essential. You have to initially show her that you aren’t treating her as being any more special than you would any other woman you know. Besides behaving as you normally do with women, with her you do have to be a little cocky and funny, flirt a bit, but definitely avoid fawning all over her like she is some type of perfect, unattainable goddess.
Is It Too Late to Change Her Impression of You?
If you’ve been too tongue-tied to talk to her or you’ve been falling all over yourself when around her, is it too late to change her opinion of you from a fool to someone cool? Not necessarily.
If You’ve Previously Been Too Much of a Nice Guy, Too Silly, Boring or Polite
Exhibit a more mature sense of humor – Women love men who are cocky, cheeky and funny. In short, they like the type of guy who will tease them a bit but not be too juvenile. (Sample conversation)
- Ask the girl what her favorite (restaurant, club, etc.) is and if she’d like to go there again. Then say, “Great, thanks! I have a date this week and just wanted to know someplace terrific to take her.” Then, when she looks startled or disappointed, you can say, “Okay, never mind. I’ll take her someplace else. Now, if you’re a good girl and don’t fall all over me, I’ll take you there next week.”
Be honest about what you really think of her – Most women don’t have high self-esteem, especially in regards to their sexual attractiveness to men compared to other women, so you will often have to tell a woman what you really think.
- If she is in a sexy dress, don’t lie to her and say, “Wow, that dress really brings out your eyes” or say something friendly like, “You look nice.” Instead, be honest and say, “Wow, you look really sexy in that dress. I like it!”
If You’ve Previously Been Too Nervous/Shy to Talk to Her
There are millions of beautiful women just like her. Do an internet search for beautiful women and you will see in seconds that is she is not the only one. She’s just another woman that you find appealing. Simply be your normal self and show her your charming, funny and confident nature. (Sample conversations)
- Walk up to her, with your shoulders back, head held high and a confident attitude and say, “Hey, we keep seeing each other but haven’t spoken because you’re obviously too shy to introduce yourself so I thought I’d come over and say hello. I’m John. What’s your name?”
- “You know, you’ve been checking me out for a while now and I just wanted you to know that it’s okay if you want to talk to me. I don’t bite. I’m John. And your name is…?”
Talking in those ways to a woman changes everything. You go from being nothing or ‘just a friend’ to being seen in a sexual way. If you want her to see you as boyfriend material, start behaving that way!