If you’ve been dumped by your girlfriend and you can’t see yourself moving on without her, it’s only natural that you may begin to wonder, “How to make my ex-girlfriend want me back.”
So what is the solution? Is it possible to make an ex-girlfriend want to take you back and if so, what’s the quickest and best way to go about it?
Watch this video by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man and creator of Get Your Ex Back: Super System) to understand exactly what you need to do make your ex-girlfriend want you back as soon as possible…
Preparing Yourself to Get Her Back
Some guys are able to get their ex girlfriend back very quickly, whilst others need to work at it for a couple of weeks or even a couple of months to get the woman back. It all depends on how quickly you can get yourself into an emotionally attractive state and how good you are at making your ex girlfriend feel respect and attraction for you.
So, the first thing that you need to accept is that making an ex want you back may not necessarily going to be a “quick fix” process.
However, the good news is that when you approach the process of getting your ex girlfriend back correctly, it’s not only possible to get her back, but you can also make her feel even more passionately and deeply in love with you than ever before.
Watch this video by Dan Bacon to understand the process that your ex-girlfriend went through before breaking up with you and what you need to do to get her back…
Why Should She Want You Back?
Your girlfriend became your ex for a reason, so unless you can give her a reason to see things differently, why should she want you back?
A woman doesn’t just dump a guy and end a relationship for no reason; something about you or your attitude and behavior in the relationship must have changed to cause her feelings for you to change. So what happened?
Every relationship is different and relationships end for different reasons, but the bottom line is that a woman breaks up with a guy because she’s no longer in love with him. A woman falls out of love with a guy when she loses respect for him and then loses all feelings of sexual attraction as a result. So what happened to cause your ex to feel differently about you?
Women are instinctively attracted on a deep level to guys who have alpha male characteristics. When your ex initially became your girlfriend, she must have seen some of those qualities in you.
Some of the alpha qualities that women love in a man include confidence, masculinity and social intelligence, so anything about your attitude or behavior that suggested you were lacking in those areas would have caused her to lose respect and attraction for you as a man.
Your girlfriend became your ex because you behaved in a way that led to her feeling less sexually attracted to you, so if you want her to want you back, you need to show her that you’ve made changes for the better and you are now a man with the attractive qualities that she’s looking for.
Are You Able to Make Your Ex-Girlfriend Feel a Lot of Sexual Attraction For You?
Most guys go through life never really knowing how to make women feel intense attraction for them. Instead, they try their best to impress women when they meet them and then hope to get lucky.
Sometimes, guys do get lucky and score themselves a girlfriend, but that doesn’t mean they will be able to keep her happy in a relationship. Once the initial buzz wears off and a woman begins to lose respect and attraction for a guy, it’s pretty much game over unless he is able to make her feel a renewed sense of respect and attraction for him.
Watch this video by Dan Bacon to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man really works and how you can use it to make your ex want you back…
To re-attract your ex, you can display attractive traits such as…
Some guys initially put on an act of being truly confident around women, but they can’t keep that up for long when in a relationship because women always test guys.
For example: One of the classic tests that a woman will put a guy through to test his confidence is to first get him to fall in love with her and then pull back her interest. She wants to see if he will become insecure, desperate, clingy or controlling. If he does, she will lose respect and attraction for him and the relationship will begin to fall apart.
However, if he reacts by laughing off her attempt to get him chasing her, she will realize that she has met her match. Unlike an insecure guy, a confident guy will remain confident in his sex appeal to his girlfriend no matter what she says.
When a girlfriend notices that no matter what she says or does, her boyfriend remains confidence in his value and attractiveness to her, it makes her feel a deep respect and attraction for him that she will rarely, if ever, get to experience with other guys.
Masculinity isn’t all about having bulging muscles or being tall.
The type of masculinity that is attractive to a woman over the long run is based on your mental and emotional strength as a man (e.g. you are confident, you don’t get insecure when she tests you, you remain strong when life gets tough, you don’t feel intimidated by people, you take the lead in your relationship with her, etc).
If a woman feels like she is mentally and emotionally stronger than you and that you need her assurance to feel secure, she will naturally find it difficult to maintain her feelings of respect and attraction for you. On the other hand, if you are the sort of guy that she can look up to and respect, she will naturally feel respect and attraction for you.
Another important way of attracting a woman with your masculinity is by making her feel girly and feminine in response to your masculine vibe, thinking, behavior and actions. If you lack the ability to make her feel girly, then you lack the type of masculinity that will keep a woman attracted for life.
3. Social intelligence
A guy with social intelligence has what it takes to get along with all types of people (including alpha males, beautiful women, the cool crowd, etc) in a social setting. His communication skills and effortless charismatic charm give him a likeability factor that makes him someone who is socially cool and fun to be around.
4. Life purpose
Having purpose in life shows a woman that you are a man who knows who he is and what really matters to him. This is a very attractive quality to women because it makes you stand out as a man who is not afraid to go after what he wants and is prepared to go the extra mile to keep on pursuing his true potential in life.
Compare that to a guy who hides from his true potential in life behind a relationship with a woman. Women don’t want to have to shield a scared, confused guy from the world. Instead, they want to be with a man that they can look up to and respect; a guy that they brag about to their friends because he is confident, fearless and determined to succeed at achieving his biggest dreams in life.
Big Mistakes to Avoid When Trying to Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back
With all of the above in mind, showing your ex-girlfriend that you have made improvements and that you have the sexually attractive qualities she’s looking for, also means avoiding the following commonly made mistakes…
1. Calling, texting, emailing and generally hounding her
If your ex-girlfriend is like most women on this planet, she wants a confident, masculine, socially cool guy who has important things going on in his life other than just a relationship her.
Which part of hounding her with calls shows you to be that guy? It doesn’t, right? Behaving in that way suggests that you are desperate to be with her and desperation is not an attractive trait in a man.
2. Begging for a second chance
Begging and pleading with her to be given a second chance is also not attractive. In the same way that hounding her with calls suggests that you might be an emotionally desperate guy, begging suggests that you are now a weak, wimpy guy who feels like he is nothing without her.
3. Writing a letter and proclaiming undying love
Nothing you can say in words, whether you’re leaving phone and text messages or writing a letter, can change the way that your ex really feels about you.
To regain the respect and attraction of your ex, you have to show her that you really have changed, rather than telling her how much you need her, miss her, etc. Writing a love letter to an ex-girlfriend might work in teen sitcoms, romantic comedy movies or TV drama shows, but it’s not going to work in real life.
Making Her Want You Back
If you want your ex to want you back, you have to let her experience the new and improved version of you. When you speak to her on the phone or get her to agree to meet you in person, the most important thing that you need to do is trigger her feelings of respect and attraction for you.
If you are able to do that, she will naturally begin to feel like she wants you back or is at least now open to giving the relationship another chance and seeing what happens.
If you are serious about getting your ex-girflriend back, you need to change your thought process from, “How to make my ex-girlfriend to want me back” to, “How can I make myself irresistibly attractive to my ex-girlfriend so she can’t stop herself from giving me another chance.”
Ready to begin?