No guy is going to ask himself, “Is my girlfriend going to break up with me” if he doesn’t already feel like there is something wrong in the relationship.
Whether it’s because she’s already said, “I need some space to think about us” or because she’s been behaving a little weird lately, the fact is, if you’re asking the question, something is definitely not feeling right in your relationship.
To get a quick understanding of where things might be going wrong, you should watch this video by Dan Bacon (founder of The Modern Man):
Note: The video above will help you prevent the break up from happening.
However, if she ends up breaking up with you and want to get her back, watch this video: How to Get Your Ex Back: 5 Common Mistakes to Avoid
How Can You Know When Your Girlfriend Wants to Break Up With You?
When a woman stops feeling the way she wants to feel when she’s with her man, she slowly begins to lose attraction, respect and finally love for him. Over time she begins to “detach” herself from him and from the relationship.
However, instead of just breaking up with her guy when she first begins to fall out of love with him, a woman will, instead, begin to show signs that she is losing interest in him, or is no longer interested in being in a relationship with him.
If you’re asking, “Is my girlfriend going to break up with me?” begin by looking at the following list to determine if she’s been behaving in all, or some, of these ways.
1. Has she become unavailable to you?
In today’s world, we all lead busy lives and it’s perfectly normal to sometimes be unable to answer the phone, respond to a text message or even arrange a meet up at certain times. However, no matter how busy it gets, when a woman is in love, she will always make herself available for her man.
If your girlfriend is suddenly avoiding you or is taking too long to respond to your calls or texts, she is clearly saying, “I’m not feeling the same urgency and attraction to get in touch with you that I did in the past.” Try to stop calling or texting her entirely for a few days.
If she doesn’t call you to see why you’re not calling her (unless there’s a really serious reason), then she is definitely cutting herself off from you and getting ready to break up with you. If that’s the case, you must switch gears and do you very best to begin making her feel attracted to you again.
2. Has she become reluctant to have sex or even be affectionate with you?
A classic sign that things are not as they should be in a relationship is when a woman stops wanting to have sex or even being affectionate.
If every time you try to touch, kiss or initiate sex with your girlfriend she pulls away from you, or says things like, “Don’t! You’re going to smudge my lipstick,” or “Not now! Can’t you see I’m busy?” when she never used to react in this way before, then it is a definite sign that her attraction for you has waned.
3. Has she started going out without you more and more?
When a woman is with a man who makes her feel attractive, loved and appreciated, it is natural for her to want to spend most of her time with him.
Yes, it’s natural and even healthy for a man and a woman to spend some time away from each other with their own friends and pursuing their own hobbies. But, when she would rather go out with her friends than be with him or inviting him to join her, it is a clear sign that she is pulling away from him and even making herself available to meet other men by appearing to be single.
4. Has she started flirting with other men when you’re around?
In the best case scenario, when a woman flirts in front of her boyfriend, it is her desperate way of telling him that she’s not getting the attention she needs from him. If a woman stops feeling the way she wants to feel when she’s with her man, she will look for someone else who can give her what she’s craving.
However, in the worst case, she’s already lost respect, love and attraction for her man, and flirting with other men in front of him is less of a cry for attention and more a statement of, “I’m moving on and I want you to see it.”
5. Is she spending more time talking on the phone, chatting online or texting people you don’t know?
When a woman’s social life suddenly picks up and she starts putting a lot of time and energy into it, you can be sure something’s going on.
Especially if when he asks her who she’s talking to she brushes him off with a casual, “No-one important,” or “No-one you know.” Once again, like going out without him, talking to strangers an the phone or online all the time is a woman’s way of opening up her social circle and making herself available to meeting new men.
Okay, So Your Girlfriend Wants to Break Up With You. What Now?
Assuming that all, or some, of the above warning signs have occurred in your relationship, right now you’re probably thinking, “Damn…it looks like my girlfriend is going to break up with me…! Is there anything I can do to stop it from happening?”
Luckily, the answer is yes and it’s not something that has to take months or years either. There are practical things you can do right NOW that will help re-spark the attraction between you and her so that you can regain her love and respect for you.
As explained above, the main reason a woman starts pulling out of her relationship is because she has stopped feeling the way she wants to feel when she’s with her man, which in turn makes her lose respect, attraction and love for him. However, those feelings can re-sparked.
Basically, the real secret to keeping your relationship together is to deepen the love, respect and attraction that your woman feels for you so that she will no longer have thoughts about breaking up with you. The best way to do this is to understand what is causing her to stop loving you in the first place.
Start by making a list of things that you believe are causing problems between you. For example:
- Have you been neglecting her?
- Have you been taking her for granted?
- Do you still take time to make her feel feminine and attractive?
- Are you clingy? Are you smothering her with your neediness and insecurities?
- Have you been unable to control your feelings of jealousy in the relationship?
- Are you afraid of losing her because you think she’s too good for you? Is this making her have power over you?
- Are you leading in the relationship, or are you letting her “wear the pants”?
- Do you have plans for your future, or are you pretty much stumbling through your life?
By understanding what behaviors are pushing her away, you will be able to take steps to change these things. Remember, your girlfriend already has feelings for you. Even though right now these feelings may be leaning towards the negative, you can easily regain her love and respect by showing her that you are taking her seriously.
Preventing the Break Up
By being brave enough to ask, “Is my girlfriend going to break up with me?” you are clearly the kind of guy who’s prepared to do what it takes to change; and we can help you. By using the techniques from The Modern Relationship, you can regain her respect and attraction again and prevent the break up.
When you change the way she feels by changing how you think, behave and act around her, your girlfriend will see that you’re serious about making your relationship work and her attraction for you will grow.