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- Part 1: What do you say to a woman after the conversation starter?
- Part 2: How do you overcome the initial fear of rejection when you want to approach a woman or ask her out?
- Part 3: How do you get out of the friend zone with a woman and start dating/having sex with her instead?
- Part 4: Why do women always go for bad boys?
- Part 5: Why do women play hard to get, especially after you’ve shown them that you’re interested?
- Part 6: How do I get the confidence to approach women?
- Part 7: Why does she always talk about other guys who like her?
- Part 8: How do I tell a woman that I have feelings for her?
- Part 9: How do you approach women during the day? (Bookstores, malls, etc)
- Part 10: Can I recover from a bad first impression I made on a woman?
- Part 11: How do you pick up beautiful women who play hard to get?
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I haven’t watched any of these in a while, and found it refreshing, funny… and not quite what I expected..(to hear)
Your accent, of course makes it more interesting than a midwestern American accent.
Thanks Henry – Glad you’re enjoying the vids!
It’s funny because us Aussies love to hear the American accent too. We’ve grown up watching America on TV and it sounds good to us.
Tip: Aussie women LOVE the American accent. So, if you’re planning a holiday – check out Australia and say hello to some women in the bars there. You’ll be greeted with open arms.
Works the other way too…when I was traveling through Europe a couple of months ago, I met a bunch of different American girls and they all loved my Aussie accent. Made it even easier!
hi, I have no problem with getting girls, but the real problem is I cant get her out of my house!!!!! Im not a bad person or anything but she just not right for me we want difference thing now. I always have problem with break up. My ex still try to get back with me, i told her it will never happen,Im trying to break up with my current girlfriend for about a year now. every time when I try she cry and told me she don’t want to be alive anymore. I really need help how do i handle this????
Thanks for your question.
A lot of guys would roll their eyes at your question and think you’re bragging or talking it up…but, this is what happens when you know how to attract and maintain the interest of women…they don’t want to leave!
I’ve gotten good at though. You have to be firm and follow through on it. Check out this article and let me know if there’s anything else you need to know:
Hi, I agree. you cannot act like a “bad man”; specially when the girl is not attracted to you; because they’ll start looking at you as a “ciminal” or something like that; as acting as a challenge when she’s not even noticed you.
Interesting words. am looking forward to the next video
Thanks Philz! Next video is now online: http://www.themodernman.com/videos/question-and-answer-video-series-part-5.html
Sir like to ask this question because i’ve seen it everytime & everywhere if i recall correctly if you treat women with respect she don’t like that and she won’t treat you with respect but if you don’t treat her with respect or other words if you ignore her she loves you even more even if you do abuse her she loved it but i like to ask is it true nice guys finish last, is it true women love being abuse some reason they respond to abuse then a guy who treats her right and respect her and is it true women love being ignored to let you know i’m still single i’m 23 and i’m still a virgin because i’m saving it for a right girl and i’m doing research about stuff thanks again
Thanks for your question.
I’ll make a video about nice guys soon, but to answer your question in the meantime: No, women don’t respond positively to disrespect. It’s just that some guys are just TOO polite, TOO nice and TOO respectful…and they do it in an attempt to try win a woman over.
If you want a woman to want to have sex with you and be your girlfriend, you need to ATTRACT her…not get her to LIKE you as a nice man. There are plenty of nice men available for her…but she is FIRSTLY looking for a man whom she is attracted to….THEN (and only then) will she consider how nice/good/suitable he is.
If you need to learn how to attract women, read my ebook:
Hi Dan..there is this girl who i really like,but attempts to date..she told me that i look like a son to her..just coz am skiny..is been skiny that bad???
Thanks for your question.
It depends on the woman. Some women like Asian guys, some like European guys, some like buff guys, some like slim guys, etc…
No guy is compatible with every woman. You need to talk to MORE women. Don’t ever base your understanding of women on ONE woman.
Have you ever realized that YOU reject women too? When you see a woman and in your head you say to yourself, “Nah, wouldn’t have sex with her” you are privately rejecting her. Imagine how those women would feel if they could hear what you were thinking?
In your case, you’ve just come across a girl who spoke her mind and told you the truth about your compatibility with each other. Don’t be disheartened. Simply talk to ANOTHER woman.
If you don’t know how to approach and talk to new women, read my ebook:http://store.themodernman.com/products/the_flow.php
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Great video. Some people whether men or women find it hard to approach opposite sex because of some fear, may be fear of being rejected or fear of being ended up as a joker. In Buddhism, it says that “MOTIVATION” plays very important role in order to get rid of fear that stands in your way to achieving your goal. we need to examine the motivation behind doing anything like approaching a girl for instance. if your motivation is to hurt the girl or do some emotional or physical harm then the fear is natural. and it is better if we dont try to get rid of that fear. but if your motivation is to find someone to love, to find a friend, to fulfill your emotional need, to want love or to be loved then the question is what is their to fear. you are going to deal with girl with a motivation to love her and yourself. and its perfectly alright. its alright even if your are rejected or make fun of yourself, but its worth loving yourself and spreading love…so lets check our MOTIVATION.
