Dan Bacon

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Dan Bacon

Name: Dan Bacon
Age: 33
Title: Founder and CEO, TheModernMan.com
Current Location: Los Angeles, California

Hi – It’s Dan Bacon and here is my story…

Basically, I’d gotten to a point in my life where I was sick and tired of not experiencing the kind of success with women that I wanted to. When I was in public places, I’d see other guys with a beautiful girlfriend on their arm and wonder, “Why can’t I get that? What is wrong with me?”

I usually spent my weekends alone or catching up with my one and only friend to talk and hang out. I wanted to meet women, but the idea of approaching and talking to women I didn’t know was something that made me feel very nervous because I didn’t know what to say and feared being rejected and losing even more confidence in myself.

I realized that I was going to have to do something about soon and face up to my fears, or I’d end up suffering even worse consequences such as: Becoming even more nervous around women, spending more time alone, not be loved by a woman and never becoming the man that I wanted to be around women. I decided to commit to going out to bars and clubs every weekend to approach until I overcame my fears and worked out the secrets to success with women.

Luckily, I met a new friend at the time who was willing to come along with me each weekend and approach women so he could learn and improve as well. I began keeping “notes” on all the things I was learning – mostly ways to start conversations and not feel nervous during the interaction. Apart from starting the conversation properly, I struggled to get any other results because I was being too nice and safe in my conversations and would usually run out of things to say pretty quickly. Eventually, after about 200 approaches I began to discover techniques that AUTOMATICALLY caused women to feel attraction for me and want to keep talking to me. I also started experimenting with using different types of cocky humor and sexual flirting and THAT is when I started to make some REAL progress.

Now that women were immediately becoming interested in me, all I needed to learn then was how to get a phone number, move in for a kiss, get a date or even sex that night. Months later (after a lot of trial and error and constant approaching every weekend), I began to work out the right words to say and the right moves to make, so a woman would give me her phone number and eagerly want to go on a date with me.

Fast forward 1.5 years and I’d achieved the type of success with women & dating that most guys only ever dream of. I was dating and having sex with beautiful women like it was the most natural and easy thing in the world. Best of all, I was being myself and women loved me for it. I didn’t have to put on an act, lie or use any tacky or weird “seduction” tricks to get women to like me. I was now an IMPROVED, more naturally attractive version of myself.

It was at this point that I stopped to take a look at all the notes I’d been keeping. I was amazed to discover that it was packed full of techniques, ideas, perspectives and strategies that most men were unaware of. These techniques were allowing me to stand out from all the other guys and have women quickly fall in love with me. In the past, all I could manage to do was get most women to like me as a person. This was different. Women were now attracted to me, liking me as a person and falling in love with me during the first conversation. It was such a cool feeling to get to this level.

Over the next year, I tidied up the notes I’d been keeping and put them into the format you can now read in my ebook called The Flow. To make sure the techniques in The Flow worked for other guys first, I passed the draft version of The Flow on to some friends (including Ben and Stu who are now a part of The Modern Man) and they were amazed. My friends who were struggling with women started using the techniques and immediately started dating and having sex with new women. Some of the guys quickly found girlfriends who – at the time of writing this – are still together in the relationships that they found.

As for Ben and Stu, they were already good with women by that point. Miraculously, we managed to find each other at a point where we were all enjoying easy success with women. I told Ben and Stu about what I’d discovered and how I wanted to share this information with other guys, by starting The Modern Man. They agreed and so it began.

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15 Responses to “Dan Bacon”

  1. Tyler Reply October 16, 2011 at 2:36 am

    Come to Athens, GA, USA and give me a Friday/Saturday lesson.

    Really enjoyed The Flow and The Modern Man Master Methods and Mindsets. Inner game is really the way to do it.

    • Dan Bacon Reply October 17, 2011 at 11:13 am

      Hi Tyler

      Thanks for your comment.

      That’s a great offer mate. I am hoping to be in the USA by late 2013 and I will be making announcements on the site closer to the date. I was recently living in Spain and am now in Thailand for a month and will then be heading back to Australia for the next couple of years. In the meantime, if you want to learn the techniques that we teach on courses – please watch Dating Power. It is 8 hours of mind-blowing video that includes inner and outer game techniques.

      Listen to this free clip to learn more about the Dating Power techniques and how we developed them.

