How to pick up women in a bar

The full start to finish process for picking up women in bars is taught in Dating Power.

The first thing you need to know about how to pick up women in a bar is this: It is fun, exciting and is the easiest way to get phone numbers, kiss women and have sex on the first night.

How do I know this?

I have personally had sex with more than 250 women (some photos) and I also spent 3 years taking guys out each weekend to approach and pick up women in bars. The result of all that experience is an 8 hour video program called Dating Power.

Do You Freeze Up When You Want to Approach a Woman in a Bar?

Most guys would love to be able to pick up women in a bar, but when they get there, it just feels too daunting. All of a sudden, they begin feeling nervous and worrying about whether or not they might get rejected. If they don’t work up the courage to approach, they will often end up standing around all night, hoping that something might happen so they can get lucky.

How about you?

Do you get nervous when it comes time to approach women in bars? Do you run out of things to say when talking to women you like? Are you able to get phone numbers and pull one night stands? Personally speaking, I used to freeze up and get nervous when I saw beautiful women that I wanted to pick up in bar environments. If I did manage to get myself to approach, I would appear nervous and intimidated. So, I fixed my issues and improved myself.

Approaching One Women or a Group of Women

A common question that I get about how to pick up a woman in bar is, “Should I approach women on their own, or women in groups?” The answer is: It doesn’t matter. What matters is that when you approach the woman or women, you allow her/them to experience your confident, cool and charismatic personality. When you do that, women will naturally open up to you and want to keep the interaction going.

Personally speaking, I enjoy approaching groups of women because when girls in the group notice that their friends are attracted to me, it makes them feel jealous and left out. They see that I am a valuable guy and want to compete with their friends to get my interest. The more I get them competing against each other, the more they cause themselves to like me and begin falling in love with me. Then, I just transition to kissing one of them and then leaving to have sex that night…or, at the very least, getting a phone number to follow up later.

Interacting With a Group of Women in a Bar

When talking to a group of women in a bar, make sure that you:

  • Speak to everyone in the group: Don’t make the mistake of focusing on only one woman. Make sure that you display good social intelligence by talking to everyone in the group. If you come across as a sneaky pick up artist who is just looking to score, then most women will try to get you to leave the group. The Modern Man approach to success with women is to focus on being a social, cool, easy-going guy and to not use weird pick up tricks on women. It’s about getting women to like you for you, so don’t put on an act and don’t get all sneaky about it either. Just be your normal, cool, confident self and go from a conversation to a phone number, kiss or to sex that night.
  • Use flirting body language: You must ensure that you create a sexual vibe between you and the women, otherwise it will eventually feel weird that you are talking to them for so long. They will begin to wonder, “Does this guy want to be our friend? Is he gay? Does he actually like any of us?” The easiest way to create a sexual vibe is to use flirting body language.
  • Crack some jokes: If your conversation style is too reserved, the women will eventually lose interest. You’ve got to loosen up and get the women laughing and enjoying the interaction with you.

Would you like to learn more about how to pick up women in bars? I have developed a proven system that I used to have sex with more than 250 women. I have since begun teaching that system to guys from all over the world. See: Success stories

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Welcome to The Modern Man!

My name is Dan Bacon and I used to be hopeless with women. I lacked confidence in myself and couldn't get women to like me. Despite being a good, honest guy, women just weren't interested.

When I created the controversial attraction techniques that I now teach here at The Modern Man, beautiful women began flooding into my life and I've enjoyed my choice of women ever since.

I've already helped 1,000s of guys to get instant results with women (100s of success stories here) and I would love to help you too.

If you are sick and tired of not getting results with women and would like to try something that is absolutely guaranteed to work for you, then get started here

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