Thanks for your comment.
While I respect your religious views and have nothing against them, your theory is only partially correct. Yes, motivation does help, but unless the FEAR is fixed MOST people will not take action…and without action, nothing happens.
How motivated do you think guys are to have sex with women? It is probably one of the biggest motivators for men in life. The fact is, it doesn’t matter how motivated a guy is to get a girlfriend. If he FEARS approaching women (because he’s worried about getting rejected for example), he just won’t approach. Instead of facing his FEAR of approaching women, he’ll spend YEARS working on getting a university degree (to impress women and hopefully have women approach him or show more obvious interest in him) or advance in his career (to impress women – same again), build muscles at the gym (same again) or get a nice car (same again). Yet, as his life goes on he still finds himself without a girlfriend no matter what he achieves at work, in the gym or financially. It is not because he lacks motivation to get a girl that he continues to find himself single. It is that he FEARS the potential consequences of approaching a woman.
BTW: If you are reading this and fear approaching women OR need more motivation to do so, read The Flow http://store.themodernman.com/products/the_flow.php listen to Mastery Methods & Mindsets http://store.themodernman.com/products/mastery_methods_and_mindsets.php or watch Dating Power http://store.themodernman.com/products/dating_power.php
If you want to listen to a success story from a guy who used to struggle to approach and attract women, check out this page: http://www.themodernman.com/she_called_him_stupid.html …you’ll learn what he said and did to approach a woman during the day and then make her his girlfriend.
Thanks for all your advice! It has helped me throw a bunch of cultural and media crap out the window. One thing that I can never quite understand is why it seems like guys who are either gay or look and talk gay seem to be popular with women (though not sexually). Thanks
Thanks for positive feedback and question.
The reason why women like hanging out with “fake fags” is simple. It’s entertaining. Women love to gossip, get all dramatic and cry over TV sitcoms – and they can get the same type of emotional stimulation from hanging out with a guy who behaves like he’s super gay. However, as you have seen – those guys don’t get laid.
Women all over the world still get wet over a cool, relaxed confident guy who knows how to make them feel ATTRACTION. The guys who are getting laid are NOT trying to ENTERTAIN women like the fake fags are. Instead, they just attract women and then decide which one they are going to sleep with. It is not complicated.
Over the years, I’ve coached a lot of guys (about 20% of my clients) who’ve seen other guys getting “attention” (not sex) for acting gay, so they copied and ended becoming even more frustrated, depressed and angry at the whole dating scene. Here’s a testimonial from one of those guys: http://www.themodernman.com/everythingbutgirl.html …when I first met that particular client to help him he was acting so gay that I literally stopped him after 2 minutes and asked, “Dude – what the f**k. Do you actually like women in a sexual way?” and he just cracked up laughing. He then told me his story and how he had HEAPS of female friends, but they all just liked him as a friend. I said, “Yeh, because you act like a girl” and he replied, “Shit…what the hell have I been doing?” and then went onto explain that he’d spent the last 2 years being a close friend to so many women and acting like a fag because when he did, they paid more attention to him. I said, “…but, no sex right?” and he of course replied with, “Yes, none at all”
Crazy stuff, but it’s a symptom of the modern world. Men see women acting all confident and independent and think that they can succeed with women by letting the women be the ones in charge. No, no, no….it doesn’t matter how masculine a woman behaves, she NEVER wants you to look up her like “she’s the man”. Watch the video of The Modern Man on Singles TV for more info on that: http://store.themodernman.com/about_us.php
P.S. Just for those who are unsure how to behave around modern women, let me make it totally clear: Women do NOT want you to act like a girl. They want you to be a man and take charge by approaching and then escalating to a phone number or kissing > sex and then into a relationship. Do not ever put yourself in the one down position around women in terms of dominance.
Hi there.First i want to tell you that you are doing great job.Dating power and the flow-masterpieces !!!I have one question (actually need your advice,help) but i am not sure in which section to put it so here it goes:
Here’s the deal: I’m 26 years old, and i dont have much problem getting the girls to my bedroom. But there starts my problem.I last around a two minutes ( of course not including foreplay ), and can’t really help it. I’ve tried different positions, reducing friction, etc. I’m too mentally aroused and I still blow it quickly.No matter how much sex I have, I find myself too excited to hold out for longer time.Thanks to your program I’m so cocky and confident about how I interact with women, I feel like they expect more out of me MUCH MORE(and rightfully so).Every time i feel i end up to be big disapointment for them.Is there any good program for solving this issue?
Thanks in advance !
Thanks for your positive feedback and questions.
I’m sure there are good programs out there, but I don’t know of any because it hasn’t been a problem for me. The average guy will last for about 5-20 minutes with his woman, but can go for an hour or more if he exercises control, slows down intermittently and stops to switch positions if he feels he is about to finish. However, as long as the woman orgasms fairly regularly in a relationship, she will be very happy with her sex life with you. See: http://www.themodernman.com/dating/relationships/10_ways_to_make_her_reach_an_orgasm.html
A friend of mine had the same problem as you and was finishing too early. He told me that he learnt about exercising the PC muscle and that it helped him add another couple of minutes onto his efforts. Also, he tends to get a new woman to give him a BJ first and “finishes”. Then, after about 15-20 minutes he has sex with her and lasts longer than he normally would.
