Are you confident and easy-going around women that you don’t find attractive, but freeze up around women you really like?
Does your mind sometimes go blank when talking to a girl you like? Do you sometimes notice women that you’d like to approach and who seem open to you, but you freeze up and let the opportunity slip through your fingers?
If you answered “Yes” to any of those questions, don’t worry – most guys experience that. So, how can you get over it and start being the confident guy around women that you know you can be?
Tip 1: Learn How to Attract Women
The main reason why guys freeze up around girls they like is that they don’t even know how to make her feel attracted.
Most guys know how to get women to “like” them as a person, but making her feel sexually attracted to you is a completely different thing altogether. Watch this video to understand how attraction between men and women really works…
Tip 2: Build Up Your Confidence to Approach the Women You Find Attractive
When you know how to attract women, approaching them becomes less of a big deal because you know that most of the women you approach will be attracted and interested in you.
However, if you’re like most guys, you can rarely work up the courage to approach and talk to the girls you really like. This, by the way, will become a HUGE advantage for you when you actually build up the confidence to approach women.
When you are one of the rare guys who isn’t afraid of approaching and talking to pretty girls, you will notice that there is hardly any competition. Most guys just wait in the shadows hoping that women “like” them enough to approach or give a signal that they want to be approached.
Yet, women rarely do that unless a guy is really good looking. Most guys (including me), don’t get approached by women because of their looks, so they have to grow a pair of balls, walk up to the girl and then make her feel attracted in ways other than looks.
Tip 3: Stop Trying to Be Liked For Being Nice
There’s nothing wrong with being the good guy that you are, but being nice to a woman isn’t what makes her wet.
If you want a woman feel sexually attracted to you, it won’t happen by being nice to her. You have to make her feel sexually attracted to you in other ways (e.g. being confident, having a masculine vibe, making her laugh, etc).
Watch this video to understand why being too nice to women rarely works…
Tip 4: Be a Bit of a Challenge to Impress
If a woman is attractive, most guys will be willing to have sex with her simply based on her appearance. Many of those guys will also be willing to start a relationship with her, even if she doesn’t have the type of personality that he really wants.
After a while, a woman gets bored of this and hopes to meet a guy who is a bit more of a challenge to impress…
Tip 5: Improve Your Conversation Skills
If you often run out of things to say when talking to women you like, most of those women won’t help you out. They would rather lose the opportunity to be with you than guide you through the process of picking them up.
To be successful at picking up women for sex or a relationship, you have to be able to keep a conversation going and keep it interesting for long enough for you and the woman to truly connect with each other.
If a woman is attractive, most of the guys who see her will be willing to have sex with her. To stand out from the crowd, you’ve got to be able to make her feel attracted to you during a conversation and then create a unique and unforgettable connection.
Here are some classic conversation mistakes that guys make, which ruin the attraction and cancel out the chance of creating an enjoyable connection…
Being Confident Around Women is Within Your Control
If you get tongue tied around beautiful women, it doesn’t mean that you can’t ever get to a point where you are completely confident and in control.
The reason why you freeze when you talk to her is because you are putting more focus on the conversation going on inside your head, rather than the conversation you’re having with her.
For example: You might be thinking, “Does she like me?” or “What should I say?” or “How can I impress her?” rather than just being confident, relaxed and allowing the interaction to play out.
Women are turned off by guys who are too “in their head” during a conversation because it indicates a lack of confidence. A woman knows that she will have the best type of sexual experience with a guy who isn’t worried about messing up or impressing her.
When having sex with a guy, a woman wants him to not worry about a thing and just be who he is. The same applies to when you’re talking to her and seducing her into a sexual relationship; she doesn’t want you to be worrying a lot and trying hard to impress her.
As long as you are making the woman feel attracted to you, there is no need to try hard to impress her or get her to like you because she will already be impressed and like you because she feels attracted to you.
If you want to be successful at picking up women, you have to start everything off with attraction. If you approach and talk to women and try to get them to “like” you, most women will get bored and play hard to get.