People will consider you to be a distinguished gentleman if you are:
- Confident and charismatic in social situations.
- Charming when you interact with ladies.
- Well dressed in the appropriate fashion for whatever the occasion is.
- Successful in your career or business endeavours.
- Always well groomed.
- Well mannered and courteous, but also assertive and strong.
- Have the kind of money that allows you to live a luxury lifestyle.
As you can see from the list above, it’s not easy to be labelled as being a distinguished gentleman, is it?
Let me ask you something…
Why are you interested in becoming a distinguished gentleman? Is it because you think women will like you more and it will be easier for you to get laid, get a girlfriend or find yourself a beautiful wife?
Yes, being a distinguished gentleman will make it easier for you to attract women, but you don’t have to go to those lengths to be attractive to most women.
Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use it to get what you want with women, whether you become a distinguished gentleman or not…
As you will discover from the video above, most women don’t require you to be an amazing, distinguished gentleman to qualify as a potential lover, boyfriend or husband.
Likewise, you don’t need to go to those lengths to be liked, respect and admired by other people.
Of course, if you want to become a distinguished gentleman, then go ahead and follow through on that goal by all means, but if your real motive is to hopefully impress women, you might end up wasting half your life to be “good enough” without realizing that you are already good enough for most women right now.
The truth is, most women don’t expect you to be an most amazing, utterly perfect gentleman and are simply looking for a good man who treats her well. You are most-likely already a good man right now, so as long as you know how to make women feel attracted to you, they will love the fact that you’re also a good guy.
Cultural Trends Always Come and Go
Have you ever noticed the way that culture always changes over time, even if people don’t want it to?
Yet, when the cultural trend is happening, pretty much everyone believes that it is the best way to live life and how things will be forever.
The men who were trying to be distinguished gentleman way back in 1900, wouldn’t have been able to imagine the world that we now live in. Internet, porn, sex before marriage, TV, movies, video games, virtual reality and women wearing mini skirts.
Back then, people had a very innocent way of looking at life. Yet, the world has changed, as it always does.
Just because it used to be cool to be a distinguished gentleman, it doesn’t mean that it is a cultural tradition that the world must keep alive. Most people don’t even know what a distinguished gentleman is and they really don’t care.
It might have been important 100 years ago, but in today’s world, people are more open minded and tend to laugh at old cultural ideas that enforce strict rules of behavior.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with living the life of a distinguished gentleman if you want, but if you’re doing it to hopefully be wanted by women one day, you’re probably going to waste a lot of your time trying to be good enough for women who would like you as you are right now.
Where Guys Go Wrong
Practicing good manners and being a gentleman to a woman is a great thing to do, but a modern woman will only appreciate such a gesture if she is sexually attracted to you.
In the past, women were dependant on men for their survival and men usually took on the role as the sole breadwinner and protector of the household.
A woman had to find a nice man, marry him and she would then lose her virginity, raise their children and take care of the cooking and cleaning.
Back then, it made a lot of sense to marry a man who seemed like a distinguished gentleman, because it would usually mean that he would be able to support her and would hopefully treat her with respect as well.
In the old days, men would get away with mistreating their woman and no matter how badly she was treated, she had to stay married to him because divorce was shameful.
Fast forward to the present day and it’s a completely different story altogether.
Women can now earn their own money, have pre-marital sex and break up with or divorce men if they are not happy.
So, in today’s day and age, it’s not a man’s gentlemanly status that makes a woman select him for a husband. Instead, the majority of women now select a man based on how much sexual attraction he makes her feel and, after they’ve taken each other for a sexual test drive, she will then see how she feels about having a committed relationship with him.
According to a USA study, 55% of couples admitted to having sex on their first date and a European study found that 70% of women admitted to having had experienced a one night stand (sex on the first night) before.
It’s definitely not 1900 anymore.
There’s nothing wrong with approaching a woman with the air and graces of a gentleman, but you have to make sure that you begin by making her feel sexually attracted to you.
If you don’t trigger her feelings of sexual attraction first and simply expect her to like you for being a nice guy, she will feel turned off by the fact that you’re acting like a man from 100 years ago and haven’t caught up with the times.
Why Do Women Reject Some Guys Who Act Like a Gentleman?
Have you ever noticed how women get excited when some guys behave like a gentleman, but then reject other guys who do the same thing?
The reason is pretty simple.
The guy who makes the woman feel excited about his gentlemanly behavior will have made her feel attracted to him first, whereas the reject will have been hoping to be liked for being such a nice gentleman.
You Are Good Enough Right Now
Distinguished (adjective): made conspicuous by excellence; noted; eminent; famous. Having an air of distinction, dignity, or eminence.
The label of being a distinguished gentleman is something that may take you a lifetime to accomplish (e.g. it usually takes a lot of achievement and excellence to be known as a distinguished scientist, author, actor, businessman or public figure).
Some guys make the mistake of taking the “distinguished gentleman” dream way too far and end up wasting most of their lives trying to be like James Bond or become a mega rich business tycoon.
As a result, they rarely, if ever, reach the point where they feel good enough around beautiful women and successful people. No matter how much they achieve, they always feel like they need to do more to be truly impressive and hopefully, one day, be seen as a distinguished gentleman.
Here’s the thing that you must realize though…
THE MAN YOU ARE RIGHT NOW IS GOOD ENOUGH FOR MOST WOMEN.
If you decide to put more time and effort being more of a gentleman, then by all means go ahead and do that, but just make sure that you don’t waste any more time thinking that you’re not good enough for most women and most people in this world.
The truth is, you are already good enough for most women and most people will like you if you just believe in yourself and believe that you are good enough. Think about the cool guys that you know who believe in themselves and their value to other people, even though they are not a man of high status.
It’s great that you want to be seen as a gentleman, but in today’s world, it doesn’t count for much if you’re just being a nice, well-mannered man to people. If you want women to desire you and men to respect you, it requires more than just being seen as a gentleman…