      Cheers
      Dan

      • Tony Reply March 2, 2012 at 5:43 am

        agreed, in terms of dating advice, there is A LOT of junk on the internet in the USA. I was one of the lucky one’s to come across the modern man and discover the best secrets about being a man

  2. Tyler Reply October 17, 2011 at 11:58 pm

    Hello Dan,

    Looks like another great product which I will be purchasing very soon. High quality stuff you have here, chaparoo.

    Two questions I will pose to you.

    Do you consider each of your individual products enough for a man to become a natural? Could a guy take, let’s say, just The Flow and work his way toward mastery with just the advice you provide in that one product.

    Also, what movies do you enjoy and recommend watching that have actors which come off as genuine naturals who follow your dating Tao?

    All is well
    Tyler

    • Dan Bacon Reply October 18, 2011 at 4:03 pm

      Hey Tyler

      I loved the “all is well” reference from Mastery Methods & Mindsets. Such a calming mindset that one.

      Regarding your questions:

      1. Yes, I receive success stories all the time from guys who have only read The Flow. However, it depends entirely on what the guy needs to improve. Some guys need to improve less things and are closer to being natural than other guys, so they are able to learn The Flow techniques and use them to enjoy mastery level success immediately. Other guys need additional help to improve their conversation skills, confidence and attractiveness to women. BTW: Since you have already purchased Mastery and The Flow, feel free to contact me here and request a 50% off link for any additional product you want.

      2. Wow, that’s difficult to answer because the men are acting to a script and there are usually many minor flaws in their dating approach (thanks to the writers of the movie). So, I’ve never felt comfortable recommending any actor in any movie. However, we do wholeheartedly recommend Bill Rancic who is actually a real person, not an actor. That guy is one of very few men in the world who I can say is a role model for me. BTW: Have you tried the “Exaggerated Personality” technique (based on Hollywood actors) that we talked about in Mastery Methods & Mindsets?

      Cheers
      Dan

  3. Tyler Reply October 18, 2011 at 9:50 pm

    Ah, yes, your confidence building techniques were my favorite part of the Mastery Methods program. I had already applied a couple of them in my later teen years and I see how unbelievably effective they are in helping a guy step out of his comfort zone all while having a bit of fun.

    Just a short while ago I was reading an article by Psychology Today on battling low self-esteem. The article mentions a man named Albert Ellis who used the same technique as you and Ben to become a master of interacting with women!

    A quote from the article mentioned above:

    Some are brave enough to try “implosion”—tackling a challenge so intimidating that once you’ve made it through, your original goal no longer fazes you. Legendary psychologist Albert Ellis pioneered the “shame-attacking exercise” in 1933 at age 19, when he decided to approach every woman who sat down alone on a bench at the New York Botanical Garden. “Thirty walked away immediately,” he told the New York Times. “I talked with the other 100, for the first time in my life, no matter how anxious I was. Nobody vomited and ran away. Nobody called the cops.”

    And Ellis learned he wouldn’t die from rejection. Of the first 130 women he went up to, he got only one date, he said, but “with the second 100, I got good and made a few dates”—and, eventually, got to be “one of the best picker-uppers of women in the United States.”

    This, along with the occasional Exaggerated Personality technique (when I’m really in the mood for a good time), will be my strategy for learning to be more social with people, and I send The Modern Man team my deepest thanks for helping guys like me who were once paralyzed with an irrational mindset of fear to become more courageous and confident.

    Tyler

    • Dan Bacon Reply October 20, 2011 at 6:45 am

      Hey Tyler

      Actually, you need to be careful taking advice from psychologists who are not good with women. I had a client in Brisbane who had been going to a psychologist for 5 years. She told him to go out and use that approach and it made him worse. I coached him for two nights and he was cured. His psychologist then asked to meet me and we all met up at her expensive beach house and I explained the following:

      Telling a guy to assume that he will be rejected will not only make him avoid approaching because he doesn’t want to feel such a painful emotion, but it will also make him see the act of approaching as a bad thing. He will think that he will be annoying most women that he approaches, which is absolutely incorrect.

      After years of approaching, we (The Modern Man) discovered that women actually WANT TO BE APPROACHED. If a woman doesn’t get approached by men, she won’t have much of an opportunity to meet compatible men because, traditionally speaking, it is not the woman’s role to approach. Additionally, there is no such thing as being rejected when approaching. Instead, when a man approaches a woman he is giving both of them an OPPORTUNITY to see if they are COMPATIBLE. If they are not compatible with each other, neither has been “rejected.” Instead, they have simply met someone whom they are not compatible with in terms of a sexual/romantic relationship.

