Hey – it’s Dan here and this is my story…
A long time ago, I got lucky and hooked up with a girl at a party.
I was young and didn’t know what I was doing, but because we had both been drinking, we somehow started kissing and that then lead to us getting into a relationship.
A year and a half into the relationship, I had become very insecure, clingy and jealous and it was really turning her off. So, she went out with her sister and some friends, cheated on me and then dumped me over the phone the next day.
I was devastated.
I got dumped back in the time before the internet had people online who were helping each other out, so I was basically on my own.
Everyone in my life was just telling me to move on and that there were “plenty of fish in the sea.”
Yet, the problem was that the other fish in the sea didn’t want me.
Sure, I could get an unattractive woman interested (pretty much any guy can do that), but my ex and any other beautiful women that I was attracted to didn’t want anything to do with me.
I was stuck.
Over the next couple of years, I lost a lot of confidence in myself and began to think that I just wasn’t good enough for attractive women. It was a crappy stage of life to go through as a guy.
Eventually, I got to a point where I was sick and tired of missing out on sex, love and relationships with beautiful women. I’d had enough of being alone and thinking that I wasn’t good enough for women.
I’d see other guys with a beautiful girlfriend or wife on their arm and wonder, “Why can’t I get that? What is wrong with me? Why don’t women like me?”
I knew that I was a good guy and that I deserved better, but hot women just didn’t seem to value the traits that I had to offer.
I usually spent my weekends alone at home or catching up with my one and only friend to talk and hang out. I really wanted to meet women and get myself a girlfriend or at least have some sex, but the idea of approaching and talking to women I didn’t know was something that made me feel nervous.
I had no idea what to say to get beautiful women interested and I also feared being rejected.
I worried that if I approached women and got rejected, I’d lose even more confidence in myself and feel worse.
So, I hid behind my fears and remained alone.
Months and then years of my life wasted away, while everyone else around me was enjoying love, sex and relationships.
I tried to improve how I looked by getting fashionable clothes, expensive shoes and even going to tanning salons, but nothing that I did to myself physically made any real change to my situation with women.
Sure, hot women did begin to notice that I was dressing well, but when I tried to talk to them, the conversation would quickly become boring and I would run out of things to say.
Getting the attention of women isn’t the same as making them feel attracted to you when you interact with them. Nothing changed that fact that I simply didn’t know how to get beautiful women to feel attracted to me, so I eventually began to wonder whether there was actually something wrong with me.
Other guys seemed to be doing it so easily, so what was I missing?
Was I an odd, weird type of guy who simply had to stay alone or accept an unattractive woman?
Back then, I thought that might be true.
No matter how much I tried to fill up my life with other things (e.g. watching TV, going to the gym, talking to my friend, etc), there was always something HUGE missing in my life: A beautiful woman who loved me and wanted to be with me.
Despite working in a fairly good job, wearing good clothes and being a good guy, I had no options with women. They just weren’t interested in me in a sexual way. I couldn’t work it out.
The women that I knew at work or through coworkers were either unattractive or already in a relationship.
So, what was I going to do? Keep looking at porn for the rest of my life? Die alone like some unwanted loser?
I had to do something about it.
I had to work out what I was missing.
After years of depressing loneliness and feeling left out, I decided to face up to my fears and go out to bars and nightclubs every weekend to approach women until I worked out how to get beautiful women to feel attracted to me.
I was determined to work out how other normal guys were getting such hot girlfriends.
There had to be a simple secret that I was missing.
Around that time, I was lucky enough to meet a new friend who was willing to come along with me and approach women every weekend so he could learn and improve as well.
After a few weeks, I was able to start a conversation fairly well and get some initial interest for a minute or two, but I would then usually run out of things to say and then leave the interaction without getting a number or any other result.
Eventually (after about 200 approaches), I began to work out simple ways to get women to instantly feel attracted to me.
All of a sudden, hot women wanted to keep talking to me and were helping me to keep the conversation going with them. I also started experimenting with using different types of humor and flirting and that is when things really started to change for me.
Now that I’d reached the point where hot women were feeling attracted and were really enjoying interacting with me, I then began to work out how to get a phone number, how to move in for a kiss and how to get sex on the first night.
For the women who weren’t open to having sex on the first night, I worked out what to say and do to get them feeling eager to meet me for a first date and then have sex at the end of it.
I was having so much sex during the week and I had several hot women in my life at once.
It was so amazing that it was almost unreal at times.
I’d finish having sex with a hot woman and see her walk out of my bedroom naked, to go to the bathroom and I’d think, “Wow…I did it. I’m having sex with hotties. This is really happening now…and it’s not luck…it’s happening non stop.”
Fast forward 1.5 years later and I’d achieved the type of success with women that most guys only ever dream of.
I was dating and having sex with beautiful women like it was the most natural and easy thing in the world and they were calling ME up and wanting to see me all the time.
The best part about it all was that I was being myself and women were loving me for it. I didn’t have to put on an act, lie to women or use any tacky or weird “seduction” tricks to get women to like me.
I was getting results by simply displaying the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women. I was also using a completely different approach to conversation than most guys use with women…and it was working!
It was at this point that I stopped to take a look through all the notes that I’d been keeping at home.
I had pages and pages of notes detailing what I was saying to get women attracted to me, how I was dealing with challenging situations and how I was getting so many women to want to have sex with me.
The notebook that I had been making notes in was packed full of techniques, ideas, perspectives and strategies that most men were unaware of. These techniques were allowing me to stand out from all the other guys and make hot women fall in love with me and want to have sex with me almost immediately.
Over the next year, I cleaned up the notes and put them into the format you can now read in my ebook called The Flow. To make sure that the techniques in The Flow worked just as well for other guys, I gave a draft version of The Flow to some friends (including Ben and Stu who are now a part of The Modern Man) and they were amazed.
My friends who were struggling with women (not Ben and Stu – they were enjoying the same type of success with women as I was at that time) used the techniques and immediately began dating and having sex with new women.
Some of the guys quickly found girlfriends and are still in the same relationship with the same woman today as I write this.
As for Ben and Stu, they were already good with women by that point and had been enjoying the type of success with women that most guys think is impossible.
I told Ben and Stu about what I’d discovered and how I wanted to share this information with other guys by starting The Modern Man.
They agreed that it needed to be done and The Modern Man mission began.
Since then, we have helped 1,000s of guys to achieve success with women (view 100+ success stories here) and we would be honored to help you too.
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