Also, you say that you don’t have much trouble getting girls to your bedroom, which is awesome. However, how much of a gap is there between you having sex with each woman? Guys in your situation would probably need to let off a bit of steam in between seeing their women.
Hey dan! Just want to say some things. Thank you for answering all these comments! It makes me feel like this is all legit and not some scamming site. BTW I bought Mastery Methods and Mindsets and HOLEY SH*T this material is STRAIGHT GOLD. Really. Im not yet where I want to be with women but this material is getting me there. I have read some books from other sites but they have not helped me like Mastery Methods and Mindsets have. I also bought “the flow” but have not read it yet.
It’s great to hear that you are on your way to becoming the man you want to be. Make sure you read The Flow!
Hi Dan I think I’ve might’ve seen somewhere you had a video or a topic on trying to date/hook up with a bartender. I started talking to this bar tender and i make her laugh a lot. She now textes me good morning etc, and have had lunch once. I asked her to be my date for my bday and she said yes. I’d like to see if you have more on the topic to attract her/ or what to do/not to do etc. Thank you
Thanks for your question.
Yes, I wrote an article about it here: http://www.themodernman.com/pick_up_female_bartenders.html
If you want to learn all the techniques, listen to the section on picking up female bartenders in 21 Great Ways to Get a Girlfriend.
I live next door to a girl that i really like … now my question is that i went and talked to her she says she will think about this… i left her for a whole week and she didn’t reply …. (sorry for the bad english) so this is the question … should i go to her or leave her alone and then she possibly reply
notice : i’m thinking of talking to her this week please i want an immediate help -advise … could you help me ??
Thanks for your question.
Women don’t feel attraction for desperate men. You are behaving in a desperate way by asking her if she likes you, then waiting for her to “think about it.” That is not the way to court a woman into a sexual relationship. When you do that, you make a woman play hard to get and she feels like she would be doing you a favor by being your girlfriend. You need to follow The Flow or she will continue to reject you.
Need your opinion on something. Listening to my female friends, and analising type of guys they are loosing their heads about, and also hearing some other cases from my male friends stories, i come to some conclusion which i dont understand at all !!! Best way to describe it is on some hypotetical example.
Imagine two twin brothers. They look exactly the same, so you cant tell one is more handsome then the other, their sense of humor and charisma are the same, their skills in bed are the same, so sex would be equally good whith both of them. There is only ONE BIG difference between them. First brother when meet a girl tell her or show that to her by his attitude that she is just a pussy for him and nothing more!
He doesent want to get to know her, he is not interested in her life, her hopes, dreams, ambitions etc. He just want to fuck her and thats it.
Second brother is opposite of first one. While he also wants sex whith this girl, and not hiding it, he wants to get to know her, he wants to connect with her on some level other than just physical. He is far from wuss, but he wants to be there for her if she had some troubles. He wants to be her sex partner, but at the same time someone she enjoys spending time with, with good sex she will also have good friend in him.
Between two of them second one should be a jack pot in every girls eyes, but again somehow that is not the case. Altought no girl will admit that, first brother ( who just want pussy and nothing more, and girl even know that she is only that to him ) is somehow in her eyes much more desirable than the second one, and by my ways of thinking that is faaar from normal !!! Any insights on that would be much appreciated.
Would you admit that generally we’re not going to feel THAT confident approaching women until we’ve had some tangible results?
I’ve read on here numerous times you saying that it is impossible not to feel confident if we use the confidence buliding system you guys have developed, how true is that?
I have not found it to be greatly effective which then makes me question if I have missed something important although I think I have understood the concept. Before I leave the house I write down every piece of worthwile evidence I have ever gotten in my life compliments, positive experiences etc which does help boost my confidence somewhat on the odd occasion but for the most part I can’t raise my confidence to the levels I hear you talk about is possible or other guys talking about, am I missing something?
Isn’t this in reality going to be a bit of a struggle like anything else you’re new at in life. Confusing, scary and uncertain but becomes easier as time goes on?
Yes, you are correct.
Think about it this way…
If a guy is afraid of water and terrified by the thought of jumping into the deep end of a swimming pool – he will NOT be cured of his fear until he actually tries it. However, if he has the right people around him, saying the right things, he will feel a lot more comfortable to at least give it a try. Then, if he has a good swimming teacher who guides him to take “small steps” first instead of “jumping in the deep end,” his confidence will build. Eventually, he will be swimming without a care in the world – he will feel confident and swimming will feel natural to him.
Hence why we refer to our confidence building system as a confidence BUILDING system. It’s not a confidence INSTANT system. That doesn’t exist. You need to go through a process to build confidence. We take you through that in Dating Power.
…and it works. Just check out the success stories all over this site. It always works and guys always end up being super confident when they use it properly.
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