      So, by approaching women in any situation, you are doing both of you a favor. It is a good thing and women do welcome it, as long as the guy approaches correctly.

      Be careful who you listen to when it comes to confidence and success with women and dating. Most men are not highly-skilled at attracting and picking up women and instead “fumble” their way into relationships. Additionally, most women will never truly explain what they want in a man because they fear being judged in a negative way. This is why women almost always say, “I want a nice guy who cares” when they are asked what that want in a man. Yet, they then go for men are not so nice at all and barely care about them.

      Cheers
      Dan

  4. Tyler Reply October 21, 2011 at 12:42 am

    Hey Dan

    You really know what you’re talking about. I’ve purchased The Flow, Dating Power and the Mastery Methods and Mindsets and in the programs you have provided all a man really needs to know to attract and have a good time with women. I’m a bit of a natural and I’ve dated a few beautiful women before taking any advice from anyone, and you put many things that come naturally to me into words which express exactly what’s happening within the chemistry of the girl and me. You have also taken my knowledge of women to the next level and beyond.

    The thing that draws me in to your products the most is the social dynamics of it all. I don’t hang out with a group of cool guys like I use to back in high school and all of my friends right now happen to be girls. So, your coaching is guiding me toward becoming a happy, fulfilled alpha male who isn’t intimidated by other guys in the presence of women. Also, I’ll eventually have the confidence to approach small and large groups of people. But what I’m most excited about is the possibility that I can date a gorgeous girl I’ve been friends with for 5 years now. She says she’s not attracted to me but she always gives off the signals when we’re together so maybe things will get to the next level. =)

    Anyways, one more thing I want to ask. Is there any book or program concerning social dynamics outside of The Modern Man which you will whole-heartedly recommend to the layman interested in becoming more of a social guy with women AND men.

    Viva Modern Man
    Tyler

  5. Scott Reply January 5, 2012 at 10:43 am

    Hey Dan and team.
    Will you’s be conducting more modern man seminars in the next few years in other countries around the world? Especially the UK?
    Would be good to come along to one, i know you’ve held seminars in Australia a few year back, seen some of the excerpts from your site. I already have to date, The flow. 21 greats ways to get a girlfriend. And interview with a natural (Andrew).
    Please keep me posted on seminar dates, thanks.

    • Dan Bacon Reply January 6, 2012 at 7:55 am

      Hi Scott

      Thanks for your question.

      Possibly mate. I’m planning on moving to Brazil next year and may then go to California, New York and London to do a seminar tour. I’ll make an announcement if that will be happening. In the meantime, I am currently recording a bunch of new, mastery level video programs to be released mid 2012.

      Cheers
      Dan

  6. alex Reply March 8, 2012 at 11:36 am

    Hi Dan,

    Just wanted to say that you really have great confidence and body language. How did you develop this and any recommendations on books, products not just within the context of attracting women? Much appreciated.

    Alex

    • Dan Bacon Reply March 16, 2012 at 9:06 am

      Hi Alex

      Thanks for the compliment mate – much appreciated.

      Like you, I was thinking the same thing in the early days, “Which books should I read?” I went to a bookstore and found books on body language by Alan Pease, etc. However, none of the books were written by authors who were experts at attracting women…especially that Alan Pease guy – he is no ladies man let me tell you.

      Honestly mate, I practice what I teach here at The Modern Man and that is why I am confident and have great body language. If you want the success I have with women and the confidence I now naturally exude, you need to learn from our programs. All of the answers and solutions are in there.

      BTW: Your body language will naturally take of itself when you are truly confident. To build true confidence, you need to go through a process. We explain it in Dating Power.

      Cheers
      Dan

  7. Rytis Reply April 1, 2012 at 6:42 pm

    Hey Dan, just wanted to say that your material is great, I just starting digging in and learned alot already, now I’m starting to apply it bit by bit, so perhaps I can gain more confidence in my social life.

    I’m currently in a long-distance relationship, and having communication problems with my girl, She used to write me everyday, but now we barely talk, she barely flirts, before that we used to have alot of drama. She sometimes writes me each month to come over visit her, but usually talks cold on phone. Is it my fault that the time gap between talking more often has built?

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