You’ve spotted a beautiful woman and you’ve decided that you’re going to approach her.
However, if you’re not careful about how you handle the next few minutes, the only thing you might score is a negative response from her and the stinging feeling of rejection as you walk away with your tail between your legs.
Here are the top 10 ways to get rejected when approaching women.
10. Show a lack of confidence
If you want to be rejected immediately, approach a woman with your shoulders slumped and a nervous, almost ‘terrified’ expression on your face. She’ll be able to spot your fear and desperation and will immediately lose interest.
On the other hand, if you stand tall, smile and approach her with self-confidence and a casual attitude like you were just going over for an easy-going chat, you’ll instantly make a much more positive first impression.
9. Be way too nice to her
There’s nothing wrong with being nice to a woman, but if you’re being extra nice and polite as way to impress her, it will usually end up in rejection. Why?
8. Apologize for your appearance
If you just came from your ‘work-up-a-sweat’ job, have been exercising or you generally don’t look your best when you spot a stunning beauty, don’t use that as an excuse not to approach her. Remember, it’s your inner confidence and cheeky charm that a woman will respond to, not your looks and attire.
Whatever you do – never apologize about your appearance when you meet a woman, because you’ll make her start thinking about it.
A woman wants to be positively affected by your personality, rather than have to interact with you like she would with a woman who is concerned with her appearance. If you try to make it about ‘looks’, she’ll probably agree that you don’t look good enough to be with her because 99% of guys are just ordinary-looking guys.
7. Talk softly or mumble
If you walk up to a woman and say something like, “Hi…I’m uh John, and I uh, just want to um say hello because I uh noticed you and I thought umm that maybe if you wanted, you don’t have to, of course, but uh we could maybe umm…”
You get the point. By this time, if she hasn’t already fallen asleep you can be sure that she’s going to ignore you and walk away. Mumbling and speaking softly shows a total lack of confidence and that is going to kill your chances with women. Women are naturally attracted to a man’s confidence, just like we men are naturally attracted to a woman’s physical appearance.
Speak loudly enough to be heard and sound upbeat, self-assured and clear to spark her interest. You have nothing to hide – you’re exactly the type of guy that you are. Be proud of yourself and enjoy being you. When you do that, you will find women who love you for you, rather than for an act you put on from time to time.
6. Unnecessarily invade her space
Unless you’re in a loud environment like a nightclub, you should keep about 1.5 meters between you and the woman to begin with.
Everyone has a personal space that they are comfortable with. If you invade her space by stepping up too closely for no reason when you first meet her, you’ll freak her out. Keep a reasonable distance from her so she doesn’t feel as though you are treating her like some gorgeous supermodel that is being approached by a desperate fan.
If you want to get closer, take her for a spin on the dance floor where touching and closeness is not only ‘legal,’ it’s desirable. Alternatively, use flirting to create sexual tension and she will naturally begin to get closer to you.
5. Compliment her too much
If she’s beautiful, she already knows it. If you repeatedly tell her how sexy and stunning she is when you first meet her, you’re going to come off like every other wannabe pick-up artist she’s met. Treat her like any other average-looking girl.
She’ll assume that you’re used to being around beautiful women and are more interested in her as a person. That will be a turn-on for her and soon she’ll be trying to turn you on.
4. Come across as too eager
Some women like to test a man’s confidence level, so they’ll ask him to run and get drinks for her and her friends or perform some silly task. If you fall for that type of request, she’ll immediately label you needy and desperate and she will either reject you or continue to humiliate you in front of her friends.
You wouldn’t run off to fetch drinks if a guy asked you to do it, so don’t be so eager to please when you first meet a woman.
3. Use a bad pickup line
For some reason, many guys feel they have to come up with a ‘line’ when they meet a woman. A simple, “Hi, how’s it going?” or “Hey, I’m John, I thought I’d come over and say hi…what’s your name?” will usually do the trick as long as you smile with confidence and take a light-hearted approach when starting the conversation.
Canned lines like, “Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?” will turn her off quicker than a flick of a light switch.
2. Think that it’s all about you
When you first approach a woman, if you start spouting your resume or biography as if you were applying for the position as her boyfriend, you’re not going to get the job.
Instead, simply start a laid-back, light-hearted two-way conversation. Playing tease her a couple of times about stuff she says, make some jokes on the fly, ask her a casual question or two and just talk to her like you would any other person, not as though she is someone ‘super special’ to you.
Trying too hard to impress her makes you look needy and desperate, which will lead to rejection almost 99% of the time.
1. Approach her when you’re drunk
We all know when we are in the process of drinking too much. However, once you get there it’s not as easy to collect your thoughts and realize how drunk you are. So, take it easy.
If your goal is to meet a beautiful woman and get her interested in you, forget the liquid courage – or at least, don’t overdo it. A few drinks throughout the night (to join in on the fun) are fine, but clouding your fears in alcohol so you can talk to women isn’t the solution and won’t ever help you overcome your fears.
Approach women with the mindset of: Having a good night and enjoying some easy-going, fun and light-hearted conversations. That way you can be the interesting, appealing guy that she has been dreaming about and not a sloppy drunk that she wants to distance herself from.
Avoid these top 10 ways to get rejected when you meet an interesting sexy woman and before you know it, you’ll be dialing her for a date.